Winning the breakup

nguill6

Okay, no more of this plateau stuff! It's time to seriously kick it up a notch! Yesterday I saw my ex (who I'm STILL not over) and he looked great :grumble:. He's working at a bar and I guess that motivated him to lose the 'couples weight'. I know that the only way I can win this breakup is to get my *kitten* into gear and reclaim my confidence! I needed to post this to be held accountable, and also if anyone has any good "winning the breakup advice". I know it sounds silly but I think we all know that when people break up someone always wins and someone always loses...

MTGirl

Wow. Now I know I'm old! There never used to be such a thing as "winning the breakup". :flowerforyou: You go girl - anything for motivation :drinker: You'll be so :smokin: he won't know how to handle it.

FINALLY4ME

hahahaha you're funny! I like that one!

many moons ago....I did hear of such a thing....

its the best motivation I tell ya....make him eat his heart out baby! just picture yourself walking into said bar looking 10x's hotter than he is....make that 100x's I just saw your av:flowerforyou: .....give him heck!:drinker:

songbyrdsweet

I think both people lose.

Make sure you learn something about yourself...I think that's more valuable than trying to make someone else feel bad about not being with you. Just my .02.

kandyjo

Well....I would suggest that you keep YOU as the big picture. Do this for YOU!!!
The great benefits will be that he will realize what he lost and you can rub that in his face :laugh: BUT seriously...do this for you. There are way more "fish in the sea" so to speak. I know it is really hard when you have feelings for someone and it is way easier for someone to say this to you who is not the one experiencing the emotions, but let him go. Wish him the best. Close that chapter in your life and move on. You will be healthier and happier for it. AND...that Mr. Right will come along for you sooner than later...and you will be in a good place emotionally and phychologically to go into another relationship!
Good luck!!

ninaellis

I have been there!!!
You win by taking time to take good care of yourself & doing it for you! You will regain your confidence I promise!!
When I was with my ex I stopped taking proper care of myself & let things slide a little:embarassed:

But then I lost weight, had my hair done, bought some new clothes & started living again. I got lots more friendly attention when I went out as I was confident in myself & the way I looked, which all in turn made me even more confident.

Just take the time, & surround yourslef with people who love you, wether that's family or girlfriends & have a good time.
It may seem like he's winning at the moment, but you could turn it into a win win situation xxx
Just enjoy being you for a while :flowerforyou:

AliceLMS

You only win in this situation if you are leaving behind something, or someone so superficial and negative that the break up is a blessing. Relationships present or past are not competitions. If he's your ex-whatever leave him where he belongs; in your past, and move on.

Why try so hard to make yourself or others unhappy?

onefatboy

Well I am a guy having a real hard time with the "break up" . She wanted younger/skinner, but I have lost 34 pounds. Guess I'll keep trying, but don't think I am gonna win anything! Good luck to you.

ninaellis

Well I am a guy having a real hard time with the "break up" . She wanted younger/skinner, but I have lost 34 pounds. Guess I'll keep trying, but don't think I am gonna win anything! Good luck to you.

If all she's bothered about is your age & appearance then she's not worth it!:noway:

You deserve someone lovely who will love you for who you are!! Chin up