Hypothetical relationship question

jackpotclown

I guess you'd have to look into why it is you don't want to call him that, because if you're not going to be with anyone else, but don't want to say boyfriend, I guess you'd say guy/man friend or something like that. Would it bother me? eventually yes, probably not at first, because everything's new

I just want you to know jackpot you are going to be the first person to lose to me in Words with Friends... how does that make you feel?


Sorry Jodi, off the subject

Well, you're the first person I'm actually playing in this game, so yeah I would expect it LOL....have I told you what's worse than a sore loser???? YOU :laugh:

Ohhhhhhhhhh I just let you know your place that is all!

On a side note, since we're going there.....Qi is a word? that's the cheapest thing I've ever seen

fiveferrels

if we are in the sack together we better be bf/gf unless we are swinging

hypotrochoid

I don't care for the label boyfriend- I always referred to them as my manbeasts.

Flippiefloppies

Well, you're the first person I'm actually playing in this game, so yeah I would expect it LOL....have I told you what's worse than a sore loser???? YOU :laugh:

Ohhhhhhhhhh I just let you know your place that is all!
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On a side note, since we're going there.....Qi is a word? that's the cheapest thing I've ever seen
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You would be surprised of the words which are actually words that do not really seem like words. Just wait. You will be shocked.

Flippiefloppies

I don't care for the label boyfriend- I always referred to them as my manbeasts.

Way to make them feel manly. lol. This made me laugh out loud!

felice03

I don't care for the label boyfriend- I always referred to them as my manbeasts.

I am adding this one to the list.

Bentley2718

I dislike the term "boyfriend" because it makes me feel like I'm 16. I mean, I'm pretty sure that if nothing else qualifies him as a man, those two deployments must have bumped him up into adult status. I used it for a lack of better terms (he's my husband now), but it irritated me. If the person acts like you're in a relationship, and treats you well, I wouldn't be too worried about the label. I would ask the person why they don't want the label, but other than that, I'd just go with it. It will make things socially difficult, how do you introduce him?

Flippiefloppies

Sometimes when Phil is thinking he is being funny and wants to embarrass me, he introduces me as his "roomate"...

felice03

I dislike the term "boyfriend" because it makes me feel like I'm 16. I mean, I'm pretty sure that if nothing else qualifies him as a man, those two deployments must have bumped him up into adult status. I used it for a lack of better terms (he's my husband now), but it irritated me. If the person acts like you're in a relationship, and treats you well, I wouldn't be too worried about the label. I would ask the person why they don't want the label, but other than that, I'd just go with it. It will make things socially difficult, how do you introduce him?

by his name...A few times when talking about him to someone that doesn't know him, its "the guy i am dating"...

Bentley2718

I would not be offended if I knew the relationship was exclusive and that eventually that title would come into play. I would say, fine, don't call me your girlfriend, but it's either that or "Lover".

I hate "lover" it squigs me out. Like when someone introduces you to someone, "And this is Bob, my lover." Somehow it feels like TMI, even though it's really not any different than boy/girlfriend, partner, etc.. I have a friend who will tell her plumber "my lover will be home when you get here." I feel like your plumber doesn't need to know that. My response is irrational (and slightly sex phobic, which is weird, since I am not), I know, but still there.

felice03

Sometimes when Phil is thinking he is being funny and wants to embarrass me, he introduces me as his "roomate"...

What?!?! Phil doing that...i just dont see it

treetop57

by his name...A few times when talking about him to someone that doesn't know him, its "the guy i am dating"...

Mom and Dad, meet TGIAD!

jackpotclown

Ok since we're stretching the imagination, and since the technological age has come so far, you could refer to him as your c*ck provider (like net provider, cell carrier, something to that tune)

jackpotclown

Well, you're the first person I'm actually playing in this game, so yeah I would expect it LOL....have I told you what's worse than a sore loser???? YOU :laugh:

Ohhhhhhhhhh I just let you know your place that is all!

On a side note, since we're going there.....Qi is a word? that's the cheapest thing I've ever seen
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You would be surprised of the words which are actually words that do not really seem like words. Just wait. You will be shocked.
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When you see some good ones, send them my way....ammo to use on others \m/

jackpotclown

by his name...A few times when talking about him to someone that doesn't know him, its "the guy i am dating"...

Mom and Dad, meet TGIAD!

Funnier if it was TGIAF \m/

felice03

Ok since we're stretching the imagination, and since the technological age has come so far, you could refer to him as your c*ck provider (like net provider, cell carrier, something to that tune)

lmao.

crisanderson27

Women love to be agreed with.

*Nods wisely*

xHelloQuincyx

i didnt want the lable when i began my current relationship. he tried for two months to get me to. eventually i realized i love this guy, and i wanted to be exclusive. i would say give it some time, if you really care about him be open with him.

LilRedRooster

I actually don't think it's that odd to not want that particular label.

