did you break up because??

felice03
felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
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There was an interesting topic on the radio on my way into work today that I thought I would bring to my MFP peeps...
There was a survey done that the number 2 reason women break up with their partner was because of differences in eating habits. Now I think it being rated at no.2 is probably a stretch (and probably completely unscientific), but I am sure there are plenty of cases out there. It did not specifically say it was due to weight issues, it could also be due to food preferences etc. So what say you? Have you/would you leave someone because of their eating habits....have you been on the receiving end of this...would someones eating habit prevent you from even entering into a relationship with someone??
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  • SirZee
    SirZee Posts: 381
    No.


    Edit: I know, short answer :) I can't see changing your mind about someone because of their eating, and then quitting. If I didn't like it (ex, eating unhealthy) and I care about the person (else why be with them in the first place), then my duty would be to help with the struggle instead of abandon them.
  • GermanicKnight
    GermanicKnight Posts: 445
    My spouse yells at me for eating different than her 90% of the time. I mean YELLS. She keeps it up, and I am out the door! I cannot take the abuse! She wants me to eat white bread, hot dogs, and cake!
  • ZombieChaser
    ZombieChaser Posts: 1,555 Member
    If the eating habits include drinking habits, then yes.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    only if her eating habit was cannibalism.
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    I almost broke up with my husband when we were first dating because he sounded like a pig sucking on a sow when he ate. Geesh that disgusted me. He was never taught any kind of table manners and as someone that was taught impeccable table manners from an early age, I almost had to walk away. I finally had enough and broke down and told him. He tries but I swear, 14 years later, the dude still sometimes chews with his mouth open and smacks his lips. All in all, that is one of the worst things he does so he is still worth it, glad I stuck it out instead of running for the hills like I normally would.
  • reallyregina
    reallyregina Posts: 62 Member
    Definitely not.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I don't think I would, and I haven't before....but then again I dated a lot of psychos LOL. I can see the reasoning though, as some would view their significant other as a reflection of themselves.....it's a selfish view, but I can understand the rationale \m/
  • jennifer52484
    jennifer52484 Posts: 888 Member
    I do not think it is a valid reason to break up, but I can see how it can effect a relationship. I've been on a strict diet and exercise plan for 11 months now, and I can see it is getting to my husband. We don't get to eat together, we don't spend time at restaurants together anymore, and my nights are spent at the gym. When you stop sharing small details of your life together, there becomes a void. Some people can't handle to void. Luckily, my husband and I made it through and my strict diet is over as of this Sunday.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    one women called in and gave the example of her ex (who she admitted was over weight and she is not) would stop and get fast food on the way over to her house to have dinner...eat Mcdonalds, then eat the meal.
  • Lotte34
    Lotte34 Posts: 429 Member
    Ive considered leaving my partner because he eats so much i no longer find him physically attractive, but his mannors and eating style are perfectly acceptable (just rather frequent)

    No i think you are right, its a wild exageration, i mean come on in the 90s they said that the number 1 reason for a couple breaking up was someone squeezing the toothpaste in the middle
  • Lotte34
    Lotte34 Posts: 429 Member
    That i would consider rude! If i have just slaved over a cooker to make something special and you nip to Macdonals first..... I would consider that quite offensive
  • mogletdeluxe
    mogletdeluxe Posts: 623 Member
    I was talking to The Man about this this weekend. He's been with me since when I was at my biggest, and has always been quietly supportive (which I'm eternally grateful to him for; it's meant the world).

    Diet, weight loss, lifestyle changes such as the gym...whilst they're all measures for improvement, it's amazing how many people I know who have lost weight and as a result lost a partner. The reasons range from insecurity on the partner's part; increased confidence and therefore courage to actually leave; too much time spent at the gym (a few of my girlfriends have 'zumba widows') - the list goes on!
  • htmlgirl
    htmlgirl Posts: 314 Member
    No I wouldn't... being married I agreed to be with him for life and unless there's infidelity or a bigger issue, I wouldn't leave him. Not really sure how I would feel if he were just a boyfriend, but the answer would probably be the same. I guess I would have a hard time if he was actively against me eating healthy and going to the gym, but he tried to be supportive.

    I have found that I can "trick" my husband into eating healthier when I actually make dinner. I think one of the main reasons why he eats so much junk is that he is lazy when he comes home (don't blame him one bit) and it's easy to just grab something. I should probably learn to cook more things.
  • lickmybaconcakes
    lickmybaconcakes Posts: 1,063 Member
    well if you don't like bacon...
  • silhouettes
    silhouettes Posts: 517 Member
    I'm dieting my husband is trying to.. but he eats WAY worse than I do. It doesn't bother me anymore. He can have that twinkie, while I eat my strawberries, /shrug.
  • sculley
    sculley Posts: 2,012 Member
    If the eating habits include drinking habits, then yes.

    This^^

    But eating habits no....Even though I have wanted to knock my husband in the head with a pillow for bringing a big bowl of blue bell ice cream to bed every night....UGH! lol
  • aliceguy
    aliceguy Posts: 128 Member
    No..we broke up because she had the attention span of a goldfish and would happily kiss or screw anything interesting that came along in the following 10mins she could be bothered to hold her attention span for....

