Why are there Dunkin Donuts in my house?!

mayerel

Just curious if anyone else has this issue- I have to watch everything I eat and am still working on making some changes (I'm only a week in...) but my hubs can eat ANYTHING and not gain an ounce! Sweets, sugar, chocolate, all those yummy awful things are my achilles. So while I go grocery shopping and do most of the cooking, he'll still bring in snacks and junk food. Drives. Me. Nuts.

I'm still learning dicipline to not eat the junk, but it's hard when he's so clueless!!

Anyone have any tips?

repubgurl

If it is all possible to hide the junk food your hubby brings in do it. Not to hide it from him, but to keep it out of your sight. You won't crave it so much if it's not right in front of you, taunting you.
You might also try a "come to Jesus" conversation with your hubby about being more supportive. And how being supportive doesn't mean giving up the foods he wants, just not flaunting it.

guildwars1987

It drives me nuts too because my wife is always bringing some kind of sweets home. Just because you changed your lifestyle doesn't mean that everyone else has to, at least that's what I believe in my situation.

ashlysnd

I was having this problem quite often. It feels like sabotage to me, so I told him to STOP! He still eats bacon and ice cream pretty regularly, but at least he isnt bringing in 3 bags of cakes, cookies, and candies from the dollar store anymore!!!

quink77

I felt this way on Sunday. I had a gathering to celebrate my son's First Communion. My ex came with a plate of cookies, a case of Mt Dew and a case of Yeungling. And then left them all here when he went home. :grumble:

RUNNER48WH

i suggest you kick him in the nuts for not supporting you.....jus sayin:blushing:

teri1956

Why? Because they are better than Krispy Kreme :laugh:

They are my downfall too....love Dunkin'. Best thing - I don't live in the right part of the country any more or I would likely not be on this site!

Have him hide them until they are stale?

jboccio90

whatever bad food I get tempted with that my bf wants he has to hide it.
Thats the only way I wont eat it.

liftingheavy

I blow it when I'm at my BFs house too... He likes sweets and pizza and can eat them like there's no tomorrow, and he doesn't like to eat alone...

So I've been trying to save calories during the week when I know I'm going over there.

dolldreams

Just curious if anyone else has this issue- I have to watch everything I eat and am still working on making some changes (I'm only a week in...) but my hubs can eat ANYTHING and not gain an ounce! Sweets, sugar, chocolate, all those yummy awful things are my achilles. So while I go grocery shopping and do most of the cooking, he'll still bring in snacks and junk food. Drives. Me. Nuts.

I'm still learning dicipline to not eat the junk, but it's hard when he's so clueless!!

Anyone have any tips?

Yep, mine is the same way. I try to ignore what he eats altogether. I had to learn that he needs all those calories he consumes. I eat dinner before he even gets home because he eats dinner twice anyway. That way I can do something else while he's eating what I left him and then looking for more food to eat after that.

baxgilter

I would suggest you ask him to not bring them home anymore or anything unhealthy for that matter. Explain to him that it is a struggle to eat healthy to begin with and you havent quite mastered self control in all situations. The other thing you might want to mention is just because he does not gain wait eating crap food, does not mean he is doing terrible things to his body. You can't see clogged arteries! Just my two cents. Ask for the support, I am sure he will understand and be helpful.

- JoAnna

badapdos

Just say no, and walk away or distract yourself. The craving will go away in a matter of minutes. When you consistently say no, then it'll be a habit and you'll be able to look at pastries, snacks, and cake without even thinking about wanting it!

Although your husband may eat and eat without seemingly getting fat, he might contain a lot of the fat in his organs. For example, my friend who is really skinny and my other friend who was average weight took a fat percentage test. My skinny friend was 25% body fat while the average weight one was 19%.

mayerel

i suggest you kick him in the nuts for not supporting you.....jus sayin:blushing:

So should this be option one or two? :laugh:

Hiding is a good idea, maybe a draw or cabinet that's just his and I just don't go into...with a lock...and an electric current...and a guard dog.

odonogc

I try to just give things a really big sniff and then walk away. Just remember that the donut is in your mouth for like 20 seconds, the calories are forever.

Athijade

YOU are the one making the change, not him. He shouldn't have to give up his favorites just because of your decision. You need to work together on this and that means give and take. It can not be all about you and your changes... he needs to be happy too.

mayerel

Although your husband may eat and eat without seemingly getting fat, he might contain a lot of the fat in his organs. For example, my friend who is really skinny and my other friend who was average weight took a fat percentage test. My skinny friend was 25% body fat while the average weight one was 19%.

I wish...he's been to the doc and had every test possible because I told him he was eating so bad. Body fat, cholesterol, blood pressure, everything normal. :ohwell:

emyishardcore

Just ask him to hide it so you won't be tempted by the junk food.

lmelangley

Let me guess - he's under 35? It will catch up. In the meanwhile, do what you need to do to stay strong. Even if it's throwing them all in the trash.

