Weight loss sabotage- do you hide your eating?

xarla16

I will soon be going back to university and I know the type of comments that are going to come from my classmates (my class consists of 38 women and 1 man).I have lost 17lbs since I saw any of them 4 months ago, but my goal is to lose another 19 lbs. I know that even if I don't tell them I'm trying to lose weight, they are going to make comments about my small portion sizes as my time at school is very busy and we normally end up eating at least one meal a day together. I know this might sound rather negative, as it hasn't even started yet, but I know these people very well. I can almost hear the comments about me weighing out my portions echoing in my ears already.

Do you have to deal with people in your daily routine, making comments that you make you feel bad about losing weight? Do you ever feel like hiding the fact that you're losing weight?

becca183

dont' EVER feel bad or embarassed about trying to get healthy!! if you have a thick skin, then just state that this is the way it is and this is your goal and you'd appreciate it if they would help out and not make rude comments!! if you don't have a thick skin, then i would just not eat that meal with them. focus on your goal and get rid of everything that is making you stumble...especially negative thoughts and rude people! good luck!:flowerforyou:

slrrese

I am sorry that your friends/classmates are like that. My husband is very supportive but he does comment sometimes that I go "overboard" on counting calories. I don't care, I just ignore anyone who says something contrary to what I am trying to do and do what I want. In the end, you live with your choices, your health and your body so YOU are the only one who knows and can commit to what you want for yourself. You can do it weather they support you or not if it is something that you really want and are committed to. YOU CAN DO IT!!

neverstray

I don't ever come across that. Maybe it's beach living, where everyone want to be in their bathing suit, so it's just kind of understood that were all kind of watching it.

Why would people say things like that? I don't get it.

MostlyWater

Despite the fact that I'm pretty open, doesn't mean that everything is game all the time. I get you.

jak2315

Quite frankly, it's NONE of their business. You do what makes you feel good about yourself. If you need to weigh or measure out your food, then do it. If they are your friends, they'll support you.

Abells

YOu pry already look awesome and I think they might compliment you to your surprise. Keep doing what you are doing and if they comment so be it! you are better than that and doing this for yourself not them

steflbrown

I understand this completely. My co-workers think I'm crazy for being so careful about my calories. I bring a lunch every day and I have everything sized out in portions. They always say I'm not eating enough - but my lunch is my biggest meal of the day! I always feel pleasantly full after lunch and don't usually crave any snacks until dinner. They always tease me because right after eating I immediately come and long my calories. They now have attempted to lock me out of my office or computer to make me stop. I don't understand their actions because I am doing this to make me healthy. And I feel better. So I just keep on doing it - because regardless of what they do, I know that I'm doing this for me!

Chelle_Davis

Quite frankly, it's NONE of their business. You do what makes you feel good about yourself. If you need to weigh or measure out your food, then do it. If they are your friends, they'll support you.

This!!!

lizard053

I hide my eating, but only when I'm eating poorly! LOL.

I have friends tell me I need to eat more, but my response is usually that I can't eat anything other than what I have because of my food allergy! I really do have a food allergy, but I'm sure it would work anyway! :bigsmile: I only just found out that I have a food allergy, so people are being very patient with me while I figure out what I can and can't eat.

Don't let them bother you. And more importantly, don't imagine what they'll say. You'll only make yourself stressed! Just do it, and if anyone says something you tell them you're trying to get an accurate accounting of everything you eat and drink! They don't have to know why.

gin_gin

I didnt tell my mother I was dieting last time I sat down at the table to eat with her she said it looked like I had put on weight
and then when someone told her I was dieting she's like why you wanna do that for so......

just don't worry what everyone else thinks you're doing this for yourself not them they dont like it because
you're portioning your food then can look the other way

mayerel

That's tough!! I would hope most friends and family would be supportive of our efforts, but alas, I know they often are not. My husband is great, until he wants to go out for dinner to the Fry-fest!

I would politely tell them thanks for their comments but you're doing what is best for you, they can support it or not, it's their choice, but you've made yours!

