Just not that into you?

chatnel
chatnel Posts: 688 Member
edited December 17 in Chit-Chat
Advice please.

Went on an internet date on Thursday, went well and he text the next day saying he wants to take me out again on Wednesday. Wednesday comes and he bails saying he is sick and never locks in another day, that was almost two weeks ago. He still texting things like 'hey gergeous how are you' on daily basis.

He just not that into me? or shall I give him a chance?
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  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    i'm no expert but arrange another date if he bails then that's it? it seems like you're getting attached though so you're probably gonna get hurt if that happens
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Forget him and move on. If he has time to text you daily, then he would plan another date if he really wants it. Sounds like a bit of player based on the little information.
  • Toddrific
    Toddrific Posts: 1,114 Member
    Next!
  • wbgolden
    wbgolden Posts: 2,066 Member
    Forget him and move on. If he has time to text you daily, then he would plan another date if he really wants it. Sounds like a bit of player based on the little information.
    right.
  • GrEyedRose
    GrEyedRose Posts: 90 Member
    I agree, sounds like a player!

    I also agree, arrange another date and if he bails...bail on him!
  • ampa916
    ampa916 Posts: 189 Member
    yeah I agree, you can try to set up another day, but if he is thinking about you enough to text you then he should already have another date planned. It sounds to me like he is trying to keep you as "backup" in case something else doesn't pan out.
  • skierxjes
    skierxjes Posts: 926 Member
    Agreed. I give within 5 days to do a re-date. 2 weeks? Not going to happen.
  • Surisaddai
    Surisaddai Posts: 142 Member
    With the "hey gorgeous" texts he wants to keep you as an option while he checks out others as well. Go on more dates with other people and have fun. Don't be a guy's option.
  • chevy88grl
    chevy88grl Posts: 3,937 Member
    I think I'd give him one more chance. What about YOU approaching the 2nd date idea? In response to his daily texts .. ask him if he wants to get together one night. If he blows you off, MOVE ON. His actions will speak louder than his words and that is what counts.
  • ppkitten
    ppkitten Posts: 5
    been there, done that. Got hurt. The signs are there, only you can make that choice
  • Marper8521
    Marper8521 Posts: 158 Member
    Drop'em and move on!!!!
  • hillary124
    hillary124 Posts: 112
    With the "hey gorgeous" texts he wants to keep you as an option while he checks out others as well. Go on more dates with other people and have fun. Don't be a guy's option.

    This! I agree completely. Dont be an option. Find a guy whos worth it!!
  • kb455
    kb455 Posts: 679 Member
    I kinda think you should give him ONE more shot. I just don't see why he'd be texting you everyday and calling you gorgeous if he wasn't into you.
  • Classalete
    Classalete Posts: 464 Member
    With the "hey gorgeous" texts he wants to keep you as an option while he checks out others as well. Be a guy's option.

    LOL yesssmaam!

    It's nothing personal..that's just life...Better get used to it.
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Ask him directly about his plans for another date. If he still keeps quiet about it then I say you also do to him what he's doing to you (aka fooling him) while you go & enjoy yourself in the company of other people who deserve more your attention.
  • MissMaryMac33
    MissMaryMac33 Posts: 1,433 Member
    He's keeping you interested in case his other "better" options fall through.... sadly, this is extremely common -- and age doesn't matter, I get it all the time with men 40-50!
  • JadeRabbit08
    JadeRabbit08 Posts: 551 Member
    Forget him and move on. If he has time to text you daily, then he would plan another date if he really wants it. Sounds like a bit of player based on the little information.

    ^^Absolutely this. Who has time for luke warm people in dating? If someones actions indicate "meh" move on life is too short.
  • NU2U
    NU2U Posts: 659 Member
    No dates...but daily texts...ummmm, sounds to me like he doesn't want to "date" you....but wants you to be an occasional "BC" :noway:
  • chatnel
    chatnel Posts: 688 Member
    argh the joys of dating......play on player
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    Gut instinct? He's exploring other options, but wants to keep you as an option. And there wouldn't be anything wrong with that, because neither one of you made a commitment to be exclusive and there's nothing stopping you from seeing other guys, but it's cheesy and lame that he hasn't set up another date after bailing.

    If your date was really, really good, I'd give him one more chance and a message saying, "So when are we going to reschedule our date? If you're not over your bug by now, you should contact the CDC." :wink:
  • lyncupit
    lyncupit Posts: 1
    some guys like to have girls hanging on to feed their egos, are needy
  • grannygethealthy1111
    grannygethealthy1111 Posts: 422
    He sounds married or attached to me. Don't waste your time on someone who SAYS one thing and his actions say something else.
  • prettygirlhoward
    prettygirlhoward Posts: 338 Member
    With the "hey gorgeous" texts he wants to keep you as an option while he checks out others as well. Go on more dates with other people and have fun. Don't be a guy's option.

    This! I agree completely. Dont be an option. Find a guy whos worth it!!

    ^^^ this!
  • luvmycandies
    luvmycandies Posts: 489 Member
    If he doesnt schedule another date....move along. Or next date he asks you on, dont be so available. Also dont answer the texts right away. Keep em waiting awhile. But if he was really into you, he would've gone on date even if sick. Most guys dont care if they have the ebola virus if they like you enough. Sorry. Im sure there are lots of people on dating site who would be lucky to have you! I met mine on there! :flowerforyou:
  • Awkward30
    Awkward30 Posts: 1,927 Member
    Next!
  • doinitforme2012
    doinitforme2012 Posts: 98 Member
    i say ditch him to the curb!
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    If he's not trying to see you, he's not into you. One phone call to reschedule the date he bailed on means more than a million "Hey gorgeous" texts that he could be sending to 20 different women, for all you know. He made it obvious he wasn't interested in the first chance. Why bother giving him another one? Move on.
  • FriendsR4EverTreasures
    FriendsR4EverTreasures Posts: 179 Member
    Are you responding to his text messages? If so, STOP! Silence usually sways one way or another (he will either get serious and ask to see you OR you will never hear from him again!). Tell yourself you are better than that!!! MOVE ON
  • chatnel
    chatnel Posts: 688 Member
    thanks everyone, this is just what I needed. I am a bit naive when it comes to dating. I won't be replying to his texts anymore.
  • cufirst84
    cufirst84 Posts: 127 Member
    Do you want to see him? is so make a date...but im guessing if he's been able to text ya, he would have popped a date out by now...sounds like a player waiting out his bookings !!!
    I woudl say ....SEE YA !
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