Removing friends from my list?? Need new support.

Kendra7107

Hello all!
I know this probably reads like a negative post and that's usually not my style but does anyone know if a friend will get a message if I deleted them from my list of friends on MFP?

I have a couple of friends that are no longer working toward their goals so they probably won't notice if I have removed them anyway. However, here lately I have been doing very well but others that started the journey with me are not. I am not judging at all. I realize that we all have to be ready to take the steps needed to change. I have always thought of myself as a good friend, but over the past month I have found myself constantly offering reassurances and motivation to people that aren't as serious as I am about getting healthy. One told a story about stopping at the bakery and buying two pastries and eating them in the car. Why stop?? Anyway, I am starting to feel tired and exhausted from "motivating" others. I also feel like because I have been doing very well and have something positive to report twice a week , I'm starting to sound like I'm boasting.

I feel I need to stop having these little meetings because they aren't helping me. It depresses me and I'm not sure why. Again, I am not casting stones at folks not doing well, I just feel like I need to break away and finish my own journey.

I suppose I'm trying to figure out if I can do that on this site without it coming off as I'm cutting my others loose.

Anyone else have friends that started with you and they fall off while you continue??

arewethereyet

Nope! I made my friends right here on MFP.

In real life ppl do their own thing. Here I know I am with ppl who think at least partly like me.

No judgment for talking about scales, food, exercise, or a really great accomplishment.......like running for 1 whole minute!!

You can delete the ppl in your friends list, but really what will this accomplish? If you feel it will help you, then go ahead...........I have deleted ppl before and they dont get a msg. They just cant post a comment on your profile.

Good luck:flowerforyou:

BrendaLee

You have to do what's best for you. Maybe right now, you just don't have that extra little bit to give...it happens.

I have to say one thing though...do you really not understand how someone with food issues might not be able to resist stopping at a bakery? I've made choices in this journey that others would look at and probably say the same thing to me...why did you do that? I would expect people here to understand that better than anyone else, but it's the main reason I don't make my diary public.

Kendra7107

You're right, I guess it won't accomplish anything just removing the names. We have these weekly meetings set up and out of six of us, only two of us have kept it going. However, when I suggest we cut back, no one wants too.

I think I would like to have my diary and friends separate on here so I can post and get the support I need from others that are making the journey too.

I was so frustrating after our little Monday meeting this morning. No one is doing a thing so I'm the only one talking about getting healthy. It's gotten so old.

I think my live friends will be offended not to be included but I have to do what feels right for me.


Thanks to all of you for reading my VENT this evening. I needed to get this out!!

Kendra7107

You are right! I do understand a person's food issues and stopping at the bakery and I gave her all the motivation and support I was able to this morning . I think you are right. I just don't have anymore to give without getting something back.

jesp1216

you can delete them from your friends list and they won't get a message, although it seems like they are just ranting about how they arnt doing anything they may be looking to you for reassurance and help on how to let's say avoid the bakery, maybe next time you can just tell them to keep driving or somethin, idk do wats best for you and congrats on the weight youve lost