Great job on losing 17 lbs!!

waffleflavoredtea

just tell them you are trying to eat small amounts but much more often! Tell them you feel more energized that way or whatever. Women can get pretty aggressive when they've learned you've lost weight and they haven't. Try to keep the topic off weight, and don't mention that you want to lose more, maybe just say you are working on building muscle. You need to find things to focus on about them, in conversations, to take the topic off the ol' "have you been eating" thing. lol people can be so rude about weight, just keep it light and don't elaborate too much (I know it's hard not to when your focus has been on it consistently)

tat2dmrsgrimm

I ignore it. My husband, our kids and my parents all live together. I measure out my portions. I usually eat like HALF of my protein and then my vegetables, then maybe some of whatever carbohydrate I served then back to my meat. A lot of times I am leaving food behind and I get very excited to be full and not have cleaned my plate. My mother makes fun of me which is irritating since she is trying to lose weight as well!

RobinvdM

My mother gets down on me about that, actually. She finds my weighing food 'obsessive' and silly that I log my food. However, she can't find a lot to complain about since I hit the "lost 55 lbs" mark. I have actually found myself justifying to other ppl that I am watching my weight and feel defensive about their perception of the fat chick who is eating 5 times a day. All I can tell you is that 1- dont be ashamed, embarrassed, or upset at your peers opinion of you and what you are doing to control your food intake in that amazing effort to lose weight. Chin up, and remind yourself that you aren't doing it for their approval (or disapproval, for that matter.) You are doing this for you. If they have nothing positive to say, or rather nothing except negative remarks to share - then avoid them. You do not have to justify yourself to them, who knows maybe you will find they are doing the same things you are and feeling just as scared or isolated. (Maybe not, but who knows?)

During a recent hospital stay I discovered a couple of the nurses used MFP regularly, and lost weight and I had a blast sharing stories about weight loss and how MFP helped me out. I could've been embarrassed, or worried about them judging me but who are they? No ones, so let them judge. Turns out they were in the exact same boat as me. That was a great discovery :-)

You are living for you, and losing for you, and answer to no one but you. Just remember that ;-)

chachita7

What others think and say should not be of importance to what you want for your future and life...

Kari089

I recently had to deal with something similar. My father in law was coming to visit and of course he was going to see me (once again) trying to lose weight. But I faced it straight on, I told him I am doing this for a few months now, I have already achieved a lot and I am doing well.
Basically take it or leave it attitude-and to my surprise he was extremely supportive. Now his ex wife on the other hand would of been the type to place cookies under my nose. Sometimes you have to just tell them to back off before they even begin to attack you. I have a feeling you already know who will be doing that to you when you return to school. I would make it clear you have goals and are seeing them through before they even begin to 'counsel' you with their opinions on how you should deal with your life/health.

Michele7091

I've had people say "how can you measure everything out like that?" to me and I just shrug it off and reply with something like "its not that hard" or "you mean use my measuring cup as a spoon to dip the beans out of the pot?...yeah real hard".
And I think sometimes its not so much sabatoge as it is admiration or jealousy. Especially if you get results from your efforts. Alot of people probably wish they had the dedication to do that at every meal.

sallywilson06

I've had people say "how can you measure everything out like that?" to me and I just shrug it off and reply with something like "its not that hard" or "you mean use my measuring cup as a spoon to dip the beans out of the pot?...yeah real hard".
And I think sometimes its not so much sabotage as it is admiration or jealousy. Especially if you get results from your efforts. A lot of people probably wish they had the dedication to do that at every meal.

This is exactly what goes on I bet.. Most people that are over weight don't like to be overweight alone. If you think about it, they may all be eating out all the time, not worrying about their weight and then you come along and show them how you have lost weight. 17lbs will be noticeable and then they notice that you have just cut down your portion size they may be jealous or envy the fact that you did it and try to bring you down because they are still being piggish and don't want to be all alone.

lisakyle_11

unfortunately yes.... my husband and sometimes my daughters will make comments or offer unsolicited advice. it's annoying, but i still do what i set out to do. it's my body, my mind, and my business. i make sure my daughters see me eat healthy as to not have them question their own habits...mainly because with 3 teenage daughters, it's a slippery slope.

JMPerlin

I have to at work, many saboteurs here. In addition the bosses have a lot of customers coming through so there is a lot of food. Its not uncommon to have 10 left over pizzas lying about after the customer lunch. If I happen to wander in during the scavenger feast there is always someone waving a slice of pizza in my face, or in the morning a doughnut.