What to do when your family don't support you?

dejatyja

So, I've decided I'm serious about getting healthy and into shape. I've started walking/jogging and started the 30DS (just started). However, my entire family is overweight and everyone says they need to lose weigh and get healthy but no one else has taken it serious. Everytime I talk about doing workouts, going walking (because none of them can jog) they bring up how I was never an active person. Two years ago, I joined a women's softball league and I had fun (and lost some weight). My mom didn't come to any of my games. She claim she can't believe I was doing some type of sport activity. My kids and my boyfriend was at every game.

My kids and my boyfriend (although he is not in too good of a shape) are my only support. My kids and I go and TRY to play tennis (the amateur version). It's always fun, funny and a workout. My daughter is always playing music around the house and is constantly dancing and she often gets me to dance (although I'm not a dancer).

I'm tired of hearing my family say they need to lose weight but when I make suggestions, they have an excuse. I'm also tired of them doubting that I will stick to it (because I wasn't an avtice person). I'm at the point that everytime one of them say they need to lose weight I want to scream because for them it's all talk. For me this is a serious journey. Everyone tells me I carry my weight well. Well, I don't want to CARRY it anymore, it's getting to be a heavy load. I want to be able to run a marathon of some sort soon. (I mentioned running a marathon to my mom, if only you could see how she looked at me). I'm glad I don't have low self esteem or I would have given up the day I started. I'm tired of everyone telling me the bigger I get, I'm looking like my mom's twin and the rest of my family. I love my family but I don't want to be like my family. It seems like every adult over 40 in my family is dealing with high blood pressure, diabetes, stress and the list goes on.

How do you deal with a family that gives you minimal support and doubt you? This is near depressing!

FlittyGetsFit

Unfortunately, there's nothing you can do to make your family join you on your journey, but maybe you can inspire them? It's so hard when you don't have support, but if you just go ahead and start anyway, they might join when when they see results. They might join in once they understand you're not bothered about them doing it, you're doing it for you. Staying the same is easy, they know change is hard, but of they see you do, they might realise its not as hard as they think. Best of luck, both for your weight loss and your family

dirtbikegirl5

You are doing this for you. Maybe your family in real life won't support you but your MFP family will.

I make all school lunches, so I feed my children healthy. I also send my husband to work with fruit, but he must buy his lunch as he doesn't know where he will be during the lunch hour. However, he has been around me enough now that he makes great lunch choices.

I truly believe that your family will see you as a great example and want to follow. Who would not want to feel great and look great?