my ex is happy :( lol

KatiesRunnersHigh

Ok this may be off subject and not material for this site, NO it is...I recently added an ex bf of mine to my facebook. Told him how much I missed him yadi yada...well, I found out he is serious with someone else, the first girl since after me and they've been together for awhile and just had a baby together. I just had a baby too by a different ex, dont judge me, lol...I'm just finding it hard to see him happy with someone else. I'm jealous of his new family and jealous that I don't have one. Me and my babies father are not together, it's a long story but he became a danger to me so we will never be together.... Why it ties into this site, I have never felt so unnattractive because I am overweight. I've lost weight before, many times actually which is another issue, I told myself today once I get to my goal weight of 150 (I'm 5'10) I will never allow myself to get big again. I know eventually I will feel attractive again but its hard being alone, watching my ex be happy (as selfish as that sounds, sorry I'm human and honest) and feeling ugly. Obviously self-esteem issues. Anyone have any or all of these issues I'm dealing with? I'm assuming most people aren't dealing with the ex issue but self-esteem is a big one for most of the population so. Sorry I'm a rambler tonight. What do you do to move on from someone? To feel confident even when you are not your best? I'm starting meditation and right now it's nearly impossible but I hear you got to work up to being good at meditating. Pray for me if you will. Any advice, suggestions...

MashaSK

First of all delete your ex from your facebook friends and every time you want to check on him count till 100. Past shall be in past...don't know if it's good advice, but I like suntanning when i feel depressed.

Shock_Wave

Ok this may be off subject and not material for this site, NO it is...I recently added an ex bf of mine to my facebook. Told him how much I missed him yadi yada...well, I found out he is serious with someone else, the first girl since after me and they've been together for awhile and just had a baby together. I just had a baby too by a different ex, dont judge me, lol...I'm just finding it hard to see him happy with someone else. I'm jealous of his new family and jealous that I don't have one. Me and my babies father are not together, it's a long story but he became a danger to me so we will never be together.... Why it ties into this site, I have never felt so unnattractive because I am overweight. I've lost weight before, many times actually which is another issue, I told myself today once I get to my goal weight of 150 (I'm 5'10) I will never allow myself to get big again. I know eventually I will feel attractive again but its hard being alone, watching my ex be happy (as selfish as that sounds, sorry I'm human and honest) and feeling ugly. Obviously self-esteem issues. Anyone have any or all of these issues I'm dealing with? I'm assuming most people aren't dealing with the ex issue but self-esteem is a big one for most of the population so. Sorry I'm a rambler tonight. What do you do to move on from someone? To feel confident even when you are not your best? I'm starting meditation and right now it's nearly impossible but I hear you got to work up to being good at meditating. Pray for me if you will. Any advice, suggestions...

I have some advice, gather all your FaceBook drama and goto the Jerry Springer show.
Jerry.... Jerry....... Jerry........... Jerry

soon2b_1fitmama

delete him... and forget about him, he moved on and so should you.
Then just work in becoming a better "you".. do it for yourself. Instead of comparing yourself with him
& just so you know.. a lot of ppl appear to be super happy and lovey lovey on FB and in reality i find the ppl that like to express that a lot through fb.. in reality are not that happy. might not be his case but you never know ;-)

jesska812

Delete, delete, delete!!! You don't need his status' and the like popping up. Also tell a friend so if they see him back on your friend list they can push you back on track. While you're not feeling ok with it there's nothing good to come from being friends on Facebook.

As for your confidence I say fake it till you make it! Get a new hair cut, get your nails done, new clothes whatever makes YOU feel good and keep doing it and eventually you will start to feel more confident. Also try and get out and do something totally different - take a language class or dance class or something else that you will be able to feel good about doing.

Ttopeka

http://blockyourex.com/

littlemiss5foot1

Agreed... Grass isn't always greener be happy for what u have n not disappointed what u have lost... Delete him of Facebook delete everything

imogenjade

i had problems with my bfs ex who couldnt handle me and him together. ive had a baby with him and she practically stalked me and made my life hell. she made lies up about me, that i was some evil slag etc. but she got a new fella and left me alone. even tho she still slates me to people.
hes happy so you need to get over it. put your energy into your baby and your looks. work out and diet. use your ex as an inspiration.then when you feel better about your self you will find some one that makes you happy. dont be selfish and immature. get over it! x

KatiesRunnersHigh

thanks so much guys. i know all this stuff its just sometimes you need to hear it again and again and its all very true excellent advice. besides the going to the springer show! off to delete!

imogenjade

once u get your confidence and men all over you, your ex will be old news. and btw your not fat!!!!!!!!!!!!!! just tone up, have a pamper day etcxxx