Men - whats the best way to....

iwantniceabs
iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
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Men - what is the best way for a woman to show you that she is interested?? There is a guy at my boxing gym and I'm pretty sure he's interested in me, and want him to know I'm interested in him, without being too forward - I like to be pursued :)

Help me out?!?!
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  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    hi, my name is .... if a girl says that and doesn't try to offer to sell something then she's interested
  • MrEmoticon
    MrEmoticon Posts: 275 Member
    Yea, we're easy. Say hi, and act like you're interested in what he says.
  • StarvingKyy
    StarvingKyy Posts: 88 Member
    Get in the friends zone with him : )
    Make HIM be the one to break the ice.
    When he tries to get into the More Than Friends Zone, don't reject him.
    He'll know you're interested then :D
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    Its interesting the difference in responses between the two guys and the one chick. THe dues have it right. ALmost every guy thinks a woman is into him if she says hi....and they are right 58% of the time!
  • Farfourah
    Farfourah Posts: 896 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    Hahah - okay, I should give a little more detail. We are already "friends". Since it's a boxing team, we see eachother 3 or 4 times a week, and sometimes will text about random things - but I want HIM to ask ME out :) How do I get that going? Pinch his butt? haha - I am sooo not good at this.

    thanks for the responses!!
  • DesignGuy
    DesignGuy Posts: 457 Member
    Yea, we're easy. Say hi, and act like you're interested in what he says.

    This.
  • iwantniceabs
    iwantniceabs Posts: 357 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.

    My face is bright red and I'm laughing out loud. Yeeeah, that's not gonna happen...but thanks for the laugh!!
  • dusty8907
    dusty8907 Posts: 350 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.

    Best advice ever
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Get in the friends zone with him : )
    Make HIM be the one to break the ice.
    When he tries to get into the More Than Friends Zone, don't reject him.
    He'll know you're interested then :D

    Brutal! You gotta friend zone him first? He may never return. :P
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.

    This is my preferred answer. A woman that looked like you, that did that...would own me for life.
  • sktllmdrhmz
    sktllmdrhmz Posts: 1,799 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.

    I see how it is. Direct approach, huh?
  • willy0524
    willy0524 Posts: 1,897
    Men - what is the best way for a woman to show you that she is interested?? There is a guy at my boxing gym and I'm pretty sure he's interested in me, and want him to know I'm interested in him, without being too forward - I like to be pursued :)

    Help me out?!?!
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    Ask him if he wants to spar, if you knock him out your golden.:drinker:
  • DesignGuy
    DesignGuy Posts: 457 Member
    Hahah - okay, I should give a little more detail. We are already "friends". Since it's a boxing team, we see eachother 3 or 4 times a week, and sometimes will text about random things - but I want HIM to ask ME out :) How do I get that going? Pinch his butt? haha - I am sooo not good at this.

    thanks for the responses!!

    So how about you just ask him out to coffee or something?

    Maybe since he thinks you guys are just friends, he's put you on the back burner and has focused his attention elsewhere.

    Other than that, compliment him perhaps, smile a lot, or just club him over the head since he's way too slow in picking up signals.
  • saraann4
    saraann4 Posts: 1,296 Member
    Not a man, but I have to bite. Talk to him. When you do talk to him, FLIRT! The most subtle things will let his brain know you are interested in him. Touch his arm, ask him how to do something, laugh, tuck your hair behind your ear, smile, and it could go on and on. I think the most important thing is to just talk to him. Good luck!
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Grab him by his crotch, and tell him he belongs to you now.

    This is my preferred answer. A woman that looked like you, that did that...would own me for life.

    Somehow, my 'more seriously' portion didn't post.

    So.

    More seriously...I've seen some of your posts, you seem to be a sweet girl. Clearly, unless you have a face like mine, you're attractive. Are you very shy? Is he gay? Or married? Or in a relationship? Because if we worked out at the same boxing club, and you'd shown ANY interest (including saying hi, on your own)...I'd have already respectfully approached you about seeing a movie, dinner, or going to do something else that I might think you'd find interesting.
  • Scott613
    Scott613 Posts: 2,317 Member
    Tell him "do you want this" then show him how you can touch your forehead to your knees
  • warmachinejt
    warmachinejt Posts: 2,162 Member
    yea if you went to him already and he hasn't put a move on you i'd say he's not into you like you want to think he is
  • MrLeeParker
    MrLeeParker Posts: 49
    Hahah - okay, I should give a little more detail. We are already "friends". Since it's a boxing team, we see each other 3 or 4 times a week, and sometimes will text about random things - but I want HIM to ask ME out :) How do I get that going? Pinch his butt? haha - I am sooo not good at this.

    thanks for the responses!!

