I'm sick of arguing with my boyfriend about food!!!

Argent78

So here is the deal... I'm following a pers training program and in this site to follow a healthy way of living, and workout because I love it!
I'm seeing results from weight lifting, and my diet, and I feel GREAT!! I'm trying to eat 1800 cals a day, and lost of protein.
He doesnt workout, is skinny, and is happy eating 1000 cals a day.

He complains that I try to eat more than what I need, and and that I'm obsessed (which is not true), and he is happy not eating supper...

I'm sick of arguing and trying to justify that I'm happy this way!!!!

Help!??

Oh, detail: we moved together a month ago...

Sidesteal

Tell him you will not pay any attention to his man parts if he doesn't change his ways.

graelwyn

Not surprised he is skinny if he is existing on 1000 calories a day. What you eat and do is your business, not his, it is your body. If he wants to remain on a near starvation diet and sit on his backside with his muscles wasting away, that is how choice. He shows a total ignorance in saying you eat more than you need, given you workout.

rininger85

it all really depends on your metabolism and your activity level... if you are eating 1800 calories a day and are managing to lose weight then you're probably doing fine... if the weight loss slows down try dropping your calories a little... it all depends on your body and what it needs... you can't starve yourself or your body will go in to self preservation mode and will store as much energy as possible instead of burning it which will keep you from losing weight... you are better off to eat as many calories as you need to feel full and then exercise your buns off instead... look at people like Michael Phelps, when he was training for the olympics he had to eat like 5000-6000 calories a day to stay healthy, but he burned them all off working out / training for the olympics...

Pebble321

Don't make it an issue - just eat what you want when you want and invite him to join if he wants "honey, I'm making a snack, do you want something?".
If he says no, or questions what you are eating just tell him that it's what works for you. I also tell my husband that I get grumpy if I don't eat enough so I suggest that he doesn't question it!

mygrl4meee

My husband is simliar because he doesn't really care to eat much. He is the other way around could eat nothing all day and then eat dinner. I can't put a calorie amount on what he eats and he does like his sweets. He has been trying to eat more because he was feeling weak and not feeling well. He eats breakfast with us now on most days. My husband has made me feel bad about food and myself. He is very happy with my results and has even said stuff like don't get too obsessed with counting everything. Good luck with the transition of living with your boyfriend. I would suggest you nicely ask him to let him worry about himself and you worry about yourself.

christenwypy

Both of you should eat how you want to and eave the other one alone. Easier said than done, I know first hand.

rininger85

Not surprised he is skinny if he is existing on 1000 calories a day. What you eat and do is your business, not his, it is your body. If he wants to remain on a near starvation diet and sit on his backside with his muscles wasting away, that is how choice. He shows a total ignorance in saying you eat more than you need, given you workout.

you touch on an important fact that few people pay attention to and I usually don't think to bring up when talking to people... your body will eat up muscle tissue before it eats up fat tissues... so it ties in with the starvation method that if you aren't eating enough calories (and weight training to maintain/build muscle) you are likely losing muscle instead of burning fat... thanks for mentioning that

mes1119

My boyfriend is kind of the same way but not...

He actually wants to gain weight but he hates eating. He says he wouldn't eat if he didn't physically have to to survive. I showed him this site and he started to realized how little he was eating and that his weight training was useless because he wasn't eating enough. Basically he's gained about 5ish pounds since tracking his calories.

Maybe encourage your boyfriend to try it with you. Ask him if he really loves you and wants to be with you he will get excited and try to be interested in the things you're interested in. Maybe by tracking his calories a few times he may get a little more motivation to eat more or workout. Encourage him to work out with you! or make him all the same meals you make! it would be good for you two to bond.

Argent78

Thanks guys... you are all awesome!!!!! I really appreciate your advice!!!!
I was freaking out tonight