I need some advice

ebenso1

I recently enlisted the help of a dear family friend who is a personal trainer to help me on my weight loss journey. She has me eating 1250 calories a day (MFP has me at 1200) but she is telling me NOT to eat back my execrise calories which goes against all I know! She also wants me to consume more protein, which I already do because I don't think MFP gives enough. But along with the protein she wants me to take in 96 whopping grams of fat! I currently get about half of that and have a hard time even meeting that goal. I just think this seems excessive. She says that more protein and fat are needed to build muscle when you are doing weight bearing exercises. Even so, I think this is too much! I am concerned of undoing all the hard work and gaining wt. back. I don't want to offend her because she is the professional. Any suggestions?

megacy

Wow. I'm not a personal trainer, nor a nutritionist. If fact, I'm a baker. So maybe that qualifies me to knowing the bad stuff? And this just sounds bad. 96 grams of fat? With only 1250 calories? I guess I'm repeating, to make sure this isn't a typo. That leaves you 386 other calories. For myself, I don't get anywhere near the nutrients and vitamins I need with just the fat calories and 386 seems way, way too low to be getting everything you need every day.
Remember, this is, hopefully, a life change. If you start this, do you think you'll be able to do this for the rest of your life? It seems to me that this would, in the long run, make you sick.
Maybe I don't know what I'm talking about. I hope others chime in and get you better information. Can you go see a nutritionist?
A setting of almost 70% fat just seems...not right. My stomach hurts thinking about it. Although, I have to admit a love of avocados, but that's a lot of avocado! Sorry I'm not more helpful.

Drastiic

Normally when figuring out macros, you start with protein first, then fat, and then whatever remaining would be allotted for carbs.

For individuals with high body fat that would translate to:
1 gram of protein per pound of LEAN body mass (for calories, multiply by 4)
0.4 - 1 gram of fat per pound of LEAN body mass.(for calories, multiply by 9)
For carbs, add up the calories from protein and fat, then subtract that from your total calorie allowance.
For carb grams, divide carb calories by 4.

Other formulas will figure out protein, then carbs, then fat.
1 gram of protein per pound of LEAN body mass (for calories, multiply by 4)
LEAN body mass + 100 grams (for calories, multiply by 4)
For fats, add up calories from protein and fat, then subtract that from your total calorie allowance.
For fat grams, divide fat calories by 9.

Dealing in percentages isn't necessarily the way to go, because when you add or subtract calories, all the values will change.