Your overweight dr tells you to lose weight...respond ?

kevdylaly2011

I agree with someone up at the top. I think that him telling you your overweight and need to lose has nothing to do with him. If your overweight then your overweight. You probably already know that. I'm sure your Dr knows his body probably pretty well. His job is to look out for your well being. Most Dr's I've seen are overweight. I think it's because they work so much they don't have time to take care of themselves cause they're taking care of everyone else. I get what you mean though. Should set the example, some just don't have the time.

gpstrucker

If a fat person calls you fat it doesn't mean you're skinny.

Microfiber_wechange

i wouldnt go to a hairdresser with ugly hair, or a mechanic with a falling to bits car so i wouldnt go to a doctor/specialist who wasnt as healthy as they could be...people should practice what they preach!

Or to a nanny 911 (who doesn't have any kids) for advise on parenting tips :laugh: :laugh:

bathsheba_c

i wouldnt go to a hairdresser with ugly hair, or a mechanic with a falling to bits car so i wouldnt go to a doctor/specialist who wasnt as healthy as they could be...people should practice what they preach!

Just because someone isn't healthy doesn't mean they don't know HOW to be healthy. An oncologist can still get cancer, a mechanic can still drive a crappy car if he doesn't have the money to replace the parts, a dietician can still be overweight or underweight if they have thyroid or other medical issues...

Exactly. Type I diabetes, PCOS, thyroid conditions, certain medications. All of these can cause weight gain or make weight loss difficult. Are we seriously saying that someone is a hypocrite for telling us to cut down on the oreos when they're fat from a medical condition?

bmj27889

My Dr. is genetically blessed and would be small even if she weren't a health fanatic. This makes communication about the difficulties of losing weight a challenge

rml_16

Go back under your bridge, OP.

NotThePest

If you live in a large town or medium city, try to find a new doctor. If you are working out as part of your fitness and wellness goals, try to find one who is a member of a Sports Medicine Association, that little association is like night and day.

I agreed to be tracked by a nurse practitioner. as diabetes support (type II). I immediately asked to be taken out of the program when I found out 1) she was 200 pounds overweight, 2) struggling to keep her numbers down (I have very good control) which were higher than mine, and most alarmingly, when she began crying to me that she had no self-control :noway:

The recommendations given for chronic conditions vary greatly between doctors and other medical professionals, including physical therapist, who belong to a Sports Medicine Association and those who don't as well as their weight. And for those who wear their feelings on their fingertips, I know that all non-members of Sports Medical Associations are not FAT.

Dragonwolf

i wouldnt go to a hairdresser with ugly hair, or a mechanic with a falling to bits car so i wouldnt go to a doctor/specialist who wasnt as healthy as they could be...people should practice what they preach!

Just because someone isn't healthy doesn't mean they don't know HOW to be healthy. An oncologist can still get cancer, a mechanic can still drive a crappy car if he doesn't have the money to replace the parts, a dietician can still be overweight or underweight if they have thyroid or other medical issues...

This. Additionally, you can't tell just by looking at someone how they got to the weight they did, or where they came from. For all you know, it's completely out of their control (such as a history of living in (actual) starving conditions, which can cause what's known as "bowel distention" or what many people may see as a "beer gut" ), or something they're already working on and just haven't gotten "there" yet. Not everyone gets fat solely because they eat crap, and just because they're not skinny doesn't mean that they haven't taken their own advice.

MrsLVF

The Dr.'s health is irrelevant. The Dr. is obligated to tell you what you need to be healthy because that is their job.


However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

summertime_girl

For the most part, I think doctors KNOW all the guidelines for health, just like we do, and they can struggle every bit as much. It doesn't mean they still shouldn't do right by their patients and encourage loss.

The only time I ever had real concerns (ok, judgements) about a doctor's weight was the doctor who delivered my son. He was at least 600 pounds. He wasn't my doctor, but the practice required that you see all doctors at some point, just in case your doctor wasn't on call when you delivered.

I gained 80 pounds in my pregnancy. An absurd amount, so be sure, but it was hard to take his criticism seriously when he had a good 400 pounds to lose.

He was ultimately the one who ended up delivering my son, and very nearly dropped him at birth because he couldn't move around quickly. They even had to move the birthing bed because the way to was positioned, there wasn't enough room for the nurses to walk around the bed when he was positioned at the foot.

He stopped delivering babies shortly thereafter.

Dragonwolf

The Dr.'s health is irrelevant. The Dr. is obligated to tell you what you need to be healthy because that is their job.


However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

Why is it so ridiculous? There are a number of reasons a teacher may hire a tutor, not the least of which include time (a teacher's job doesn't end when the school bell rings, and so the teacher may not be able to adequately tutor the child), teaching method (some people simply don't learn well from certain teachers), area of expertise (I wouldn't expect a history teacher to know enough about Calculus to confidently tutor it), and how they handle the relationship with the child (some people believe that relationships shouldn't mix, because the dynamics between a parent-child relationship and a teacher-student relationship are different; and even if they don't believe that relationships shouldn't blur like that, maybe they tried it and a third-party could demand more out of the student than the parent could; it's a known and not uncommon phenomenon).

impyimpyaj

The Dr.'s health is irrelevant. The Dr. is obligated to tell you what you need to be healthy because that is their job.


