Do you dislike people that are like you?

cannonsky

I've noticed that the more similar someone is to me so more they seem to annoy me.. Like right now my neighbor is blaring some music and I can hear it through my ceiling. I can often hear the music they play... and it's a very wide assortment of stuff... and my first reaction is always "wow my neighbor is weird".. .but when I think about it... If you go through my iTunes playlists you get a similar random assortment of music (my Top Rated list would probably scare you at times). So why am I so bothered by them?

This isn't really limited to music alone.. I've noticed this with other aspects of my personality.. Could it be because I loathe myself? haha

Does anyone else do this?

Karrix

We usually dislike those who have qualities we find negative in ourselves. It's like a mirror. With that being said, it takes a lot for me to dislike someone.

cannonsky

I guess I don't really dislike them... I just find a particular quality... off-putting? But none of the things I notice this with are things I dislike about myself.. On the contrary... I tend to love them.

catshark209

No. I've never met anyone quite like me other than someone on here named Auticus, but he's way more articulate than me. And I think he's awesome.

nnylee

Totally. I am pretty loud and abrasive in real life. When I meet people equally loud and abrasive, it's too much for me. It's a wonder how all my friends can tolerate me!! Haha.

ElizabethRoad

Yes, that's normal. Either you see your own flaws reflected, or it can feel like someone is usurping "your" role. Most people don't notice it - very perceptive of you. (To me, when I do notice it, the person no longer annoys me so much.)

By the way, I'm interested to know what kind of music you listen to that would scare me.

AABru

Never realized how annoying I was until I had children...who act. just. like. me. Nothing like getting corrected by a 5 year old. "Well, act-u-a-lly mama...":grumble: I understand why lions eat their young sometimes.

ChristineMarie89

i dislike people in general lol does tht count??

LilRedRooster

I had a band teacher in high school that I butted heads with all. The. Time. Constantly. He would be on my case, and we were just so incompatible. I chalked it up to him being ridiculous.

Few years down the road, I came back to help with the classes during my music major, and damn, he was basically a male version of me.

And don't even get me started on my boyfriend and his mother, and how they attack each other in the kitchen when she visits..

I don't think it's that you dislike people who are like you. But you can only take so much of your own personality thrown back at you, because after awhile, I think your brain craves something new.

dayswillpass

I hate anyone that's too much like me. It's weird. It doesn't matter if it's traits I like or dislike in myself, if someone else has them we're automatically worst enemies.
I don't understand why this happens, it just does. This is also why my fiance and I often get into heated arguments.

run4yourlife

Of course not....I like me :happy:

cmriverside

I love this topic. "It takes one to know one."

yepitsjen

Totally. I am pretty loud and abrasive in real life. When I meet people equally loud and abrasive, it's too much for me. It's a wonder how all my friends can tolerate me!! Haha.

You just described me. We would hate each other.

cannonsky

Yes, that's normal. Either you see your own flaws reflected, or it can feel like someone is usurping "your" role. Most people don't notice it - very perceptive of you. (To me, when I do notice it, the person no longer annoys me so much.)

By the way, I'm interested to know what kind of music you listen to that would scare me.

It's not that the music would scare you.. it's the odd combination.. and ok there might be a few embarrassing things on there

theartichoke

Never realized how annoying I was until I had children...who act. just. like. me. Nothing like getting corrected by a 5 year old. "Well, act-u-a-lly mama...":grumble: I understand why lions eat their young sometimes.

Oh good grief! "Why did you do that?" Awww damn...cause you're just like me, that's why. Too many of those to count.

PlunderBunneh

A bit, but I never really realized it until I read this thread and started thinking about it.
Mostly, I see traits in others and get paranoid that I'm that obnoxious.

zinok

I'd say you're not annoyed because you're similar to them, but because you have to endure hearing their music all the time. Even if my neighbours played my exact taste of music, I'd get sick of hearing it through the walls.

I generally like people who are similar to me, but then again, I quite like myself.

SaraTN

Sometimes but realizing that helps me recognize what it is in myself that I need to improve

zombiesama

If I found someone as weird as me I think it would be awesome!!

Airbear3

this may sound terrible...(not meant to) but YES! my daughtre, she's 7 and evry time i yell at her for something my husband will yell at me because i do the same things as her! we laugh about it though! it is funny ....wonder why that is????

Airbear3

i just posted the same thing kinda.....yours made me laugh more:0)

Never realized how annoying I was until I had children...who act. just. like. me. Nothing like getting corrected by a 5 year old. "Well, act-u-a-lly mama...":grumble: I understand why lions eat their young sometimes.

Oh good grief! "Why did you do that?" Awww damn...cause you're just like me, that's why. Too many of those to count.