Great hosts but too much rich food

rasp12

What do you do when good longterm friends go out of their way to make too large a selection of courses of too much food when you visit? It is too much, too rich and we feel uncomfortable after eating even modest portions.
They are trying to be good hosts and we are trying to be good guests but we are avoiding going there. That is not a solution. DH has joined me on the reduced portions diet using the diabetic exchange lists and is really happy with the diet and how he feels. I don't want to visit and them come back home with the feeling that I have relapsed.
What are some phrases that we could use to discourage all the rich foods and excess sweets? When do you use them or tell the hosts?
Help!

mountainmare

How often do you dine with them? Several times a week? Once a week? Once a month.
If it is less than once or twice a month the question is how important is the friendship? One meal once a month will not destroy your health, one ill phrased comment about how you are eating healthier than they are will destroy a friendship.
Even years after the death of a loved one I still hear about a relative who brought her own water and food because what was prepared for company wasn't "good enough"
How would you feel if they came to your house bringing extra food because they always felt hungry when visiting you?
Just be careful and not over zealous--this is part of your life, not your entire life.

pitbulllover

Why don't you invite them to your house instead? Tell them you want to be the host for once, and prepare lots of healthy dishes. Maybe they'll get that you're trying to be healthier, maybe they'll ask for some recipes and tips. If not, then like the previous reply... don't push it on them. The next time you're there just eat and enjoy the food (in moderation). It's not like they're inviting you over every night!