Ladies I need your help!

jhebert87
jhebert87 Posts: 75
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Ok so I have done a ton of research about this and I still can't figure out an answer... If there's any nurses or doctors that can help me out that would be awesome... Here it is... within the last year I have lost almost 20lbs and within the past 6 months or so I have noticed that I have had some "problems" in the bedroom...I wasn't sure if this would have something to do with my weight loss or if there is anything I can do to fix it. It's been over 4 months since my boyfriend and I have been intimate because of this...I'm just afraid that it's going to keep happening and we will never be intimate again! Any advice would be appriciated.

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  • aggie613
    aggie613 Posts: 21
    This a completely NON-medical answer, but I can tell you that when I lost weight the first time (well, first of many), and was down 30 lbs, I felt almost as insecure as I did at my heaviest! I expected to wake up one morning and the 30 lbs would magically be back on. I don't know of any medical link between weight loss and intimacy (unless you are anorexic and get your hormones out of whack), but it could be psychological. If you're finding that you're having some insecurities over your weight, maybe see a professional? Again, completely amateur answer, but I know I went through a lot mentally during my first major weight battle.

    PS - I'm really struggling right now too because I've been at the same weight for a month, but I'm reading "Fifty Shades of Grey", and it's totally spicing things up in the bedroom! Worth a shot?
  • NoAdditives
    NoAdditives Posts: 4,251 Member
    What kind of problems are you having? Is it just a lack of interest? Or is it an actual physical issue?
  • jhebert87
    jhebert87 Posts: 75
    Its more of a physical promblem... Its kind of embarrassing... But I think a problem is that I smoke cigarettres too.. Not sure though
  • naddie7
    naddie7 Posts: 11
    Are you taking anti-depressants/ssri because they can cause adverse sexual side effects
  • JoniRiaya
    JoniRiaya Posts: 79
    What kind of physical problem? If you want advice might have to get more personal :) nothing to be embarrassed about though!
  • liog
    liog Posts: 347 Member
    I think we may need more info to be helpful. If you don't want to give more info, which is completely understandable, I'd suggest speaking with your doctor.
  • sammi402
    sammi402 Posts: 232 Member
    yep. gonna need more info. different physical issues have different causes/solutions


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  • beckylawrence70
    beckylawrence70 Posts: 752 Member
    Wow, 4 months?? Hmmmm........I have no words right now, def not normal.......you're not reaching orgasm??
  • Aviendha_RJ
    Aviendha_RJ Posts: 600 Member
    Ummm, I thought I was having weight loss issues in the bedroom... turned out to be an underlying issue that had absolutely nothing to do with the weight loss.

    Have you seen an OBGYN?
  • jhebert87
    jhebert87 Posts: 75
    I don't take any medications or anything... I don't have a doctor right now because I don't have insurance hence why I am asking on here lol but I am not having a problem orgasiming its the lack of "moisture" that I'm having a problem with... I have cut back on caffine but I'm not sure whats going on.
  • Vespyr
    Vespyr Posts: 111 Member
    low estrogen/progestin might be a protential cause. Worth getting it checked by a doc. In the meantime you can try Replens which is used to restore moisture down there. Usually used at bedtime 3x/week
  • ColleenAtherton
    ColleenAtherton Posts: 230 Member
    Are you drinking enough water? I notice that if I haven't had enough water that day then we'll have to use some lube.

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