Miserable

LenaMena87
LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
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Why are people so miserable and negative these days??? I'm a military wife and just spent a couple hours dealing with negativity for no reason!!!!!!!! Whyyyyyyyyyyy??? Why can't we all just be happy and grateful to have life!
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  • Teapotdomescam
    Teapotdomescam Posts: 156 Member
    There was a study done that said some people are just born happier!
    Science has nicknamed it the "Cuddle Chemical" :wink:
  • LenaMena87
    LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
    There was a study done that said some people are just born happier!
    Science has nicknamed it the "Cuddle Chemical" :wink:

    LOL I may have to look for this!
  • LenaMena87
    LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
    Wow I guess no one else is experiencing this!!!!!!
  • ejohndrow
    ejohndrow Posts: 1,399 Member
    To be fair I've pretty much been a grouchy ingrate my whole life. I'd definitely believe that study that was mentioned earlier.
  • ChristineMarie89
    ChristineMarie89 Posts: 1,079 Member
    ive been grouched at my whole life xD kinda hard to not be grouchy when ur being put down 24/7
  • sugarandspice27
    sugarandspice27 Posts: 521 Member
    Born happy? I think that's bull, no offense to the science. Being positive or being negative is a choice. Each moment we get to choose to be positive or negative. I choose to be positive and this serves me and those around me a whole lot better.
  • jaydubbayu
    jaydubbayu Posts: 456
    I'm positive about most things unless something really pushes my buttons... People seem to use these message boards to vent sometimes. And they're not there in person to hear anything back from anyone.
  • BIGJIMMYU
    BIGJIMMYU Posts: 1,221 Member
    Without negative people we wouldn't know how wonderful happiness is I guess!
  • antoniosmooth
    antoniosmooth Posts: 299 Member
    ive been grouched at my whole life xD kinda hard to not be grouchy when ur being put down 24/7

    That sounds so sad Christine nobody should have to live that way.
  • coconutbuNZ
    coconutbuNZ Posts: 578 Member
    You are sooooooooooo right.

    I guess people get a kick out of being negative sometimes. Complaining is their idea of fun. Everyone complains though, including myself, it's how much a person complains, for some it's all day every day. Being thankful helps to put us in a more positive frame of mind and makes us feel happier too :)
  • celia975
    celia975 Posts: 3 Member
    That's a good question. You would think some people earned a paycheck for being negative and mean because they seem to enjoy it so much.......GOSH!
  • LenaMena87
    LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
    Born happy? I think that's bull, no offense to the science. Being positive or being negative is a choice. Each moment we get to choose to be positive or negative. I choose to be positive and this serves me and those around me a whole lot better.

    I agree 100%
  • LenaMena87
    LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
    That's a good question. You would think some people earned a paycheck for being negative and mean because they seem to enjoy it so much.......GOSH!

    LOL you made me laugh and this is so true! It amazes me how far people go out of their way to be negative!
  • EmCarroll1990
    EmCarroll1990 Posts: 2,832 Member
    Without negative people we wouldn't know how wonderful happiness is I guess!

    This.
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    ive been grouched at my whole life xD kinda hard to not be grouchy when ur being put down 24/7

    this.

    though nowadays i am a LOT happier than i used to be.
    also, there could be medical conditions behind it which people have always feared to talk about in the past.
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    Why are people so miserable and negative these days??? I'm a military wife and just spent a couple hours dealing with negativity for no reason!!!!!!!! Whyyyyyyyyyyy??? Why can't we all just be happy and grateful to have life!

    Believe me, I feel the same way sometimes. Sure I get into crummy moods too but I get irritated with people who are constantly b*tching and moaning about something. And oftentimes the people who are the most negative are whining about something that, in grand scheme of things, isn't a big deal.

    This is the biggest reason I can't stand FB anymore. Too many people who say ridiculous crap like "Got a flat tire this morning. FML!" Its like, really, you got a flat tire so *kitten* your life? Be thankful for what you have like your health and your loved ones. Can't stand it. I honestly think some people NEED something to be miserable about. I'm not all sunshine and rainbows but I can't STAND people who b*tch about trivial things. People need to count their blessings.
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    I hate that FML thing with a passion. You get a FML pass ONLY when something majorly tragic happens. There are reasons behind everything you go through. Going through crap isnt nearly as bad if you do it with a smile on your face and a good attitude
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    "When people tell me they are happy, my *kitten* begins to twitch."
  • peachNpunkin
    peachNpunkin Posts: 1,010 Member
    Without negative people we wouldn't know how wonderful happiness is I guess!

