This may seem really selfish

deadgirl81

But...is it wrong to feel jealous and disheartened when you see the amount of weight people lose in such a short space of time? I seem to of been doing this for ages now and not really getting anywhere, even though I'm cutting things out of my "diet" - excercising a lot more than I used to (although, allowing myself the occasional treat) and not seeing much change?

Does anyone else feel this way sometimes, or is it just me?

Crystalchaos72

My ticker indicates the total lost since 2007......I have been on this site just a year. You are almost to your goal it appears so keep up the good work!!

JessLLoser

No, It`s not. We all feel it we just don`t say it. Sigh. I`ve been on this site for more than a month and haven`t lost any weight. I am very jealous.

But it aint that great of an emotion so I try to tamp it down. I know I shouldn`t compare myself to others but I still do.

celebrity328

I worked out with a mother/daughter team for 2 months both lost 25-30 pounds each I was down 6! - I was happy for them but I did feel bad I wished it was me lol

Pengi81

But...is it wrong to feel jealous and disheartened when you see the amount of weight people lose in such a short space of time? I seem to of been doing this for ages now and not really getting anywhere, even though I'm cutting things out of my "diet" - excercising a lot more than I used to (although, allowing myself the occasional treat) and not seeing much change?

Does anyone else feel this way sometimes, or is it just me?

Definitely not just you :frown: My friends seem to lose weight a lot quicker and easier than me and they are just doing the same as I with no fancy diet regime

Saying that though one friend lost weight so quickly that it just made her look withdrawn and really gaunt, I'd not like that to happen to me!

LynC33

Dont beat yourself up. Slow and steady is the way to go. Whats your food diary like? Are you making sure you eat snacks? Im having 6 -8 meals a day including snacks. Eating every 2.5 - 3 hrs. Keeps your metabolism going . Try not to go 3 hours without food. Our bodies are designed to store fat for survival, our job is to not give it a reason to store fat, dont make your body hungry.

niksinnotts

your ticker shows a really great weight loss!! still we all seem to want that instant gratification, i know that i often feel disheartened when i get nominal, or no loss but this is a long term thing and healthier eating is just that!! healthier! so even when your weight loss has slowed or stopped, your body is still thanking you for the change:flowerforyou:

babyworms

It's a very familiar feeling for me.

I've been on this site over a year now (this round of weight-loss has been happening for about 20 months) and i'm practically back to where i started - Again.

I've yo-yoed BIG time, my ticker has gone between 0-11 kg lost a couple of times... I'd give ANYTHING to see it hit 12...

SO i'm just picking it up and trying harder.


We'll all get there eventually. It just sucks how different everyone's bodies work sometimes.

sting5

I think being jealous is a normal feeling. Maybe it's these feelings that keep us motivated...try not to look at it as a negative way to feel and just keep on keeping

sting5

It's a very familiar feeling for me.

I've been on this site over a year now (this round of weight-loss has been happening for about 20 months) and i'm practically back to where i started - Again.

I've yo-yoed BIG time, my ticker has gone between 0-11 kg lost a couple of times... I'd give ANYTHING to see it hit 12...

SO i'm just picking it up and trying harder.


We'll all get there eventually. It just sucks how different everyone's bodies work sometimes.

I love your wedding picture!!

babyworms

Aww thank you! You totally just made my day!

And i know that even though i've gained back a lot of weight since then, I looked better in the pics than i would have without the work i put in - rather than thinking about how much BETTER i could have looked if i worked harder.

if jealousy can be channelled to use as motivation, then it's probably pretty useful!

Natx83

Dont beat yourself up. Slow and steady is the way to go. Whats your food diary like? Are you making sure you eat snacks? Im having 6 -8 meals a day including snacks. Eating every 2.5 - 3 hrs. Keeps your metabolism going . Try not to go 3 hours without food. Our bodies are designed to store fat for survival, our job is to not give it a reason to store fat, dont make your body hungry.

This proven to not be true. My best mate practices intermittent fasting, 16hr usually. There is sweet FA fat on that man.

LynC33

Dont beat yourself up. Slow and steady is the way to go. Whats your food diary like? Are you making sure you eat snacks? Im having 6 -8 meals a day including snacks. Eating every 2.5 - 3 hrs. Keeps your metabolism going . Try not to go 3 hours without food. Our bodies are designed to store fat for survival, our job is to not give it a reason to store fat, dont make your body hungry.