However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

Why is it so ridiculous? There are a number of reasons a teacher may hire a tutor, not the least of which include time (a teacher's job doesn't end when the school bell rings, and so the teacher may not be able to adequately tutor the child), teaching method (some people simply don't learn well from certain teachers), area of expertise (I wouldn't expect a history teacher to know enough about Calculus to confidently tutor it), and how they handle the relationship with the child (some people believe that relationships shouldn't mix, because the dynamics between a parent-child relationship and a teacher-student relationship are different; and even if they don't believe that relationships shouldn't blur like that, maybe they tried it and a third-party could demand more out of the student than the parent could; it's a known and not uncommon phenomenon).

I was going to say all of this. Exactly. I tried to teach my daughter to read, but she didn't want to do it for me, so she learned at preschool. She was reading at school long before she ever demonstrated the skill for me.

summertime_girl

However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

Why is this ridiculous? I'm more than qualified to tutor my kids, but they listen and learn better with others. I would never try to teach my own kids. It would be an exercise in frustration for us all.

shedoos

And when I was a kid my doctor would sit at her desk and talk to me with a cigarette burning in the ashtray.

Doctors are people - they aren't perfect and they have the same struggles that we have. Who doesn't tell their kids that they shouldn't do things that they themselves did when they were young? Same thing IMHO.

MrsLVF

The Dr.'s health is irrelevant. The Dr. is obligated to tell you what you need to be healthy because that is their job.


However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

Why is it so ridiculous? There are a number of reasons a teacher may hire a tutor, not the least of which include time (a teacher's job doesn't end when the school bell rings, and so the teacher may not be able to adequately tutor the child), teaching method (some people simply don't learn well from certain teachers), area of expertise (I wouldn't expect a history teacher to know enough about Calculus to confidently tutor it), and how they handle the relationship with the child (some people believe that relationships shouldn't mix, because the dynamics between a parent-child relationship and a teacher-student relationship are different; and even if they don't believe that relationships shouldn't blur like that, maybe they tried it and a third-party could demand more out of the student than the parent could; it's a known and not uncommon phenomenon).

I was going to say all of this. Exactly. I tried to teach my daughter to read, but she didn't want to do it for me, so she learned at preschool. She was reading at school long before she ever demonstrated the skill for me.

Exactly, you tried working with your child. This woman did not even try, she has no interest in teaching. We're talking a grade school teacher, not wanting to help either of her own children with basic grade school homework, not calculus. She does not enjoy teaching, to the point that she lets her 10 year old grade her students work.

cessnaholly

Maybe he has a medical problem. Maybe he's working on losing weight and just not sharing his personal life? You don't know.

picassoadagio

I would tell the doc, "Thanks for doing you're job, but I'm not interested."

My brother is a respiratory therapist and used to smoke. A little hypocritical, don't you think?

Dragonwolf

The Dr.'s health is irrelevant. The Dr. is obligated to tell you what you need to be healthy because that is their job.


However I do know a teacher who hired a tutor for their child, now that's ridiculous.

Why is it so ridiculous? There are a number of reasons a teacher may hire a tutor, not the least of which include time (a teacher's job doesn't end when the school bell rings, and so the teacher may not be able to adequately tutor the child), teaching method (some people simply don't learn well from certain teachers), area of expertise (I wouldn't expect a history teacher to know enough about Calculus to confidently tutor it), and how they handle the relationship with the child (some people believe that relationships shouldn't mix, because the dynamics between a parent-child relationship and a teacher-student relationship are different; and even if they don't believe that relationships shouldn't blur like that, maybe they tried it and a third-party could demand more out of the student than the parent could; it's a known and not uncommon phenomenon).

I was going to say all of this. Exactly. I tried to teach my daughter to read, but she didn't want to do it for me, so she learned at preschool. She was reading at school long before she ever demonstrated the skill for me.

Exactly, you tried working with your child. This woman did not even try, she has no interest in teaching. We're talking a grade school teacher, not wanting to help either of her own children with basic grade school homework, not calculus. She does not enjoy teaching, to the point that she lets her 10 year old grade her students work.

Context works wonders for understanding. Your initial comment said nothing about the teacher's personality.

That said, I can't help but wonder what possessed her to get into teaching in the first place.

cheddle

Do what they are incapable of doing - your doctor being fat, is not an excuse to ignore their advice :-)

Emancipated_Tai

Fat doctors I can understand.

However, please explain to me a fat personal trainer.. this logic still boggles my mind. Your telling me to push hard while you sit back eating donuts and fried chicken :grumble: