Negative Comments Towards the End

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It's so funny how you've been working hard, you've lost about 90% of your weight and you're only around 20, 15, 10, or 5 pounds to your goal and suddenly everyone's positive nice comments about your weight loss become negative and worrisome because maybe you've got an eating disorder. What?

I was at work today (I wasn't working per se, I was just hanging out there at that moment), when an old teacher of mine told me: "From a mother's view, I have to tell you this. Don't lose anymore weight! I don't want you getting anorexic."

What? Now, she's not the first person to tell me this. I've been told this by between 5-10 people and I've noticed a pattern. I don't mean this as a mean comment, I really don't. I mean this as an observation. These people that tell me to stop or ask me if I have an eating disorder are all over the age of 40 or 50 and are typically parents. Furthermore, most are women. I've only gotten one comment from a man asking me if I was bulimic and that was my father.

I don't understand this. I eat plenty. I net at least 1500 calories a day but eat more than that since I work out. For instance, I'll be eating around 1950 calories today since I burned 450 calories. I keep an eye on my weekly calories and don't allow myself to under eat by more than 4000 calories a week. I try to keep it to 3500 and I'm thinking about decreasing it to 3000 soon. I eat all the time though. Not calorie rich things but cereals, fruits, vegetables. I try to keep it as balanced as I can for a college student.

I understand they're saying it because they care about me and I appreciate that but I'm 5'10.5 and I weigh 155 pounds. I'm mainly toning up now so although I'd love to eventually see 145 on the scale, I don't really care if I don't. Furthermore, I'm not considered underweight until I hit the low 130's which I don't want to get to and probably couldn't anyway since I'm medium framed and have muscle.

I used to explain all of this to some of the people but I've realized it's better just to say a phrase or two to make them feel better and then do what I want anyway. I mean us young adults are known for not listening to our elders anyway right? :blushing:

AllTehBeers

It sounds like you have a healthy relationship with eating and exercise. With toning up, you may not see the scale move but you'll see more definition and inches going away. I think people just get use to seeing someone overweight and when they finally decide to become healthy, people aren't sure how to process what you look like at a healthy weight.

Congrats on your weight success! Keep doing what you're doing with eating right and exercising and eventually people will see that you've become healthy, not developed an ED.