This proven to not be true. My best mate practices intermittent fasting, 16hr usually. There is sweet FA fat on that man.

For me it worked. It may not work for others, but Im allowed to share my opinion, as are you. I lost 8.5 kilos in 2 months, so it definately worked for me. Personally I dont think fasting is good. Bodies need fuel for a variety of reasons. Each to their own.

bubbles1212

This is not just you feeling this way!!! I have been feeling the same way for a while. I am happy for them, but I am still kind of upset with myself that I am not losing like they are. I also feel bad because a lot of my "pals" are not motivating. I am trying to motivate them, saying how great they did, and other people also motivate them. No one really seems to do the same for me. I have one or two pals on my page who will sometimes (and I actually know a few of my pals). I get discouraged and am actually thinking about not being a part of the site anymore. I came here for support. sorry... just venting, but no, you are not alone!!

SabrinaJL

Nope, definitely not just you. My best friend has lost the same amount of weight I have in half the time. She doesn't work out as much as I do and eats fast food regularly. I've been stuck at the same weight since around xmas and she just keeps losing. I'm happy for her because I love her and want her to reach her goals, but I do get frustrated for me.

sloanie1

Yes I'm the same LOL...I've been going 18months and still not at my goal, I literally work my butt off and eating clean most of the time! still have my treats...every person is different and the way I look at it, the longer it takes the more we learn and the more we appreciate the outcome...its a lifelong journey so I guess it will take a lifetime!

Gladiolus

Jealousy is immature. Try feeling inspired by the success of others and get interested in learning how they did it. Good luck!

weighlossforbaby

I think it is natural to feel this way when you're trying to lose weight really hard and you see other people losing weight faster than you.

TanyaCurtis

No! Ur not alone! I'm pretty sure every single one of us feels that way, at least at some point!!!!!

nutandbutter

Dont beat yourself up. Slow and steady is the way to go. Whats your food diary like? Are you making sure you eat snacks? Im having 6 -8 meals a day including snacks. Eating every 2.5 - 3 hrs. Keeps your metabolism going . Try not to go 3 hours without food. Our bodies are designed to store fat for survival, our job is to not give it a reason to store fat, dont make your body hungry.

This proven to not be true. My best mate practices intermittent fasting, 16hr usually. There is sweet FA fat on that man.

For me it worked. It may not work for others, but Im allowed to share my opinion, as are you. I lost 8.5 kilos in 2 months, so it definately worked for me. Personally I dont think fasting is good. Bodies need fuel for a variety of reasons. Each to their own.

Share your opinion all you want but please don't spread myths like that. Eating every 2-3 hours doesn't "keep your metabolism going". It may help you with satiety but that varies from person to person.

nutandbutter

I know how you feel OP. I can undo a months work in a matter of one week. I hate it!

DesignGuy

It's natural. I see people who say things like, "I cut out 1 cookie a day and walked to my refrigerator for exercise and I'm down 76 pounds in 6 months!" And I'm like, WTH.

Also remember that the more weight someone has, the easier they will drop overall weight (at least to a point).

izzydino

You are not alone. . My green monster likes to peek out occasionally, also

IronSmasher

Being concerned with other's progress will not lead to happiness.

I sometimes wish I'd tried harder and not messed about as much.

robot_potato

My ticker is weight lost since 2009. I find myself feeling jealous of those who have met their goal, but i know that taking it slow and doing it right will pay off in the long run. You are doing great and you will get there. It's not about who finishes first, it's about getting there and being happy and healthy.

DesignGuy

It's natural. I see people who say things like, "I cut out 1 cookie a day and walked to my refrigerator for exercise and I'm down 76 pounds in 6 months!" And I'm like, WTH.

Also remember that the more weight someone has, the easier they will drop overall weight (at least to a point).

Yes this is also true, when i first started MFP i dropped 20lbs in 3 weeks. My exercise was a 10min walk.

Nice!

AllTehBeers

It's natural. I see people who say things like, "I cut out 1 cookie a day and walked to my refrigerator for exercise and I'm down 76 pounds in 6 months!" And I'm like, WTH.

Also remember that the more weight someone has, the easier they will drop overall weight (at least to a point).

Lol! I've always looked at the success pictures and was like, why can't I just BE there? I'm not so much jealous at the people but disappointed in myself for not sticking to it. It just takes time and patience and even more time and patience the closer you get to your goal. It looks like you're doing great so far so keep up the hard work!