To tell or not to tell

stef_e_b

My bf knows my weight and then knowing the numbers he really wanted to help me more then just saying "oh honey you don't need to lose weight." It helped me to tell him too because I was in quite a bit of denial.

JStarnes

Am I really the only guy to reply to this one???

Anyway, we don't care about the number. Think about what you said, "I don't want him to know I got this fat" ?????????

Really?? He can SEE how fat you got, obviously he doesn't care about that. You telling him the number doesn't change what you look like. Men are visual beings (like someone else said) so you can tell him you weigh 400 pounds, he will look at you, say to himself "well, she still looks the same" and not give a rat's butt.

And ladies, men are clueless, like you said, because we really don't give a crap about the number. If we wanted to know, we would find out :glasses: :happy:

:happy: listen to him ladies - he's right. IMO. my hubs always guesses WAY higher than i am i dont' mind telling him what i weigh...i figure if he doesn't ''know'' the number, he can "tell" in other areas of the relationship if my weight has gone up or down.. lol

thumper44

I was having a talk with my bf about my weight loss and what my final goal is, I was telling him I wasn't sure what my actual goal is and that I might just figure it out when I get a little closer. So he was talking about well in a few pounds when your down to like 170 or so, you'll probably have a better idea...... Oh boy umm when I'm 170 in a few pounds?? I'm 210 lbs!! HE obviously has no clue how much I weigh and now I'm wondering if I should tell him or not.
We are very open and he's been so very supportive of me trying to get healthy so I know he wouldn't judge me and it could help to have him know exactly how big of a deal all of it is and how much I really have to lose.
But then part of me never wants him to know I got this fat!!!!! Would you tell him?

Am I really the only guy to reply to this one???

Anyway, we don't care about the number. Think about what you said, "I don't want him to know I got this fat" ?????????

Really?? He can SEE how fat you got, obviously he doesn't care about that. You telling him the number doesn't change what you look like. Men are visual beings (like someone else said) so you can tell him you weigh 400 pounds, he will look at you, say to himself "well, she still looks the same" and not give a rat's butt.

And ladies, men are clueless, like you said, because we really don't give a crap about the number. If we wanted to know, we would find out :glasses: :happy:

I agree, we have no clue.
I think being honest with your other half is better, we won't care of the number, we want you to be healthy.
On the other side of teh coin.
SOME men....... I do say SOME, because not all men think like this.
If they see you hiding something like a weight number from them.. They might wonder if your hiding anything else ?

Daisy_May

Well it's settled, I dont' think I'll be telling him! Last night we were watching much to love and I made a comment on how one of the girls didn't look fat and he was all "honey she ways over 200lbs of course she is!!" so ya I think I won't be telling him until I'm way into the 180's if I tell him at all.
He was totally trying to figure it out though, he was asking me quaestions about how much I weighed when we met and stuff so I just said, 18lbs less then I do now:laugh:
I dont' know whether it's a good or bad thing that he couldn't tell the differnce between me then or when I was at my heavist 35lbs later.

Hannah_Banana

Here's the thing - if you look around the 170s to him, that won't change if he finds out how much you REALLY weigh. He will still SEE the same thing, some number doesn't mean anything to him. The concept of what '210lbs' looks like is not what people REALLY think it looks like. They have done polls and weight is an extremely misunderstood concept in this country. They put up a woman who was about 165lbs (a little chubby, but not 'FAT') and people would guess her at 135. To Americans, anything over 125 is grossly obese, even though there are a lot of supermodels who weigh more than that. :laugh:

Leigh14

I was reading through this. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and he doesn't know what I weigh. He weighs 270. I used to weigh 280, but I'm down to 244. After reading this, I was curious to know what he thinks I weigh... so, I texted him and he said.................

195. :noway: :noway: :noway: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

thumper44

I was reading through this. I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years and he doesn't know what I weigh. He weighs 270. I used to weigh 280, but I'm down to 244. After reading this, I was curious to know what he thinks I weigh... so, I texted him and he said.................

195. :noway: :noway: :noway: :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

Not to say anything against your b/f's response, but in general.

Some men know, that when/if we do guess. We HAVE to under estimate what we might think.:blushing:
Many, Many men have pissed off their spouse because they estimated on the heavy side.

Men will think about a weight, and then subtract extra to be on the safe side and try and stay out of the doghouse.:laugh: :drinker:

angl

Ive been married 33 years and our whole relationship is about telling the truth.
And now you have him wondering and guessing. I would tell him if he wants to know. He will be more supportive if he knows the TRUTH.
BE TRUE TO YOURSELF AND HIM.
angl:bigsmile:

JStarnes

wow - congrats on 33 years!!! :flowerforyou: someone to look up to!! i'm just 3 years in lol

kankan213

I.... LIE!
I tell everyone I weigh 125. I will eventually...lol