Motivating a friend to change?

mcrowe1016

One of my good friends has recently gained a bit of weight (50-100lbs). I know she is aware of the weight gain and is not happy with it, but she does not seem motivated to change. The reason she gained is because her boyfriend (who is a great guy in most respects) 1) is an extremely picky eater whose diet consists of mostly fried food and a specific type of pizza and 2) happens to LOVE big women. Other contributing factors are that she helps take care of her younger siblings and her mother who has terminal cancer and she works 2-3 jobs at any given time.

I don’t see her too often, but when I do I try to cook great tasting food and I tell her how healthy it is (This is not specific to her – I always brag when I make a healthy dish). She will work out with me if our schedules mesh, but that is rare.
I am not going to bring up her weight to her. She knows that she has gained, and has told me that she is not happy with her appearance.

However, is there any way I can help motivate her to get her started?
Did any of your friends help kick start your weight loss journey in a polite manner?
Should I just let the matter drop and hope she doesn’t gain 100 more lbs?
Am I a worse friend to ignore it?
Thanks for your help.

DebbieMc3

How about the "I would love to do MFP together" approach.
Other then that, I woud stay out of it.

imthelobster

I second the idea of doing MFP together.

I would probably introduce her to this site. If it clicks for her, then awesome! If not, then I wouldn't push the matter. Losing weight and getting healthy have to come from within. External motivators can work for a while, but if the person really doesn't feel motivated about it themselves, then the weight/healthy choices won't stick.