So... I guess i am a selfish B*tch?

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LemonBurns
LemonBurns Posts: 538 Member
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It's Mother's day tomorrow... and OMG - I am HORRIBLE to actually want to be ALONE and do what I want to do - Imagine that?

Don't get me wrong, I ADORE my girls, but I see them EVERY day and I cater to their EVERY need all day long. I am great at having tea parties, making their stuffed animals talk, going for bike rides, playing at the park, playing Princess, and dressing up... but really?... please... just one day off... please!!! Is it too much to ask, for real? And they are at a stage (ages 6 & 3) where they fight and argue and temper tantrum all-day-long (ok, maybe that is an exaggeration, but it feels that way) and for one GLORIOUS day, I don't want to have to deal with it!

I wanna sleep in, I wanna go for a run, I wanna go to the gym, I wanna go out with MY Mum... but i am being made feel guilty for not wanting to spend the whole day with my kids... Apparently, the 6 year old tells me, that Mother's Day is for spending time with Mom - I would be happy to have them make me a post-run, pre-gym breakfast - but can it NOT be pancakes... I HATE pancakes!

So I guess this makes me a B*tch?
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  • hapoo100
    hapoo100 Posts: 940 Member
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    Nope...not even close to being a B.

    It is your day, I sincerely hope you get to enjoy it pancake free!
  • BeautifulKristen
    BeautifulKristen Posts: 281
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    Um Mother's day is supposed to be for MOTHER's! You are right to think like that! Mother's are supposed to do what they WANNA do when it is there day. That is why it is called MOTHER's DAY! lol

    My mom doesn't want to bring my fiance to work because it is mother's day. So I understand that because it is her day..

    lol I don't mind if I see her or not. I will only buy her a card tho and go see her for a half hour or so but to be honest you don't sound selfish.. I don't think..
  • Jessica_Henry74
    Jessica_Henry74 Posts: 141
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    What if you just took a part of the day for yourself, and then had some quality time with your family?
  • zooblflot
    zooblflot Posts: 131
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    Not at all. It's mothers day and you should be able to do what you want.
  • InvidiaXII
    InvidiaXII Posts: 315 Member
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    No, it definitely does not make you a b**ch! You sound like a great mom. I hope you get some time to relax tomorrow!
  • interceptor311
    interceptor311 Posts: 980 Member
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    I wish my wife would want to be left alone.
  • TheCats_Meow
    TheCats_Meow Posts: 438 Member
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    Not at all! Unless I'm one, too, because I was actually a bit grateful that this weekend just so happened to be my kids' weekend with their dad!

    That's all moms ever really want, is a break! At least I do. They drain me. I love them dearly, but, again, they wear me out mentally & physically!
  • fatfrost
    fatfrost Posts: 365 Member
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    Well, I think that you've earned a day off. Doesn't sound selfish to me. Plus three and six can wear you down. I know from experience (6, 2 and 2)!
  • weighlossforbaby
    weighlossforbaby Posts: 847 Member
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    No, your not at all. Maybe split the day in half by yourself then with your family. You sound like an amazing dedicated mom!!!
  • Diary_Queen
    Diary_Queen Posts: 1,314 Member
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    I told my children way in advance that for Mother's Day they would take me to an event (a tea party deal) and then we would all go to the track after we changed. Everyone got to spend a bit of time together and a bit of time apart. I don't think you're anything other than a regular person that would like some time to do what you want to do.
  • WifeNMama
    WifeNMama Posts: 2,876 Member
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    Can we make it three days?
  • mdsjmom98
    mdsjmom98 Posts: 333 Member
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    NOPE! Absolutely not. It's your day, spend it how you want. My son heard on the radio that the number one request of most moms is exactly what you are asking for, is to just have a day of peace. I guess if you're a b!tch then so are some other moms!!! Enjoy your day!!
  • Denjo060
    Denjo060 Posts: 1,008
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    LOL oh how I miss those days of runny eggs and burnt toast enjoy the kids while you can and believe me they will never forget those day with their mom play into it and then go to the gym later you will never get theses times back
  • manic4titans
    manic4titans Posts: 1,214 Member
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    No , you just need to vent. I think when tomorrow comes you will be glad to spend the day with your babies.

    I'm sure I'll get the same dry toast and cold eggs in bed. LOL I hate eating when I first get up but I do it because my kids are trying to please me and make it all about me.
  • cyn4him
    cyn4him Posts: 83 Member
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    I just had this conversation yesterday. I am right there with you. I think a lot of moms are. We give so much all the time. Sometimes we want our own. And luckily I myself have been blessed with a husband who understands that. He Yves me random days off. He helps with cooking. He even kinda helps with cleaning..... of course no one gets it like I want it. But I gotta give em credit. Lol. But no. In my opinion that does not make you selfish. It makes you human. And very real to be able to admit it.
  • katemme
    katemme Posts: 191
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    Nope! Even though you are a parent, you deserve a little time to yourself! Suggest to your husband and kids to get you like a spa certificate, and go relax there! They want to spend time with you though because obviously they love you!
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
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    Whilst I know what you mean, I think a big part of mothers day while they are very young is your kids feeling like they are making you happy. I think telling then you don't want the breakfast they worked hard at and that it would make you happier if they went away for awhile, is about as harsh as telling them you don't like their homemade card.
    Talk to your partner about getting a day to yourself another day maybe?
    They are only young once, mothers day will be different as they get older.
  • Denjo060
    Denjo060 Posts: 1,008
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    I wish my wife would want to be left alone.






    LOL :bigsmile: :laugh: :laugh:
  • jsapninz
    jsapninz Posts: 909 Member
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    Maybe you should take more time for yourself on a regular basis. I see this alot with mom's...they give EVERY OUNCE they have in an attempt to be a supermom and then have nothing left for themselves. :frown:

    Definitely take the day off!

    And maybe, carve out a little time each month/day/week for just you, whether it is taking a quiet bath where the kids won't bug, get a manicure, go out for a special coffee, SOMETHING. Rejuvinate yourself a little bit periodically, and you will be refreshed an ready for the world. :flowerforyou: You won't store it all up and then burn out.

    Besides, ALL children need to learn they aren't the center of the world, or THEY will be brought up being selfish.
  • jb140
    jb140 Posts: 29
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    First of all...I gotta say...I Have that SAME HAIR!!! Some where in my closet...LOL!! I reallly do!

    Secondly...You Are NOT selfish. What part of "cater to their EVERY need all day long" is selfish.

    At 6 & 3, yes, they are pretty much a full time job still. YOU NEED TO STOP FEELING GUILTY!!!
    Kids are incrediblly resilliant...and oblivious. They are the egocentric ones. Even mine at ages16 and 13...especially so at their age!!

    If you take a day...Hell, even just a couple hours to yourself...Honey believe me...Your kids are not even going to blink an eye at it.

    My daughter used to scream for hours at a time as an infant...and i felt like I was THE ONLY ONE who could comfort her or take care of her....now she's 13 and she doesn't even remember it..doesn't even want me to bring it up...nuf said I think.

    As parents we screw up ALL the time..and our kids don't even remember it. It ain't gonna hurt to do something for yourself on a regular basis. It may even keep you sane!!!

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