Have a Question and need to vent

mfpcopine

I wish I could eat anything I want without worry. It takes so much mental work to lose weight. I wish it was subconsious for me but its not. I struggle everyday, every meal, every snack with what I should and shouldnt put in my mouth. I worry if I will be over my caloric intake for the day. I try to plan my meals, but My family and I live with my parents and they WONT eat the things I need to eat. Not trying to make excusess but if I make something different my children want what they want to eat. And I am NOT making 3 different meals. Also I cannot eliminate the junk food thats in the house. (some people dont have to worry about their weight or just dont care) I have cut down on my protions and added healthier snack and eliminated alot of junk. But when I wanna eat that cookie I worry.

This leads me to a question. Can weight be lost with a little exercise and a slight change of diet? Until I can move out of my parents house I am afraid I will not loose the weight.

You can lose weight without much exercise but you have to change your diet. I understand the frustration of being in an environment in which you are surrounded by food you aren't supposed to eat. I would suggest doing something that may help shift the focus from food, like Intermittent Fasting (IF). You eat all the calories you're supposed to, but in a limited window.

lovedtorun

Thank you everyone for the great advice. I try to walk 30 minutes each day or an hour 3 times a week.

lovedtorun

Thank you everyone for the great advice. I try to walk 30 minutes each day or an hour 3 times a week.

scrappy25

also, set your weight loss at 1/2 lb per week. That is much easier and you WILL lose the weight . Slow but steady wins the race!

KGFitnessGuru

That is hard cause to lose weight it is 70%Diet and 30%exercise. what I try to do is when no one is cooking go and pre make your meals that your going to have or want. I do my meals at times to last me 3 days, so I can just grab and go. But you can also try portion control where you don't eat as much.

senyosmom

It sure can!! Small changes still add up! Try to exercise for a 30 minute period twice more a week than you already are. Try to cut down the size of your meal just a tad. Hang in there - it might be a slow process but the change will come.

I feel you on the making a variety of foods for everyone. I buy sweet potatoes from the grocery store that are in that film wrap so you can just toss them in the microwave and when I make "bad" sides at dinner (like pasta) for everyone else I just eat the sweet potatoes instead. Not a lot of extra work for me (8 minutes in the microwave) but saves a ton of calories!

jenalderman

This is kind of how I got started actually. I was an eater and by that I mean I was an EATER!! At first, I just lowered my cals enough for 1/2 lb per week which at my starting weight was PLENTY of food. You would thing anyway. I was still hungry! I started to move more just to earn more food to eat. This was my way for several weeks then just like magic....when I wasn't even thinking about it.... a shift started occurring. I started moving more and more even when I wasn't eating back the calories....the more I lost the easier it became to move..... even more magic..... my body kept adjusting to fewer and fewer calories until ...... some very magical days....... I had to give thought to how to get UP TO my calories for the day!!

My point.... just in my own experience..... it's not worth a total shock to your system.... it WILL REBEL! Take baby steps..... move a little..... lower you calories just a tad.....move a little more.... lower your calories some more.....

This is not a race......... First we just have to put the brakes on so we're not racing to an early grave....... then we creep along...or even limp through the side roads until we reach the road we are supposed to be on. Then before you know it, you have the cruise control on and you are rolling along at a pretty good clip. There will be obstacles in the road but as you go, you will learn to weave around those. Even when we take detours, there is a way back to the main road. I don't plan on crossing the finish line for a LOT of years!

Good luck in your journey!

lizzie82088

I completely understand how hard it is. Personally, I think even just living with a GUY is hard enough (i can imagine kids would be hard too!). My hubby loves food and its hard to turn it down when its right in front of me. But my trick is i make sure i fix my own healthy meal that i can enjoy while he's eating his unhealthier meal and that way we're both done at the same time/satisfied and i don't think any more about it!

If you only change slightly you'll lose slowly, and personally i think diet is more important than exercise (something i just realized). Just try to keep up the cardio several times a week and cut portions 2x as much for fattier foods and load yourself up on veggies and proteins. i know its SO HARD!!! literally, almost torturous. But what will get you there is the focus on the results!!

Hang in there... we're all struggling together.

Flab2fitfi

It can be hard especially when you have children - I have two that are fussy eaters ( they have asd) and other two with food allergies. I still cook the same meals - just smaller portions and check what I'm putting it ( changing lean mince for extra lean) or in casseroles I'm using slightly less meat and more veggies.

Have a look at my food diary and you will see that we dont go without but in the last 3 weeks i have lost 11 pounds. Also my main exercise is walking - just 20 minutes extra a day can make such a difference.

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

it actually is BEST to do a little at a time. Restrictions are not easy and quite frankly, not healthy for extended priods of time. This is supposed to be a lifestyle change, not a full time diet.

PhenomeNae

I've sort of taken charge in my house. I live with my mother and she was very resistant to eating healthier. She said i was filling the fridge with "weird" food (veggies and healthier options) so i didn't cook for her. I cooked for my son and myself and i made sure he was eating what i am eating. this is a lifestyle change. there is no reason he can't learn how to eat correctly at the age he is.
eventually she came around. she now eats what i do, and i'm sure she's feeling better for it. don't cook for the family that isn't attempting a healthier lifestyle. it's not a "diet" that you'll stop some where down the road, this is for life, to be healthier and to manage your weight.

Zaetalicious

I know how you feel. My boyfriend is trying to GAIN weight/muscle mass, and some days he eats 4,000+ CALORIES!! It can be really hard to lose, especially when others around you are either not supportive or have different goals than you do. Luckily my bf is pretty supportive about me not eating as many carbs/calories as he does, but my advice to you is like others have said -- it takes time, and a lot of hard work to lose the weight you put on. Don't restrict yourself too much or you'll end up going off track for weeks and be back where you started! Focus on being HEALTHY first, eat the right amount of calories and try to eat the bad stuff "in moderation", get off your bum more, and the weight will come off.

Neahpata

This is not a direct answer but a suggestion to your situation. I am currently in a situation similar to yours in which I live with people who don't eat healthy, so there is always junk food, snacks, fried food, etc around. But I deal with it by having my own mini fridge in my room and having a hotplate and hot pot to cook. In my mini fridge I keep my soy milk, lean meats, veggies, etc and I keep Kashi snacks, peanut butter, whole grain goods, fruit, etc. in my room. I cook my healthy meals in my room and it them there. You have kids so that might throw a wrench in the works, but it is still an idea.

Also, living with other people can be stressful, especially when you are used to living on your own. Regular relaxation (meditation, sauna, yoga) has helped me avoid emotional eating and enabled me to look the other way when I see the fried chicken, cookies, etc.