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Is it wrong to feel good?

Drenched_N_Motivation
Drenched_N_Motivation Posts: 1,004 Member
edited December 2024 in Motivation and Support
My brother was in a life changing accident a few years ago and is now a paraplegic. We moved in together almost two years ago now and its been going well, all things considered. the problem is, my brother is still pretty down and depressed a lot of the time, although he tries to hide it from me I can see it in him more often than not. For the last couple of months ive been working out, taking supplements, making protein shakes and have just been feeling good about my progress and potential. Lately though, ive started to feel weird around my brother because I have all this positivity going on with myself while hes always down, and it affects me negatively too. I feel bad that there is nothing I can do for him, and it makes me want to regress out of guilt, its hard to explain but I feel like I shouldnt feel good about myself when i'm around him.

I dont know if any of you are, or have been in that situation, maybe its something I just need to get over. Just feels wrong.

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  • sleepytexan
    sleepytexan Posts: 3,138 Member
    Gosh, I am so sorry that happened to your brother, and, to you too.

    No, it's not wrong to feel good.

    Even though someone experiences negative life-changing circumstances, they don't want others around them to stop living life. Your worrying about your brother is natural because you love him. He probably worries about you too.

    blessings.
  • Julz2586
    Julz2586 Posts: 1,330 Member
    I can understand how you would feel like that.

    it's not wrong to feel good, i'm sure you brother wouldn't want you feeling bad for doing something good to yourself.

    chin up babe! {{hugs}} remember i'm always here if you need to talk !
  • PunkyRachel
    PunkyRachel Posts: 1,959 Member
    Sucks that, your going though that. I know you worry about your brother, but it's probably mostly just depression and a pinch of jealousy. I feel like that, around my friends and coworkers. Mainly because I'm "the skinny one" lol which is sad because I'm a size 14 and 199 lbs. I want to brag and be happy about my success, but when I do the people around me get bitter, so that brings me here, cause I feel like I can't be happy around certain people either
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