maybe if i do he will to?

felicia8604

I have always been a rollercoaster dieter and workouts....i do really good for a month or two then i fall off the wagon. What i am wondering is if i really get into eating clean and exercising will my husband eventually follow? For those of you in relationships did your other half join you? We both could stand to lose a couple lbs but i dont want to hurt his feelings.

AshCakes88

Maybe you should just say something like, "Well if you do this with me, I know that I'll stick with it" that way he won't think you're suggesting that he needs to lose. When I was in a relationship he didn't join me.

HelloSweetie4

My husband and I are both trying to lose weight. We have tried together in the past but it doesn't work well for us because we have different needs with our weight loss. We do enjoy trying out new healthy foods together, but as far exercise, the most we do together is walks on the trails near our house. Other than that, our weight loss plans are separate. I found that doing it this way helps me stay on track and get less discouarged. I have never been as fit as him so he can do a lot more than I can, so I get discouraged. I hate running and biking with him because he goes so much faster than me.
Anywho, the bottom line is, he's going to do what he wants to. Sure you can suggest he do it with you to keep you motivated, but don't get your hopes up. You can only help those who want to help themselves first. However, if you stick with it and he notices you are losing, he may be more apt to join you, knowing that your plan is working for you.

iKapuniai

I've never really had that problem - my hubby has always been in great shape. However, he's gained about 15 pounds in the last two or three years... so instead of telling him straight up that I want him to get back into shape like how he was before, I tell him "Why don't you go to the gym or play basketball the way you used to? I'll watch our son and you go work out. I'd hate for you to start blaming ME for holding you back or anything" lol I still don't think he understands that what I'm REALLY saying is "Get back to the gym or play basketball cause you gained some pounds and the places that were once hard are now a bit flabby" LOL

terri0527

Good luck to you! I couldn't get my hubby to work out with me if I tried and I have numerous times. Although in his defense he has RA, so he isn't capable of exercising like he did in high school but he could still walk with me or whatever. It is what it is and I have learned to live with it. :happy:

EloiseRefocused

I have been striving to change my lifestyle/eating habits for the past two years now.
I figured once I made a drastic change, my hubby would follow along.
He is only a little overweight, but he has diabetes.
But, sadly, my results have not made him change his eating/exercise habits at all.
I ask him to go on a run with me and sometimes he will begrudgingly oblige.
All you can do is hope for the best (:

cramernh

I wont ask my husband to do anything... he needs to come to the conclusion that he wants to do it for himself. If I did anything like this, that would be saying "I dont like the way you look" in his mind... and I love my husband the way he is. Could he stand to lose some weight? Sure.. but he has to come to that point on his own and determine on his own when he is ready.

The one thing my husband willingly did on his own, without my asking, is to experience a meal without potatoes, rice, corn, pasta, breads, etc on occasion. He knows I get very sick with those foods (please dont give the moderation argument - it doesnt apply to my medical problems), and he actually has come to enjoy new things he has never had before back home! He couldnt believe how awesome Spaghetti Squash was... he also loves zucchini as well!

But, there are nights where Im planning on making a hearty beef stew... sorry but you HAVE TO have potatoes in a beef stew... I simply push them aside and he steals them from my plate... I wont let him go without the things he loves...

Pasta nights - I make faux noodles out of eggplant, zucchini or summer squash, but will make regular pasta for him. He is already getting one of those vegetables *(or all), in the marinara that I make so there is no additional work involved. If anything its less waste!

mrsnathanandrew

My fiance was always the one that worked out, and it took me awhile, but I finally followed his foot steps. Now he somewhat follows mine when it comes to eating better.

jennkain97

I have found that when I am "dieting", my husband tends to eat WORSE! Just this morning he said "whatever you lose, I gain!" Of course I pointed out WHY he gains (which he knows anyway). Every man is different, but if you're looking for examples, I'm afraid I can't help

Spanaval

Mine joined me about a month after I started working out. He isn't as careful about the food, but our diet is generally pretty healthy anyway. The really cool thing is that the people he meets once in a while have really started noticing how much leaner he is looking, so it's extra motivation for him.

lottier0311

My boyfriend is very into his fitness. I don't need to lose weight but I personally want to and he knows that so he does encourage me to exercise with him. He doesn't do the food thing though, he's blessed tone able to eat whatever and not put weight on!! But he always doesn't restrict me either, I do that myself. He's always like...you want this/that? I'm like yes!! But I won't have it lol.

BenChase

although kind of the other way around my girlfriend broke up with me after i had changed my life around completely (we were both at 225lbs at the same time, she continued her ways and went up to 235-240 in the same time that i went down to about 165) i tried to encourage her to eat better and excercise with me (without constantly pushing or nagging her) but she chose not to and broke up with me for reasons she didn't care to explain (which the only thing i can think of is her complaining that i excercise too much)...good times! anyway,my point being,don't hold your hopes to high,you can't change someone who doesn't want it,all you can do is hope for the best and try to encourage

MissJay75

I was very candid with my husband about my weight, my body, my plans and my goals. I told him what kinds of things would be helpful in the journey and what would not. I told him what signs to look out for that would indicate I was falling off the wagon. And I asked him to help hold me accountable. A few months into it he decided completely on his own he would also like to get in better shape and lose a few pounds. So far he's lost 10 pounds and I am super proud of him.