New found confidence?

TrailRunner61

I see on here all the time how people say they have more confidence in themselves after losing weight. I just don't get it. Does that mean you had none before weight loss? Is it because you looked down on yourself because you were overweight? Will you look down on other obese people after you reach your goal since you thought others looked down on you? (I certainly would hope not!)Did people put you down all the time to make you feel bad about yourself? If so, I'm sorry and glad that you feel better. Please explain your increase in confidence. Do you feel like you can be a better person, more outgoing, reach your goals easier?
I feel like I've always had confidence. I just feel better mentally (as in happier) and physically because of the weight loss. No real confidence change here.

Amazingday

I agree, I was confident before.... but empowered now. I feel like my outside matches my inside. I don't hate going clothes shopping so I can go and find things that make me look even better. So I walk even taller at 5'4 and have even more sass than I did before!

phoenix8633

I was full of confidence before my weight gain (due to losing job and getting depressed over work etc).
But I lost nearly all my confidence in the bedroom department.
I also find that certain people I know look down on me as if I'm nothing as well, so I'm losing weight to hopefully get my confidence back, so things will improve in the bedroom, and in general I won't feel crap about going out.

ZugTheMegasaurus

For me, the entire reason I gained weight was severe depression (to the point of being constantly suicidal for years). I hated myself, couldn't do anything right, would never amount to anything, was a pathetic excuse for a human being, hurt everyone around me just by existing...just imagine the worst thing someone could think about themselves and I thought it.

When I emerged from that depression and started losing weight, I was pretty much talking myself into it. While I could recognize that the depressed thinking wasn't accurate, I didn't believe the alternative either. It was a step-by-step process of hearing the negative, self-destructive comments, analyzing them, and working out whether they were valid or not. Each success I made served as a little more proof backing up the new positive thoughts. As they accumulated, I could see lots of evidence supporting self-confidence and less and less for self-loathing. Having those thoughts less and being able to control my thoughts (rather than them controlling me) is a major confidence booster.