On the other hand, I have a friend who's a donut addict. He lost weight by throwing away 3/4 of every donut he touches. I don't know how many of us could do that, but it's a thought.

brendansmom1

Honestly, I have to exercise control daily. I have an 11 year old boy...as much as he will eat what I eat for the most part...I won't deny him of snacks and goodies that I am no longer eating. Now, mind you, I am not saying I let him go hog wild or anything..LOL I just will have some cookies or donuts or ice cream in the house for an occasional treat. When my boyfriend is over, same thing...they have "their snacks" and I have mine

Oh, it takes some MAJOR self control, but I handle it

mayerel

Let me guess - he's under 35?

He'll be 35 this year!

And just to be clear, I'm not asking him to change his habits, at all! I don't really care what he eats, it's just compromising so it's not in the house- or it's hidden. And the pizza in the fridge doesn't tempt me AT ALL, it's just the sweets!!

SCH67

I really feel for you because my husband use to do that and I had a very difficult time not eating what he brought home. For me, it was over 20 years of that and I never lost weight. However, It took me to one day realize that only I was responsible for what I ate and I couldn't blame him. However, I still think you need to really let him know that you need his support with your eating habits and that means you can't have that type of food around, especially right now at your starting point. Maybe he could only bring in enough for himself, for that night. Or, maybe he could put it somewhere that you don't look, so out of sight, out of mind may be easier for you. Tell him it's just until you feel you have more control. I hope he understands because support from your husband is huge.

HelloSweetie4

I have a similar problem. I live with my uncle and his teenage daughter. She has a super fast metabolism and can eat anything, so he likes to buy her treats and there's always texas toast and tater tots in the freezer. My uncle is just as bad with himself. During a baseball or hockey game he will sit down with a bag of chips and onion dips and just munch the whole time. There's always sweets and junk in the house.
One thing that keeps me away from it is telling myself "no they bought that, it's for them" (even though we split the groceries). I think just telling myself that its someone else's food, even though it really isn't, helps me stay away from it easier.

mwcraig34

I feel you on this one! I have 3 kids and they love all the foods I can't eat so it makes it hard! I don't want to make my children suffer because I'm trying to lose weight! For the most part my kids eat healthy, but their kids. So ice cream and cakes and chips and all the evil things that can ruin all my hard work are in the house for them! I have found healthy alternatives for me so if the kids have ice cream I have sugar free pudding! Kids have chips I have veggie straws or fruit it helps me to stay on track!

JmeHarris

It's a nice idea to say that he shouldn't have to change just because you are changing, but that just doesn't work in reality. Your spouse, your friend,s and your coworkers are huge influences on your eating life. If you were able to with stand that temptation you probably wouldn't be on this site to begin with, right?
As your husband he bears some responsibility for supporting you in your efforts. I know from my own experience that men can get away with worse eating habits when they are young than women, but when we get married to them we often adopt some of their bad habits and pact on the pounds.
I had this show-down with my own husband (who is usually the most awesome, supportive man on the planet). He just didn't get it. So one day after days of begging him to do his snacking at the office or anywhere that wasn't home, he brought home the last straw. Cheesecake. I picked it up and put it in the trash. I did this on two more occasions before he threw in the towel and called a truce.
And you know what? The goober has lost ten freaking pounds while I've lost three! He likes to smile while saying its Karma. He's probably right, but I just smile to myself when I see him posing in front of the mirror.

bm99

This is lame but we have a "snack" cupboard. Everything easy, quick and delicious lives there and it's guarded by one of those baby proof locks.

It takes me forever to get that stupid thing off and I usually decide it isn't worth the effort.

Stewie316

I have a no junk food rule in my house, unless it's planned/discussed ahead of time (or it's something I don't like).

TundraTed

Just get used to it. My wife told me she hides sweets in the house so I wont see them. Her and my daughter enjoy them when I am not around.

I am the one making the change, not them. Maybe one day they will decide to make the changes too.

BrianSharpe

The only person who can sabotage your diet is you. Just because there are tempting treats in the house doesn't mean you have to eat them - it's called will power.

Then again, if you like sweets a donut every now and again isn't going to kill you and the temptation only gets worse when you feel like you're depriving yourself.

DMarkSwan

I can smell the donuts from here....

mbuck73

I had not realized until reading this, that I also eat tons of junk hubby brings home!! It's a good thing I do all the grocery shopping!
It helps when we order Girl Scout cookies..we all order separate. So, his is his. I don't touch his. Think of it as his. Not for you.

Aperture_Science

The only person who can sabotage your diet is you. Just because there are tempting treats in the house doesn't mean you have to eat them - it's called will power.

Then again, if you like sweets a donut every now and again isn't going to kill you and the temptation only gets worse when you feel like you're depriving yourself.

^agree.

There are always snacks and junk in our house. We have kids who have a few treats, we get given chocolates at Christmas, Easter birthdays etc. You just have to learn to deal with it. It is hard, and I'm not saying I'm perfect and never have a quick rummage in the snack cupboard, but you can't blame anyone else for it.