    I totally agree.
  • feltlikesound
    feltlikesound Posts: 326 Member
    I am also an army wife who deals with everyone else's constant negativity -- I can relate ;).

    I don't think people can handle other people being happy, they find it uncomfortable versus their familiar zone of misery. But maybe that's just me being judgey, haha.
  • peachNpunkin
    peachNpunkin Posts: 1,010 Member
    I deal with negativity all the time too. I have actually had people tell me I am too happy. There is no reason to be unhappy. Life happens, roll with it. The only time you should be unhappy is when you lose a loved on or friend, your sick, or your dead. Otherwise, put on your big boy/girl panties and deal with it. If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, learn to adapt, but don't bring everyone around you down just because you are down.
  • peachNpunkin
    peachNpunkin Posts: 1,010 Member
    I am also an army wife who deals with everyone else's constant negativity -- I can relate ;).

    I don't think people can handle other people being happy, they find it uncomfortable versus their familiar zone of misery. But maybe that's just me being judgey, haha.

    No you're right, misery loves company.
  • vettle
    vettle Posts: 621 Member
    Born happy? I think that's bull, no offense to the science. Being positive or being negative is a choice. Each moment we get to choose to be positive or negative. I choose to be positive and this serves me and those around me a whole lot better.

    well, there is some truth to the born happy thing. I have seen babies that are just happier and easier to deal with and then others are just miserable and require a lot more attention. It takes a while to develop the personality to be positive or negative.
  • _Bob_
    _Bob_ Posts: 1,487 Member
    my in-lays are not able to feel happiness unless it come from belittling others. I think there entertaining but only in a Jerry Springer way :huh:
  • ElizabethRoad
    ElizabethRoad Posts: 5,138 Member
    Born happy? I think that's bull, no offense to the science. Being positive or being negative is a choice. Each moment we get to choose to be positive or negative. I choose to be positive and this serves me and those around me a whole lot better.
    You are a pretty small sample size, don't you think? Opinion < science.
  • annalee_1
    annalee_1 Posts: 235 Member
    I'm a happy person 99% of the time! I try to find good in the situation, and sometimes I can just have a bad moment but what a waste of time to be negative all the time or unhappy all the time! Happy feels good!
  • girlnumber57
    girlnumber57 Posts: 72
    I am a happy person most of the time, and almost always look at the bright side of things. I agree that we make the choice of being positive or negative in our day to day life.

    But, that being said, I have two young children, one is a positive happy child and the other IS NOT. I am trying really hard to teach the "I never have a good day" child to look at things differently and to react to them in a more positive light.

    So I do believe we are born with a disposition of being positive or negative. I do also believe as an adult we can change our natural disposition to a certain extent.
  • annalee_1
    annalee_1 Posts: 235 Member
    I am a happy person most of the time, and almost always look at the bright side of things. I agree that we make the choice of being positive or negative in our day to day life.

    But, that being said, I have two young children, one is a positive happy child and the other IS NOT. I am trying really hard to teach the "I never have a good day" child to look at things differently and to react to them in a more positive light.

    So I do believe we are born with a disposition of being positive or negative. I do also believe as an adult we can change our natural disposition to a certain extent.


    ^^^^this
  • MaraDiaz
    MaraDiaz Posts: 4,604 Member
    That's a good question. You would think some people earned a paycheck for being negative and mean because they seem to enjoy it so much.......GOSH!

    Where can I sign up for that job? I'll be stinkin rich! :happy:
  • LenaMena87
    LenaMena87 Posts: 469 Member
    Why are people so miserable and negative these days??? I'm a military wife and just spent a couple hours dealing with negativity for no reason!!!!!!!! Whyyyyyyyyyyy??? Why can't we all just be happy and grateful to have life!

    Believe me, I feel the same way sometimes. Sure I get into crummy moods too but I get irritated with people who are constantly b*tching and moaning about something. And oftentimes the people who are the most negative are whining about something that, in grand scheme of things, isn't a big deal.

    This is the biggest reason I can't stand FB anymore. Too many people who say ridiculous crap like "Got a flat tire this morning. FML!" Its like, really, you got a flat tire so *kitten* your life? Be thankful for what you have like your health and your loved ones. Can't stand it. I honestly think some people NEED something to be miserable about. I'm not all sunshine and rainbows but I can't STAND people who b*tch about trivial things. People need to count their blessings.

    Amen!!!!! You made me smile!

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