I refer to my boyfriend only as "my boyfriend" because that's the best label I have for our situation. Do I like it? No. We live together, have a child, and are in a committed, long-term relationship more similar to a marriage. We're not married, and don't want to be. Technically, we're living in a "domestic partnership", and "boyfriend" sounds like a term for a high-school or college relationship that just sort of a fun, dating-type scenario.

But what else would I call him? My "significant other"? That still has a connotation that we're married, as I've found. "My partner" causes people to ask if I'm gay, which means I have to put energy into explaining something that shouldn't have to be explained in the first place.

Being one of those people who doesn't like those traditional labels, I wouldn't worry that much about it. But that's me. If you're that worried or put off, talk to him about it.

Jessamine

So, lets say "hypothetically" that I meet this guy...Funny, smart, treats me like gold, awesome in the sack. Then there is the conversation regarding relationship status. The result of said conversation is that both side are in for an exclusive relationship. However, the label of BF/GF for some reason weirds me out...But for him it means something (even though he is trying to say it doesn't). So, would you be worried/offended/indifferent if your "other" didn't want that label?? you know....hypothetically?

Yes, I would be concerned and offended if my "other" refused to take that label or status. It's important to me.

Before I met my wonderful husband, I was friends with another man who lived 1600 miles away. We had a platonic online/telephone/mail friendship. He came out to visit with me and my family twice. Labels were a HUUUUGE issue with him. He was scared of them for some reason, and would often remind me and anyone who'd ask that we were NOT boyfriend/girlfriend or dating, etc. We didn't behave like BF/GF or make any commitment to each other, but he would constantly talk about how wonderful a wife I would make, how he wanted to marry me in a few years, he said he wanted to kiss me, etc. He was incredibly confusing with all these mixed messages.

I was only 20 and pretty stupid, but I finally wised up and decided that I wanted a *real* relationship, and I was obviously not going to get that with him. (There were other aspects of his character that were red flags, too.) So I shared all of this with him and put an end to his confusing, crazy dance. He and I wanted different things.

He immediately started saying that I broke up with him. He told *everyone* this. My family, his family, friends... It infuriated me because he had been so adamant that we were "nothing." We never made any commitment to each other -- big or small. grrr!

I started dating my husband about a year later. The difference was night and day. My husband was thrilled to call me his gf. He'd sometimes forget to introduce me by my name. hehe :-) And it's still like that with "fiance" and "wife."

weighlossforbaby

You would introduce him to your friends and parents as your "boy companion"? Why is it strange to you to call him your boyfriend?

christine24t

If BF/GF sounds too juvenile,say something like "this is the guy I'm dating" "my significant other" etc.

treetop57

I refer to my boyfriend only as "my boyfriend" because that's the best label I have for our situation. Do I like it? No. We live together, have a child, and are in a committed, long-term relationship more similar to a marriage. We're not married, and don't want to be. Technically, we're living in a "domestic partnership", and "boyfriend" sounds like a term for a high-school or college relationship that just sort of a fun, dating-type scenario.

After we legally registered as domestic partners, I tried calling him my domesticated partner. He didn't find it nearly as funny as I did. Now I usually just opt for "husband," DOMA be damned.

La_Amazona

I agreed last night to date a guy and only him while we get to know each other. I've been talking to him for 2 weeks now. I'm not his gf (the term scares me as well) but I don't have interest in other guys since starting to talk to him and he told me it'd bother him because he'd be afraid I'd fall for the other guy I was seeing at the same time and hurt him.
I agreed.

The labeling is a bit foreign to me and when I think about it, it gives me anxiety honestly. I talked to someone about it yesterday and she told me not to relate being a gf to a long term committment. Maybe I'm scared (I'm divorced) and therefore need things to just naturally flow and grow instead of talking about every step we're taking. She said not to overanalyze. I think she's right. I think of being a gf as long term, serious, committment (which it can be), even marriage and for some reason those words make me nervous and paranoid.

So I'm taking things slow and at my pace. I'm talking but not overanalyzing. I'm also making sure I don't do things that will confuse me.

felice03

I agreed last night to date a guy and only him while we get to know each other. I've been talking to him for 2 weeks now. I'm not his gf (the term scares me as well) but I don't have interest in other guys since starting to talk to him and he told me it'd bother him because he'd be afraid I'd fall for the other guy I was seeing at the same time and hurt him.
I agreed.

The labeling is a bit foreign to me and when I think about it, it gives me anxiety honestly. I talked to someone about it yesterday and she told me not to relate being a gf to a long term committment. Maybe I'm scared (I'm divorced) and therefore need things to just naturally flow and grow instead of talking about every step we're taking. She said not to overanalyze. I think she's right. I think of being a gf as long term, serious, committment (which it can be), even marriage and for some reason those words make me nervous and paranoid.

So I'm taking things slow and at my pace. I'm talking but not overanalyzing. I'm also making sure I don't do things that will confuse me.

Thank you for this. This is it exactly. I am greatful he is understanding about it, but do realize his desire for me to be able to freely call him that. I do think with time it won't be an issue but until then I don't want to label something I'm not comfortable with.