Kids and Cars

RDalton84

Here in a city close to KCMO there was a 13 month old baby that the mother forgot was in the backseat and he was left outside all day in 80+ degree weather (unseasonably warm for this time of year, unfortunately). For the love of God people...PLEASE take the extra 10 seconds to look in the backseat or open up your back door and make sure everyone got dropped off where they were supposed to! This happened last week and everytime I think about it, it just breaks my heart. This has happend 614 time in the Untied States and that's 614 times too many.

jenlarz

This is one thing I have never understood. Even if its a change in your routine, how can you forget? I also cannot imagine living with the pain of doing that to your child. It would be a living hell.

Nic620

Those stories break my heart also. I as a mother don't understand how you forget your child, let alone a tiny baby. It's horrible.

angieleighbyrd

I just don't understand how someone FORGETS their child. There was a lady here who left a child in the car in 88 degree weather last summer. It was actually the babysitter and she went inside to "play" with her boyfriend. The kid fell asleep in the car so she left him in there for 3 hours. She said she had a baby monitor and didn't hear anything and assumed he was still asleep.

If a sitter ever did that to my child, she better get on her knees and pray that the cops get to her before I do.

Meg_78

How one can forget one's child in the back of a car is absolutely beyond me in the first place....I think its more often that they don't want to wake the baby so they think that leaving it in car is a better option...it's just stupidity, Sorry, I can't defend this one at all, only an idiot would leave anything alive (apart from a plant) in a car, for longer than a minute or 2, but esp not a fecking baby!

Meg

RDalton84

I don't understand either, as a mother of a 6 year old and 3 year old. I know what it's like to be so tired you just go on auto pilot but obviously it does happen. I try not to judge and just pray for this mother and her husband and their older child. It's a very sad situation. Hopefully it will make people more aware...

twistofcain

I just don't understand how you forget a child in the car. There was one in Dallas a couple of years ago, married couple with 3 kids wen to the grocery store, came back home, the two oldest were of the age to walk, so they went inside, the parents got the groceries and went inside. Their youngest was 6 months old and baked in the Texas summer for 6 hours before anyone had a clue the child was not in the house.

What I also don't understand, and this may just be in Texas, but if the child dies, it is chalked up as an accident, but if the child is still alive when rescued the parent is arrested and charged. I think in both cases they need to be arrested and charged.


With our kids, either my wife gets them or I do, but they are always the first thing to go into the house regardless of what we have in the car.

RDalton84

How one can forget one's child in the back of a car is absolutely beyond me in the first place....I think its more often that they don't want to wake the baby so they think that leaving it in car is a better option...it's just stupidity, Sorry, I can't defend this one at all, only an idiot would leave anything alive (apart from a plant) in a car, for longer than a minute or 2, but esp not a fecking baby!

Meg

From what I have heard, the mother was supposed to drop the baby off at the daycare on her way to work (she is a 5th grade teacher) and it wasn't part of her normal routine and baby was asleep in rear facing car seat so she didn't see or hear him. She drives a midsize SUV so baby couldn't easily be seen in backseat. Looks like the vehicle had dark tinted windows so most likely anyone walking past or nearby wouldn't have been able to see in the car. Daycare never called to ask if baby was coming. Mom being a teacher is not allowed to leave school property during the day so she wouldn't have gone to her car for lunch. mom was actually on her way to pick up baby from daycare when she realized she hadn't dropped him off in the morning. My heart just breaks for the mother, I understand that accidents do happen. This was not something intentional.

curvykim78

I run a home daycare, and if someones kid isn't here when they are supposed to, I give them about 15 minutes just to 'run late'. Anything after that and I call or text them to make sure they are coming to daycare...Better safe than sorry!

samandlucysmum

Anyone watch CSI? one of their episodes was about the same situation, but the parents did it on purpose coz they thought their kid had an incurable illness!!.... I could never forget my lot, even when they were kids, they are an extension of me, ( still are, hence being overweight!!)

luv_lea

I forgot my son once. Was at my brothers and was taking him to his dads (less than a mile down the road) and I thought he was already in the car. Made it to the destination and he wasn't in the backseat. Even though it was less than a mile back to get him, I freaked.

I don't understand how you can 'just forget.' But it's not my place to judge. In reality, I've accepted that I don't understand a lot of things and people in this world.

mslack01

It has been 13 years for me but I still remember the sleep deprivation involved with having a newborn and breast feeding. I never left my child in my car but I passed the daycare once and went straight to work and then realized she was in my car and drove back to the daycare. That quickly, it could have happened to me. So honestly, I can see how that can happen. You can think poorly of me if you want, but when you are sleep deprived you don't know what you are doing sometimes.

It's my prayer that no parent will ever do that or have to endure the pain and judgement that will follow.

RDalton84

I run a home daycare, and if someones kid isn't here when they are supposed to, I give them about 15 minutes just to 'run late'. Anything after that and I call or text them to make sure they are coming to daycare...Better safe than sorry!

This! I wish all day care providers did this! If it had been done in this case,a horrible tragedy could have been avoided. I also heard on the news they are trying to get some kind of sensor built into cars that after the car is turned off, if after like 30 seconds to a mintue if it still detects weight in the backseat and alarm will sound. It's sad that it has to come to this but better than having children die and families being destroyed

SweetNaughtyLips

Stories like these really break my heart

sugarnspicere

I can't understand how that can happen. We had something similar happen here except it was the middle of the summer and the poor angel didnt make it. We've had reports of parents leaving kids in the car for hours so they can go into the casino. Sick. I could never forget my daughter in the car. Heck she wouldn't LET ME forget her. Even if she falls asleep in the car she knows when the car has stopped and turned off and starts yelling the second my door closes.

curvykim78

I run a home daycare, and if someones kid isn't here when they are supposed to, I give them about 15 minutes just to 'run late'. Anything after that and I call or text them to make sure they are coming to daycare...Better safe than sorry!

This! I wish all day care providers did this! If it had been done in this case,a horrible tragedy could have been avoided. I also heard on the news they are trying to get some kind of sensor built into cars that after the car is turned off, if after like 30 seconds to a mintue if it still detects weight in the backseat and alarm will sound. It's sad that it has to come to this but better than having children die and families being destroyed

Thank you.

cabaray

I was running late for work one day and my daughter was asleep in the back. I got to work and actually started walking away from the car before it hit me that I forgot to stop at the babysitter. From that moment on, I started putting my purse in the backseat so that I would have no where to put my keys without checking the back.

HotCuppaJo

I don't understand either, as a mother of a 6 year old and 3 year old. I know what it's like to be so tired you just go on auto pilot but obviously it does happen. I try not to judge and just pray for this mother and her husband and their older child. It's a very sad situation. Hopefully it will make people more aware...

I agree. I live in Kansas City and was shocked to hear the story. However, she was a teacher, probably stressed and rushing to work, and this was not her usual routine... It happens more often than we like to BELIEVE it can happen, because everyone likes to blame people, and say "OH, that could NEVER happen to me! I'd NEVER forget my baby was in the car!" I would venture to guess that every one of these women who have had it happen to them NEVER thought it could... That's probably why it keeps happening.....we aren't listening to what people are telling us to do! They say, you should put your purse or a bag or something that you HAVE to bring with you when you get out of the car in the back seat by the baby, so you have less of a chance of this happening to you.

I can't imagine having to live with myself, if I ever did that to my child. The last thing that this poor woman and her husband need now, is people blaming her. I'm sure she'll blame herself enough for all of us.