The New Rules of Lifting for Women Results

I had a NSV yesterday for the first time. I have been following the book pretty well. I do my best to eat well and eat all my calories each day. MFP says I should eat 1500 to maintain my weight and 1200 to drop weight. The book says 1880 on rest days and 2010 on lifting days. I don't think I need to drop weight seeing as I only weigh 104lbs but I do need to tone up majorly. I also decided that I would like to be strong. I am a woman who works with children everyday and I want to be able to pick them up if they need me to.

My NSV was yesterday at the gym I dead lifted 115lbs (more than my weight!!) not only once, but for THREEE SETS at 7 -8-7!!
So what I am saying is that I am feeling really strong but I cant quite see the difference in my 'problem areas' mainly my stomach :/

here are my stats-- maybe to help you understand me a little

SW: 108
CW:104
GW: 100?
HT: 4'11"
Female


I need a little encouragement and maybe some advice on how to see the difference or what I am doing wrong. I sometimes think that 1880 on rest days is just TOO much for me to eat!

Please post pictures of your success or just leave some words of advice :)

Thank you!!!