What makes you feel special/appreciated?

CoryIda

I was having a conversation with a friend today and he is going to be getting his lovely wife flowers "just because" he appreciates her - that is a VERY sweet gesture and I am sure she will love it.

As for me? Flowers don't do much (not only because bouquets wilt quickly and I kill the plants almost immediately, but also because I am just not very romantic).

These things, on the other hand, make me very, very happy:







Yes, that's right. Steak, margaritas, and mud.

I am the anti-girl in some respects.

What about you? What makes you happy or what makes you feel special/appreciated?

CoryIda

I like pet names.

Like Fido or Spot?

devilwhiterose

It's been so long, I don't know anymore. :grumble:

amandacochran15

1. When my husband takes my son and let's me have alone time. Just so that I can shower alone and as long as I want, get ready without a toddler in my lap... little stuff like that.
2. I love when people TRY. Sometimes you just want someone to offer to do something for you. Every once in awhile (seldom) my husband will actually make plans and arrangements so that we can hang out or have a family day. I love it!
3. Oh and nice new shiny stuff

dinovino_59

a nice head rub

Foxypoo61287

Love notes on my car or something

CoryIda

a nice head rub

Um...
:blushing:

stevewynjones

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

victoria4321

Unexpected sweet gestures, back massages, and playing with my hair. I like presents too. Especially when it isn't my birthday or some other holiday. :bigsmile:

UsedToBeHusky

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

Really? Not even before you were married?

va_va_voom

I had a particularly crappy work day when hubs and I were first dating and was telling him about it on the phone that evening. He asked if he could come over and hang out and I said yes. He showed up 45 minutes later with a bouquet of flowers and a 6-pack of beer. I was more excited about the beer than the flowers.

That said, different things make me feel special/appreciated. I love when hubs takes the initiative to plan a date night. Or, the fact that he thanks me for the things I do for our family, even though they are things I would have to do whether they were appreciated or not.

I'm a pretty simple girl, so simple things please me.

Yanicka1

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

Now that is sad

skinnybearlyndsay

I HATE flowers. I think they are so overdone and a bit tacky. I love chocolate, don't get me wrong, but if that's the best a guy can do, then he's not trying.

A HOME-COOKED (it's in caps for a reason) meal, plus a nice massage, is always the way to my *ahem* heart.

skinnybearlyndsay

Just had to say: victoria4321, I adore your profile picture.

Faintgreeneyes

Simple things really- one of the best things I have ever gotten was a cd that had songs on it that reminded my BF of me, or songs that defined pivitol moments in our relationship.

Other then that, a home made card, a foot rub, or simply saying thank you for things is really enough.

emgawne

for me something as simple as having dinner made for me when i get home after a long day, or a little note left with my keys in the morning will totally make my day.
it doesnt have to be anything huge or expensive, actually i would rather that it isnt, but those little things let me know the person is actually thinking about me even when i am not with them.

amymrls

a massage or sometimes just a big hug

yoovie

When someone mentions something I said or wrote about much later, even weeks or months later.

I took the 'think before you speak' lesson from my parents far too close to heart- so I agonize over choosing my words carefully, choosing important ones that will make my point clear and direct and concise, but with tact and consideration for any special circumstances my audience of 1 may be going through.

So if I take my time to explain myself or something im feeling or trying to express- and the other person not only listens, but comprehends and remembers... then I feel like I really do exist.

Cyngen

It's always the tiny things that nobody else would consider doing. The best for me is when my wife joins me in some activity from ham radio to motorcycling around the country side. Her reaching over and taking my hand in hers is pure magic even after 37 years together, 35 of them married.

Karalopolous

When someone makes an effort to spend time with me! I don't much care for flowers either, but if someone wants to hang out, I know they care enough to cram me into their day. That and shoes!!!

sdereski

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

Awww. That is so sad.

manderson27

When my husband, who is not romantic or demonstrative in any way, looked at me the other day and said " I feel so lucky to have found you" I was gobsmacked.

But otherwise flowers either cut or to plant in my garden.
Jewellery
Perfume
A night out

The usual really I suppose.

CoryIda

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

I know it's not the same, but there are a lot of us on here who appreciate you and thing you're amazingly special, Steve.

(((HUGS)))

sdereski

A hug...just because.

7funnygirl7

I'll let you know if I ever get made to feel special or appreciated. Wasn't in 18 years of marriage.........

Well come on over here for a cuddle ~ *hugs*. Do you feel special now? :flowerforyou:

adrian_indy

I like little cheap gifts that are thoughtful. My wife and I don't go all out on birthdays or anything, but a couple years ago she found me an extendable back scratcher. Awesome. Oh, and sex.

_GingerSnap_

When my husband gives me an unexpected compliment. Not just the pretty, good mom, etc.
Told me I was a bad *kitten* after my last half marathon and while his friend was complaining about his girlfriend I overheard my husband say that "he needs to find a strong confident woman like Red". (thats me!)
I melted a bit.

_Christine_

When my husband mentions to a friend or family member what an amazing wife or mom I am without me being present.
When he rests his hand on the small of my back and kisses me in public.
When he buys me flowers; I’m a jeweler’s wife, so as much as I enjoy jewelry, it just isn’t as special as him buying me something frivolous. And I love flowers. I spend hours and hours in the garden. Knowing he’d do something that’s only purpose is to please me is very special.

LuckyLeprechaun

My husband used our christmas lights to decorate our living room and dining room for our very first Valentines Day, along with making me a decadent dinner. Twelve years later, this most recent V Day, he did it again, and the sweetness made me tear up. It meant way more than ony object he could purchase.

I'm a sucker for the little things that cause me to realize he knows me inside and out, and remembers the little stuff that I like best.

Example, if he is at the store and he sees stargazer lilies, he will get a bunch of them for me, but only if they meet my 'standards' (meaning, most of the buds are still closed and large, with high likelihood of blooming) Then he will be so excited to show me.

The main element is that he has listened to me describe the reasons I like something, and he has gone and sought out that thing, in order to show me he was listening, and wants to find things to make me smile.

odusgolp

So many things... Let me provide a list for those eager to please me:

1. Flowers or plants for no specific reason, particularly sent to work to make others curious to their origins. That makes me giggle.
2. Making me giggle.
3. Petting me like a dog.
4. Snuggling.
5. Complimenting a well cooked meal, a clean house, a fantastic butt, or that amazing new dress.
6. Anything shiny...
7. Killing any and all insects.
8. Grilling the meat for me to ingest.
9. Bringing home take-out.
10. Random sex.
11. Any lustful touching, frankly.
12. Driving, so I don't have to.
13. A weekend get-away.
14. Holding my hand.
15. Guiding me through a door by the small of my back.
16. Opening a door.
17. Mowing the lawn.
18. Picking up the dog poo.
19. Doing any and all car maintenance.
20. Kisses & Hugs and random butt grabs....


I'll shut up now.

Bumdrahp

Hookers and puppies.