Women, do your standards change

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  • jenbit
    jenbit Posts: 4,252 Member
    I really dont care about a 6 pack. Even the fittest guy I've ever been with didn't have one and quite frankly body type isnt as important as personalitly and for me confidence and the ability to carry on a conversation are the most important things lol
  • mrs_schultz2012
    mrs_schultz2012 Posts: 395 Member
    i've been with my fiance for 8 years, and he has a beer belly, i love him anyway :)
  • jend114
    jend114 Posts: 1,058 Member
    nope they don't change
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    based on the age guy you're looking at? Do the older guys get cut any six pack slack? Does an older guy who is super fit stand a significantly higher chance of getting noticed?

    I prefer a little belly on a guy, I'm not sure why it's just what I'm attracted too. When I was younger I used to be really attracted to really tall and skinny guys, and now I'm not at all, I'm attracted to a little beefier of a guy.

    A great smile gets me every time.
  • raayfrancy
    raayfrancy Posts: 100
    I find myself attracted to people who are happy with how they are and who they are. Whether they're fit or not - as long as they're healthy, mutually allow the both of us to grow as people and are generally happy - I have no problem with age or how they look.
  • StarvingDiva
    StarvingDiva Posts: 1,107 Member
    I've never been out with anyone with a six pack. They're nice to drool over when they're being paraded about in movies but in real day to day life most of the guys I've ever met are a bit squidgy round the middle lol. My other half doesn't have a six pack but he's still gorgeous and I love him =)

    I have and for me it was really intimidating to be naked around him, he of course didn't care but I felt self conscious.
  • rebecca_d35
    rebecca_d35 Posts: 131
    I dated an older guy with a major 6-pack when I was in grad school. I was both fascinated and repelled by his body. Eventually, repelled won out. He just looked like he thought about his body way too much. (He had major personality flaws, too, but his 6-pack was not a selling point, ultimately.)

    Now I'm very happily married to someone 12 years my senior who loves to play sports but only lifts 40-pound preschoolers.
  • sallywilson06
    sallywilson06 Posts: 269 Member
    Standards changing with age.. It depends on what you mean by that. Now that I am older and more accomplished I would also like to meet someone with some ground work done as well with an education or ambition. When I was in my teens it was just if they were cute or "popular" Body wise it doesn't matter to me. I have only had 2 boyfriends though and they were polar opposites, one was slender and medium height one was tall and heavy. It all depends on the person and their personality I guess.
  • IndyInk
    IndyInk Posts: 212
    It's always good if a man takes care of his physical appearance at any age, but six-packs aren't a requirement in my playbook.
  • FlyeredUp
    FlyeredUp Posts: 632 Member
    There is no doubt in my mind that older guys that are in good shape get cut slack from women.
  • pudadough
    pudadough Posts: 1,271 Member
    I typically look for guys around my own age, so I can't say for sure what I'd think about an older guy. Six packs are so overrated. They're fun to look at, not fun to cuddle with. I say this from experience. I could go for a male version of myself: about my age with a little chub to love on! :smile:
  • LauraSmyth28
    LauraSmyth28 Posts: 399 Member
    I don't have 'standards'. I just find someone attractive or I don't. I had a boyfriend when I was 16 who was seriously overweight, but he was a lovely lovely guy. I'm still good friends with him. I had a boyfriend when I was 17 who was ripped all over, but he was an *kitten*.

    And now I have my lovely fiance who has a gorgeous face but an average body and I think he's the best looking man in the world. He's 2 years younger than me too. I've been with him so long I don't even notice other men.
  • atsteele
    atsteele Posts: 1,358 Member
    Yep. Confidence is key. And intelligence is at the top of the list too. I dont mean an IQ of 140 or above necessarily but rather a social-emotional intelligence that makes the person not only interesting to talk to but also makes you feel like you are interesting to them as well. And all the looks in the world isn't going to matter if you're self-centered prick.
  • Rae6503
    Rae6503 Posts: 6,294 Member
    My standards are personality first, then they have to be at least reasonably attractive. A perfect physique isn't required at any age.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    being a short, overweight, balding, average-looking-at-best, non-wealthy guy - i can attest to the point that being funny has gotten me pretty far.

    it certainly helped me marry above my grade

    so they can keep sportin' the six-packs and i'll keep drinking them. :wink:
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