What in the world do you do when...

CaraColleen

Someone who is at least 100 pounds more than you calls you fat? This girl has called me fat to my face almost 5 times now, and I've finally had it! I don't want to be rude to her and go off on her by comparing our bodies because that is neither positive or productive, but I never know how to react!

Has anyone been in this situation before? I don't want to be rude, but I am tired of being put down and pushed around!

momtokgo

The nice loving side of me says just walk away and keep your comments to yourself, be the bigger person. Shes probaby insecure about herself and is taking it out on you.

The mean angry side of myself would say something along the lines of "really, have you looked in the mirrow lately?"

I am sorry that you're being treated that way though, and I hope things get better.

focus4fitness

I have never had that happen to me, but I have seen it before. I didn't say anything when I heard it because my mouth was on the floor. Someone probably 250 picking on someone 150 about their weight. very strange

MrsMangler

I was staying with a friend this weekend and her mom said something about me being a "big girl". I had to bite my tongue, and hopefully I will just never see her again. I was a little pissed off and completely caught off guard because I was a guest in her home. In addition, she was no particular prize herself. I can understand your frustration and I am sorry for how hurtful people can be! (Just wanted to vent and say I empathize with you.)

So, if this is someone that is unavoidable (which seems to be the case) maybe you can say in conversation at some point, "You know, I hate the word 'fat'. It's such an ugly word and makes the person using the word sound ugly." That would be my passive-aggressive response. If she has a brain, she'll get the hint. If not, just chalk it up to the fact that she's an idiot.

Sidesteal

I have two solutions:

I would like you to try this as it's worked for me in the past.

First, make sure you carry a McDonalds apple pie in your purse with you at all times. The next time you see her, I want you to take the pie out of your purse and nibble on it. When you start eating the pie, look very concerned at your friend. Ask her to come closer.

When she gets right next to you, drop the pie on the floor but make it look like it's an accident. She will bend down to pick it up (trust me, I KNOW she wants the pie *giggity*). When she bends down to pick it up, yank her bra strap as hard as you can and right when you let go of it, asspunch her as hard as you can.

When she falls over and rolls onto her back to look at you in fear, say to her:

"I don't play dat *kitten*, you pie eatin bish*".



The other thing you could try would be to let it go and realize that she's probably projecting her insecurities onto you. You are doing something about your situation and you will take care of things. Whether or not she does the same isn't of your concern. Let it go and lead by example.

Robin_Bin

... if you can manage it, laugh. Isn't it funny?

Really the only other good thing to do is to go ahead and keep getting to the weight you want. "Living well is the best revenge."

She's already hurting; you don't need to make it worse. And saying something is unlikely to make you feel better.

rahrahrita

This has never happened to me, but it's sort of happened to my sister.
My sister has a very defined hourglass figure, especially at the time this happened. She was at Banana Republic where her "friend" worked, and she mentioned that she liked a particular dress. Her friend responded with "Oh, I don't think that would look good on you, you're not thin enough."
Her "friend" was a size 20 and my sister is a size 6.