negative comments from strangers :(

sampa91

I hve always been a liftle bit bigger than all my friends growing up and it always bothered me but I hoped that I would oneday lose the 'baby fat' ha nope but that didn't happen. That's why I'm here now!

Anyway I used to LOVE swimming and I would always be at the pool on weekends/after school and I was always in the top group coming first and second in swimming carnivals, it was something I was good at and thought I would be doing for the rest of my life! Anyway I can remember when I was about 14 I was about to start a race (that I was confident I would place in) when a girl from another school deliberately walked past me and said, and I quoate "fat cow, you won't win" it hurt so bad! And she was right, I didn't win, I didn't even get in the pool to race! I just went and got changed. And didn't really get back in the pool in public ever since then, until late last year when I finally felt confident enough to wear a bathers in a public place again. At that age was when i went through a baggy oversized clothes wearing stage to hide my body what that girl said really hurt because it was targeting something I loved and was good at! I still feel upset just thinking/typing it right now

Has anyone else had any type of experience like that? How did you overcome it and how long did it take?

KCoolBeanz

Sometimes people are jerks, and they say garbage like that to make themselves feel better.

I think the only way to overcome something like that, is to work on building confidence in yourself :-) Of course do things that you know you're good at, and that you enjoy, but also try new things. The feeling of accomplishment is second to none, and it's kind of addictive!

LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo

I understand where you came from, those comments can leave scars on our self-esteem. I had more than that share of bad experiences & I was even discriminated not just for my weight but more importantly to my overall personality. However my advice is ignore it & don't let it get into you. Probably that girl is just jealous or has her own issues & just trying to make herself feel better by putting you down.

Natx83

katydid25

I danced for 10 years up until I graduated high school. That's a demographic that just screams rude comments, especially when I was the only one wearing a size L uniform. But I was good. Really good. I was always put in the front row because of it, which caused most of the comments. They were typically from other teams at competitions loudly wondering how we thought we'd do well "with the cow front and center." Things like that.

I guess the older I got, the more I realized a lot of that stems from jealousy. Someone truely happy with themselves and their lives dont have the energy or the need to put someone else down. I'm sorry you've had to deal with those experiences, but I think in the long run they make US better, happier people. They teach us what not to do in life.

sampa91

ahahahahaah! If it was today that someone said it to me and there was a chair or any type of heavy/blunt/powerful object near me THIS would happen !!

Changing__Christina

Some people treat others terribly because it makes them feel better about themselves. It is a horrible feeling (I was made fun of and treated badly when I was young). I say, that you need to accept that people are mean and rude and can be cold hearted *kitten*. Just make what they say into a positive. I know that I use my lessons to teach my teenage daughter (who is skinny, beautiful and perfect) to be kind and sensitive to other girls who have different types of bodies. That it is hurtful and life changing to hear things like that. I just try to make her conscious of the things she says about people so she realizes that what she says can change the core of who a person is. It sucks, but its true...

If it helps, I think you are gorgeous! I'd be rocking out a swim suit if I were you!!!

abberbabber

I danced for 10 years up until I graduated high school. That's a demographic that just screams rude comments, especially when I was the only one wearing a size L uniform. But I was good. Really good. I was always put in the front row because of it, which caused most of the comments. They were typically from other teams at competitions loudly wondering how we thought we'd do well "with the cow front and center." Things like that.

I guess the older I got, the more I realized a lot of that stems from jealousy. Someone truely happy with themselves and their lives dont have the energy or the need to put someone else down. I'm sorry you've had to deal with those experiences, but I think in the long run they make US better, happier people. They teach us what not to do in life.

I was the same way. People would make comments until they saw me dance...and then they realized why I was up on the stage

I think a lot of it does stem from insecurities and jealousy in others, but I also think some people are just jerks. A couple of years ago I was walking to my apt and passed a group of kids who all started making "moo" noises as I walked by. I didn't react then, but I went home and basically cried myself to sleep. I honestly don't know what it is that makes some people think they can/should say things like that to people.

londanfudd4eva

u must be kinda tall because i looked at your profile pics and u look good already . do u still weigh 177? it doent look like it at all

DieVixen

Ive never cared what people I dont even know think of me

sampa91

u must be kinda tall because i looked at your profile pics and u look good already . do u still weigh 177? it doent look like it at all

I am 178cm tall but most of my weight is in my bum and leg area which you can't really see haha but thanks