what is love and when/how did you know you were in it?

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Love, to me, is one of those things that people assume everyone defines similarly--I don't agree. Love means different things to different people and manifests itself in a variety of ways depending on the individual's values.

For me, love is when you are willing to relinquish a bit of control over your emotions and your heart by allowing yourself to be vulnerable. You are essentially at the mercy of the person you love--BUT you trust they won't hurt you and you're willing to take that risk.

When every waking moment you seem to be thinking of that person--maybe it's just a background thought while going about your day--but it's still there. And when you think of your future you KNOW that you'd rather be WITH that person than WITHOUT them.

I knew I was in love when I felt these things. Love makes your life "make sense" and without it you might feel like you're "just going through the motions."

So...tell me...what is love to you? Are you in it right now? How long has it been? Do you still get overjoyed just waking up to your S.O's face?

HorrorChix89

Love is a chemical reaction in the brain. It's an addiction, and you think you can't live without that person. For some people, this reaction slows down or stops completely, but the addiction usually doesn't go away. That's why love turns into something more.

Am I in love now? Yes, but I don't know if it's love or just guilt. That feeling you get when a cop pulls up behind you is how I feel whenever I see I got a new message from my ex. My heart sinks into my stomach and I feel like my cheat is going to explode any minute. It's not that happy feeling I use to get when we were together. It's painful now, and sickening.

Pretty soon I'll get off this addiction, but cold turkey is no joke.

LilRedRooster

Well, I actually define love differently for the different people I've been with.

With my ex, I would put love in a similar definition to the one you gave: Passionately willing to relinquish parts of yourself to the other person, waking up and appreciating their face, thinking about them at some point in the day, and not being able to imagine a future without them romantically. That's a good category for my ex, and that type of love was what I had for him.

It's a little different with my SO, because we have a child, and I see our relationship differently and define it in different terms from my previous relationship. I don't particularly feel like my future would be totally incomplete without my SO in my life romantically, nor is he always a background thought in romantic terms. Having him not be in my life in the future is hard to imagine, but he's also the father of my daughter, so that is a huge influence on that. Do I love him less, just because our romance is more practical? Nope, I love him without question; I just love him differently, because he's a different person.

I think love for me (as I would define it with my SO), was when I got to a point where I could accept everything about him, even the "flaws" (things like certain viewpoints or attitudes he has), and make up for what he does or doesn't do in a complementary way. We've become very good partners, and we both know that no matter what happens, even if the future isn't full of passionate romance, we will always do the best for each other, because we respect and love the other person enough to put their desires and needs at the forefront. It's not the most romantic-sounding thing, but it's got a very strong foundation that has proven itself several times over, which is all that I would want.

1Timothy4v8

as far as love between a man and woman I would have to say there is two types

when you are IN love with some one, there is no question about tommorrow everything is about the then and now, there is no were eles you want to be but in each other's arms

then after that and hopefully cometment there is the lasting love that is the daily caring for that person, and wanting them to be happy more so then your own happyness, regardless of how you are treated you love them for them not what they do for you


I have never been in love with in one in my whole life until I met my husband, and I would have to say it really is a true say'n ~> it is better to have loved and lost then to have never have loved at all" one of Yahweh's (Gods) greatest gifts is LOVE

My Darling Husband and I have been in head over hells forget about everything ele love for five years now, I love that man! Soo freaking much

taryn_09

i think love is a word people throw around just for the thrill of saying it. for me love or being in love is when you feel comfortable around the person. you dont have to pretend to be someone, && they take the good with the bad. you can be open, && you get the butterflies just thinking about the person. when even after leaving && seeing them you're already thinking about the next time you can spend time with them again. last time i was in love was about 7 months ago. he was funny, sweet, active. we could text about random things never boring conversations. when i stayed at his house we would have cute little movie nights, && in the morning i loved the feeling of getting to wake up by him. i would leave && already be waiting for the next night that week i could go back. when sick we took care of each other, && in the middle of the night he'd make me a pb and j because i would always get hungry. i took it for granted. my past effected my future, && being stubborn i let it get the best of me pushing him away. i have a hard time with emotions so it wasnt the easiest to express how i was feeling or why it was so hard for me. needless to say it ended, && i think you know you really loved someone when you compare (not intentionally) other people you try to date with that person. ive gone on dates but none of them seem to match up. i havent found that spark of personality again yet, that feeling of butterflies since. even to this day i still think about it.

ChristineMarie89

you know your in love when u cant picture life without them. when you cant figure out how u went this long without them. when u would do just about anything for them.

piinchi

what is love? baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more.

SpydrMnky27

Love is too hard for me to define. I know I am in love because when I am in my man's arms, it feels like home. That's the only way I can explain it. We've been through SO many ups and downs and we've almost given up but we somehow manage to get through it with an even stronger love for one another.

skeetpea