Am I a potential stalker?

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  • Temple_Fit
    Temple_Fit Posts: 299 Member
    Lol, no you are not alone but I don't want to follower her. I simply compliment her and sometimes ask how she achieved her look. I love to see a woman with definition in her back.
  • JerseyGirl4eva
    JerseyGirl4eva Posts: 25
    lol, I actually have 2 of those from my gym. The 1st one actually told me she wanted to do my workouts and I was actually flattered and showed her what I did and if she couldn't do it, I modified to fit her. The other one, she is creepy, she follows me around without saying a word, watches me and when I am done will do the same thing. That I don't like and want to say something to her, but not sure what.

    See? Creepy! lol

    I don't actually follow anyone. I do my thing and if they're in my line of sight, I notice but I try not to stare or anything. They either don't notice or aren't creeped out because I'm usually there first and they start working out near where I already am.

    It's not creepy & to the woman (top quote) who has the one who follows her routine...If you feel you need to address the "stalkin" behavior do so in a helpful way. Offer the woman your advice I know I can't afford a trainer to work with me, my ex used to help me and advise me of the routines to do, if I saw a woman with a great body in the gym I'd probably be inclined to follow her too because society has made it "creepy" for one woman to find another woman's body attractive.

    Maybe she is too embarrassed to just ask so maybe sine you notice it just offer to help her.

    I don't think it's creepy either way though I think it is a very subtle (or not so subtle) flattery...just ask these woman, the one at the park, the one at the gym...if you have a small enough town maybe you could wind up friends or at least work out partners. I have a co-worker who I am on more friendly terms with than most other co-workers but I saw she had lost a lot of weight & looked magnificent I asked her about it...she started doing zumba after her daughter was born, she became an instructorm she now gives classes here at my job.

    She e-mailed me her whole diet & all kinds of advice...never hurts to ask, nor to help!
  • lniffa
    lniffa Posts: 675 Member
    lol, I actually have 2 of those from my gym. The 1st one actually told me she wanted to do my workouts and I was actually flattered and showed her what I did and if she couldn't do it, I modified to fit her. The other one, she is creepy, she follows me around without saying a word, watches me and when I am done will do the same thing. That I don't like and want to say something to her, but not sure what.

    See? Creepy! lol

    I don't actually follow anyone. I do my thing and if they're in my line of sight, I notice but I try not to stare or anything. They either don't notice or aren't creeped out because I'm usually there first and they start working out near where I already am.

    It's not creepy & to the woman (top quote) who has the one who follows her routine...If you feel you need to address the "stalkin" behavior do so in a helpful way. Offer the woman your advice I know I can't afford a trainer to work with me, my ex used to help me and advise me of the routines to do, if I saw a woman with a great body in the gym I'd probably be inclined to follow her too because society has made it "creepy" for one woman to find another woman's body attractive.

    Maybe she is too embarrassed to just ask so maybe sine you notice it just offer to help her.

    I don't think it's creepy either way though I think it is a very subtle (or not so subtle) flattery...just ask these woman, the one at the park, the one at the gym...if you have a small enough town maybe you could wind up friends or at least work out partners. I have a co-worker who I am on more friendly terms with than most other co-workers but I saw she had lost a lot of weight & looked magnificent I asked her about it...she started doing zumba after her daughter was born, she became an instructorm she now gives classes here at my job.

    She e-mailed me her whole diet & all kinds of advice...never hurts to ask, nor to help!

    I wouldn't mind offering her advice, I did that with the 1st woman and we actually do workout together sometimes. The reason I am saying the other woman is creepy is because, I will use the Platinum room to do certain excersices and it is empty at the time, she will come in there stand in a corner and just watch me. I am uncomfortable with that, yes maybe I should ask her if she wants to workout with me, but it still bothers me that she does that.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    I wouldn't mind offering her advice, I did that with the 1st woman and we actually do workout together sometimes. The reason I am saying the other woman is creepy is because, I will use the Platinum room to do certain excersices and it is empty at the time, she will come in there stand in a corner and just watch me. I am uncomfortable with that, yes maybe I should ask her if she wants to workout with me, but it still bothers me that she does that.

    That is very creepy. She clearly lacks basic social skills.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    As a condition of my parole, I can't do that.....any more.
  • DAMNCHARLIE
    DAMNCHARLIE Posts: 569
    yes (I'm curious what would you do if you caught up w/her?)
  • JerseyGirl4eva
    JerseyGirl4eva Posts: 25
    lol, I actually have 2 of those from my gym. The 1st one actually told me she wanted to do my workouts and I was actually flattered and showed her what I did and if she couldn't do it, I modified to fit her. The other one, she is creepy, she follows me around without saying a word, watches me and when I am done will do the same thing. That I don't like and want to say something to her, but not sure what.

    See? Creepy! lol

    I don't actually follow anyone. I do my thing and if they're in my line of sight, I notice but I try not to stare or anything. They either don't notice or aren't creeped out because I'm usually there first and they start working out near where I already am.

    It's not creepy & to the woman (top quote) who has the one who follows her routine...If you feel you need to address the "stalkin" behavior do so in a helpful way. Offer the woman your advice I know I can't afford a trainer to work with me, my ex used to help me and advise me of the routines to do, if I saw a woman with a great body in the gym I'd probably be inclined to follow her too because society has made it "creepy" for one woman to find another woman's body attractive.

    Maybe she is too embarrassed to just ask so maybe sine you notice it just offer to help her.

    I don't think it's creepy either way though I think it is a very subtle (or not so subtle) flattery...just ask these woman, the one at the park, the one at the gym...if you have a small enough town maybe you could wind up friends or at least work out partners. I have a co-worker who I am on more friendly terms with than most other co-workers but I saw she had lost a lot of weight & looked magnificent I asked her about it...she started doing zumba after her daughter was born, she became an instructorm she now gives classes here at my job.

    She e-mailed me her whole diet & all kinds of advice...never hurts to ask, nor to help!

    I wouldn't mind offering her advice, I did that with the 1st woman and we actually do workout together sometimes. The reason I am saying the other woman is creepy is because, I will use the Platinum room to do certain excersices and it is empty at the time, she will come in there stand in a corner and just watch me. I am uncomfortable with that, yes maybe I should ask her if she wants to workout with me, but it still bothers me that she does that.

    You might intimidate her because of your looks & good shape...yes it would be creepy to me too but spin it in a positive way. Since I have a physical disability I often find it very difficult to approach people in certain situations and the gym would definitely be one of them...I hate to walk into a crowded gym because I don't like people watching how I walk, I use equipment furthest away from others because I don't want people staring at the techniques I must use to modify my working out. That lady might not know how to use the equipment that you use. I watch from the bike or the elliptical so it's not so noticable.
  • Nerple
    Nerple Posts: 1,291 Member
    As a condition of my parole, I can't do that.....any more.

    Don't you mean you can't get caught any more?
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Am I the only person who thinks this way? When I'm at the gym or running in the park and I see a woman there working out who has the kind of body I wish I had, I have this overwhelming urge to follow her around and copy everything she does.

    Haaah. Nooo. I don't think you are. I think thats normal. We want to observe, and do as they do, so we will end up looking as they doo. Haah. I see that as being observant. How else do we learn? We observe other people for nutrition advise and samples of their daily diet here. And observe them for the kind workouts they do, for the results they get. I think your a stalker if you follow them home, and go thru their underware drawer. Haaaaah. :smile:

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