    She now works selling mobile phones.....

    So we broke up because of the dishonesty, not eatin habits etc....sorry to say...
  • TylerJ76
    TylerJ76 Posts: 4,375 Member
    Hookers & Blow??
  • roachhaley
    roachhaley Posts: 978 Member
    Why would it bother anyone? My boyfriend eats completely different food than me. Has almost no impact on our lives.


    Oh except he's a loud chewer. FUUUUUUU I CAN NOT STAND CHEWING NOISES! I know I make them too but siuhgsiuhfaiudhawid.
  • NNAhuja
    NNAhuja Posts: 669 Member
    There was an interesting topic on the radio on my way into work today that I thought I would bring to my MFP peeps...
    There was a survey done that the number 2 reason women break up with their partner was because of differences in eating habits. Now I think it being rated at no.2 is probably a stretch (and probably completely unscientific), but I am sure there are plenty of cases out there. It did not specifically say it was due to weight issues, it could also be due to food preferences etc. So what say you? Have you/would you leave someone because of their eating habits....have you been on the receiving end of this...would someones eating habit prevent you from even entering into a relationship with someone??
    An ex of mine, God bless him, has the metabolism others would pray for. He'd eat 5 hot dogs, an order of fries, and drink a large coke, not EVER excercise, and stay 6'1 150 pounds! I on the other hand wouldn't do as bad as my former lover and pick up weight easily! Now I'd probably would end things just because it wouldn't work for how I'm living my life. The sodium from eating out along with the fat and sugar would cause me to gain everything I lost and then some.
    By the way, this isn't the reason we broke up. We broke up because he's a mama's boy.
  • AmberJslimsAWAY
    AmberJslimsAWAY Posts: 2,339 Member
    I've gotten in a few fights about it with an ex, but it was mainly because we agreed we were going to do the whole weight loss thing together, and he was just fucking lazy
  • nlenz16
    nlenz16 Posts: 73
    If the eating habits include drinking habits, then yes.

    ^^^ agreeeeed. But just food wise, no. My fiancé eats ridiculously horrible. Like a box of Mac and Cheese, 3 brats, ice cream and a box of cookies in one sitting. I wouldn't ever leave him for that. (I'm just jealous he can eat it all and not gain a pound -LOL!)
  • SheilaSisco
    SheilaSisco Posts: 722 Member
    I guess that depends on how strongly you feel for the person, really. But would say if you are in a committed relationship, you'd have to care about them to a certain degree... and I would not leave someone I cared about over something so trivial. There are just some things you overlook if you love somebody...
  • ironanimal
    ironanimal Posts: 5,922 Member
    The only time I can see it being an issue is if one partner was being self-righteous about their diet, or if one was being self-destructive through their eating and refusing to listen to what their partner had to say.

    My girlfriend looks at everything I cook funny to start with, as she's quite a fussy eater, but she usually ends up liking it :D
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    Hookers & Blow??

    :flowerforyou:
  • Lesa_Sass
    Lesa_Sass Posts: 2,213 Member
    Hookers & Blow??

    HAHAH, that broke me and my ex up. Best thing that ever happened to me. And btw, he was the one doing the hookers and blow.
  • _hi_hat3r_
    _hi_hat3r_ Posts: 423 Member
    Only if she eats liver and pig intestines.
  • amivox
    amivox Posts: 441 Member
    I broke up with my ex for a number of reasons. The number one being that alcohol, in excess, became a daily staple in his diet. So much happier with my current guy, who only drinks on occasion. He eats way different than me, though. I am a vegetarian, he is a meat lover lol. He has learned to season and cook my food, taught me new recipes, and has been really supportive of my choices.
  • 10acity
    10acity Posts: 798 Member
    No.


    Edit: I know, short answer :) I can't see changing your mind about someone because of their eating, and then quitting. If I didn't like it (ex, eating unhealthy) and I care about the person (else why be with them in the first place), then my duty would be to help with the struggle instead of abandon them.

    What he said.

    I could see myself possibly not getting into a relationship in the first place because it negatively impacted my health, but once I've made that decision, food seems like a pretty piss-poor reason to go back on it.
  • Methinksabout
    Methinksabout Posts: 153
    I can see how this view:
    Edit: I know, short answer :) I can't see changing your mind about someone because of their eating, and then quitting. If I didn't like it (ex, eating unhealthy) and I care about the person (else why be with them in the first place), then my duty would be to help with the struggle instead of abandon them.

    and (on the receiving end) this view:
    My spouse yells at me for eating different than her 90% of the time. I mean YELLS. She keeps it up, and I am out the door!

    (even if you just replace YELL with NAG). So I actually do see how something silly like eating differently can cause problems in a relationship..

    So I am someone who does not like to be told what I shall and shan't eat. So if someone is so persistent in his duty to help me (while I DO NOT want to be helped?) I could not be able to just ignore it - it would definitely affect the relationship

    Otherwise I'd say no - I don't care (well only a bit maybe :-)) about what other people eat, seeing as they are old enough and responsible for their own health (to a degree), as long as their eating does not affect me negatively or they are trying to force something (food or attitute, doesn't matter) on me.

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