Had my eyes slapped open now I am on a mission.

justjen33

Hi. I am Jennifer. I am 33 and very very overweight. I have 200 lbs to lose. Yep that is a huge number. I have been heavy since I was 5. Have tried to diet, failed repeatedly. I have two children who are 6 and 4. I am going to school to get my bachelor's in psychology and then on to my master's.

I have fought my weight for so long I had become pretty disillusioned about how really big I had become. I was with my kids dad for five years and have been single now almost three years. He was unfortunately emotionally and mentally abusive. So that being my first real relationship only compounded my worth issues. I was determined however to get out there and live life. I started online dating and it was ok. I met a guy a couple of weeks ago. Seemed to hit it off. He liked bigger women. Then I thought I should send him a full body pic of me.....well that went over like a lead balloon. He informed I was bigger than what he is attracted to but would like to stay friends.

Ouch that hurt....but as much as the truth hurts it heals too. I had not realized I had gotten as big as I am. So I resolved right there in that minute to never have to be turned down like that again...well at least not for being a size 26 anyway. I realized I was taking times away from my kids, and adding a burden to them in my later years if I did not do something NOW. that was last Wednesday. I got back on MFP (joined 9 months ago half heartedly). Started walking and rallied my friends behind me.

Something snapped in my brain. I want this, this being; a healthy body and healthy life more than I want junk food. I have a whole life ahead of me. One filled with activity and life. I have no illusions this will be easy. But nothing in life worth having is easy. So my goal is 200lbs gone by the time I graduate in 2014.

TinaCleg_cancel

You can do it Jen. Add me if you need support. This is a great place to find it.

tryinghard71

You can do it!! If you need more friends feel free to add me. Love the support on MFP. Everyone here is so friendly and all here for the same reason.

laurieblair2012

That realization, no matter, how difficult, is life-changing. It's your turning point. Keep moving, and keep the faith. You CAN do it.

cushygal

Congrats on taking the first step. WIth the mind set you are in right now - you WILL do this.

Feel free to add me for additional support and encouragement!!

Welcome Back!!

ggmay49

I know where you're coming from. I never saw myself as being as overweight as I am. I have 100 pounds to lose. I still don't till I look at pictures of me (OHHH IS THAT ME!). Yes it is. Time to realize that I'm only getting bigger if I continue to eat the way I am and not be responsible. This program really works if you are determined. Let's do it together. Offering all the support I can and taking all the support I can get. Here's to Us - we can do it!

cushygal

Congrats on taking the first step. WIth the mind set you are in right now - you WILL do this.

Feel free to add me for additional support and encouragement!!

Welcome Back!!

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thomassd1969

You can do this and your are worth it! You are your #1 fan! Great job wanting a healthier life! Add me if you would like.

smae1980

I'm so sorry that happened to you, but I'm glad you found your motivation in it. Best of luck, you CAN do this!!

Ashleyxjamie

you got this hun!! Add me for some support, we are all here for you!

michellelhartwig

I have 100+ to lose-feel free to add me!!!

lizzynewm

sometimes it takes that painful realization to really have the gumption to turn it all around. you've already made a giant step by both confronting the issue and signing up here! feel free to add me, i'm on a mission too!

donna9089

Congrats Jen! That realization is a great NSV! You CAN do this and deserve it.

teekee2

Stay positive! You can do this and there are a ton of people on MFP that can support you in your journey!

msudaisy28

You can do this! Two years to lose 200 lbs will be a challenge (that's assuming you graduate in April 2014, not later in the year) but with dedication you can do this! Feel free to add me as a friend if you'd like the support!

Captain_Tightpants

That's the spirit! I like the passion you're coming at this with, just be careful not to flare up and burn out as so many do. Gentle, lifelong changes ftw!

mzhokie

You have taken the hardest and biggest step in this process. If you want support, please feel free to add me.

tiffanic83

I will add you I have close to that to lose as well. Its going to be a journey, but it will be a journey of also discovering how worth it you are. Lets do it

justjen33

WOW thanks to all of you! I know I am in the right place!

Wonderwoman2677

That's me as well... I look in the mirror and think it's not that bad...but it is. My family is suffering for it too. I want to grow old as healthy as possible! We can do it!

Jules_1111

you can do it! The first step is the hardest, and you've conquered that. I'll add you.

CharlottetheHarlot

Hi Jennifer,

I have over 100lbs to lose. I feel your pain, I know where you are coming from but you CAN do this. Feel free to add me as a friend. I started off close to 300lbs and have dropped over 50lbs since January. See, it's possible. A lot of hard work but for someone pursuing advanced education and a single Mom, you are no stranger to hard work!

Wishing you great success.

chrystee

You can do this. I have over 100 to lose. I'm down about 30 now from january.
Keep wanting it.. there is times your resolve will wain..

irenedemos

Please add me too. We are all here to help you do this!!!:flowerforyou:

hersheythecat

You know I've said to soo many people that unless you really want to do it, you aren't going to succeed. Something in you has to make that decision that enough is enough. I've done that myself recently and it does work. You look at things through a new lens and it's amazing.

I'm with you on the marriage that was destructive - I got to my heaviest thanks to that marriage. Now I'm determined to never see those numbers again. It took me 5.5 years after leaving the marriage to make that decision but I'm there now.

Good luck and feel free to add me.

justjen33

That's the spirit! I like the passion you're coming at this with, just be careful not to flare up and burn out as so many do. Gentle, lifelong changes ftw!

Yes that is my biggest fear is to flare up and burn out. I am trying to take small steps and remind myself everyday it is about changing my life not a temporary diet.

kbmnurse

Forge on my friend. It will make you stronger and a great role model for your beautiful children.

Hawkian

You can do it; the motivation and commitment you're showing right now is the most important part. Use all the features this site has and stay active in the community here and you'll keep at it.

Francesca3434

Well done- the hardest part is making the choice to make a big change. Feel free to add me if you want some encouragement

PamelaRose88

Good for you! Im excited for you to get started on your journey and to hear all about it! I will add you and we can help motivate each other and help each other stay on track!

Cheers,
Pam

cherrieruns

congrats to you on many fronts. ending an abusive relationshiip, returning to school, raising two young children on your own and making the commitment to become a healthy role model for them. Feel free to add me for support if you like.