    Corner him and promise you won't treat his *kitten* like a speed bag if he takes you out to a swanky restaurant.

    Just kidding.

    Make physical contact, like patting him on the shoulder or a playful shove when he takes an innocent dig at you. Also, eye contact and a smile go a long way.
  • quink77
    quink77 Posts: 87 Member
    I'm SOOO in the same boat at you. It's nerve-wracking to be single again. I think there's a fine line between looking interested and being a crazy women stalker....
  • FlyEaglesGuy
    FlyEaglesGuy Posts: 436 Member
    Smile a couple of times, then afterwards just say hi how are you in passing.

    The next time he see you if he says hi then he is interested!

    Men are very easy if we are interested.
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    Why do u want him to ask you out? Do u realize the pressure that is on men. Based on your pic your are pretty freaking attractive, which has to make it even more challenging scary for him.

    Or

    He's gay
  • iam_thatdude
    iam_thatdude Posts: 1,266 Member
    I'm SOOO in the same boat at you. It's nerve-wracking to be single again. I think there's a fine line between looking interested and being a crazy women stalker....

    Becareful on the edge there
  • StarvingKyy
    StarvingKyy Posts: 88 Member
    When I like a guy and I want to tell him and I catch him looking at me, I'll give him a nice big smile. Nothing sexy like the JWow smile (basically every time she parts her lips and shows her teeth all i can think of that is going through her mind is 'i want to have sex with everybody'). Just give him a nice smile : ) gives him confidence : )
  • MrLeeParker
    MrLeeParker Posts: 49
    It is the 21st Century. Have you considered asking him out? Unless he's gay or secretly married I really wouldn't think he'd shoot you down.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    I'm SOOO in the same boat at you. It's nerve-wracking to be single again. I think there's a fine line between looking interested and being a crazy women stalker....

    See, you guys don't realize that men have an edge they have to walk too. Meeting a girl who hasn't shown DIRECT interest without being flat out introduced is difficult. Todays world has turned men who approach women into possible stalker/serial killers.

    We've got a better chance on the freaking internet, seriously.

    For me though, I've come to the conclusion that if she is going to believe I'm that dude, and won't even give me a chance to prove otherwise...she's not my type anyhow.

    Which is why I'd just ask...either of you.

    But it would be nice if you let me know you might be willing, first.
  • crisanderson27
    crisanderson27 Posts: 5,343 Member
    Also, you only become 'crazy woman stalker' if he politely declines, or otherwise backs out...and you pursue anyhow. Just asking if he's busy this Friday is polite and shows interest.
  • neverstray
    neverstray Posts: 3,845 Member
    Already in the friend zone. Yikes!

    Either, you are really hot and he thinks there's no way. Or, he just is not interested, even if you are hot.

    I think an easy way to break the ice is to mention a concert coming up or something happening, that you'd like to do, but don't have any one to go with. I'd totally take that bait. You don't have to ask him out, just make it more conversational, and if he does take the bait, just laugh, and say, "oh, I didn't mean it that way, but yeah, ok, let's go". Make sure to clarify that it's a date because you need to swipe that friend BS out of the way. I don't know your personality type, but there is a jovial way to say, "sooooo, it a date?" and see how he reacts. You kind of have to take it from there.

    Let me know how it works out.
  • quink77
    quink77 Posts: 87 Member
    I try really really hard to stay away from that edge! I pride myself on NOT being a typical bat**** crazy woman. I don't over-analyze, I'm not jealous and I believe in total honesty.

    But being in this situation makes me feel like I'm in high school again. Blah..... I guess I'll just have to dig deep and find a bit of ballsy and ask him!
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    I'm SOOO in the same boat at you. It's nerve-wracking to be single again. I think there's a fine line between looking interested and being a crazy women stalker....

    See, you guys don't realize that men have an edge they have to walk too. Meeting a girl who hasn't shown DIRECT interest without being flat out introduced is difficult. Todays world has turned men who approach women into possible stalker/serial killers.

    We've got a better chance on the freaking internet, seriously.

    For me though, I've come to the conclusion that if she is going to believe I'm that dude, and won't even give me a chance to prove otherwise...she's not my type anyhow.

    Which is why I'd just ask...either of you.

    But it would be nice if you let me know you might be willing, first.

    Sir, you are a wise man..

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