WTH? I feel disgusting!

Rays_Wife

Simple. Believe you can do this and follow through. Shut that negative talk up in your head whenever you feel it coming on. Replace every negative thought with a positive. It seems stupid and awkward at first but it gets easier. I used to be just like you...hell I WAS you! Yo-yo dieted practically my whole life - well at least 20 years of it! Dieted my way up to almost 300 pounds and the fact that I was almost 300 pounds scared the s#*t out of me. I decided I was going to get off this rollercoaster once and for all, and no matter how hard it was and how long it took I WAS GOING TO DO THIS. And I am. If I can do it, the queen of starting things and never following through, anyone can. When I feel like giving up I tell myself "You can do this!" There are no quick fixes and admit it, that's what everybody wants. But the truth is like others have said - weight loss is NO cakewalk. This is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do my whole life. Quit wallowing in self pity and start DOING this. Practice some tough love on yourself. Kick yourself in the pants!! Need me to come kick your butt for you??? :bigsmile:

YOU CAN DO THIS. YOU'RE NEVER A FAILURE UNLESS YOU STOP TRYING. Don't give up hope. Don't focus on the big picture, take it day by day. Focus on making TODAY a great day. Make small goals. And add me as a friend

robinhardysmall

One day at a time and you will begin to see changes- if it goes in your mouth put it in your log. I have been up and down with weight all of my life as well ~ but it changed May 12th- that was the day I started changing my lifestyle.

This is a great place for support and advice if it is needed~ feel free to add me as a friend and know that there are so many here in the same place as you- we all have differnt stories as to how we got here- but we are here to change.

Give yourself little presents along the way- at 10 pounds (1 more pound to go) I get to go buy a new shirt~ it may be a cheap little shirt from Walmart or Target- but its a present to me. Twenty pounds- well that's my new pants coming into my wardrobe~ you notice there is no food incentive- but material- that way I can see my reward- not feel it on my hips the next morning

Feel free to add me as a friend - and I will always be a support system for you~ best of luck on your journey!

valerie521

Tell your brain to butt out of your body's business and do it to spite the girl that says you cant.

Realise that the condescending discouraging b*tch in your brain has another nemesis inside of you. The Athlete with her mouth duct taped and her arms bound, locked in the dark.

Which one do you think is worth saving?

Hint: The athlete inside you can help you kill that toxic frenemy that got in your head. All you have to do is bond with her. Name hr if you have to, visualise what she looks like, take her wth you on every workout, to every meal and anytime you hear that other voice say you cant do it and it wont work... You and your rescued athlete can flip her off.

....and someday beat the sht out of her.

You are not a special snowflake. If we can do it, there's no reason you cant, either.

^ I was gonna say something but I really can't top that.

Me too this.....

Yup me three

and me four -- awesome LOVE

rbrannock

I needed this post today and all those positive comments! THANKS!

katejkelley

Set a series of small, achievable goals for yourself, such as: I will walk 10 miles this week. I will record everything I eat this week. I will lose 5 pounds by the end of July. Then, as you reach each goal, celebrate and reward yourself with something nice (new clothes or a trip somewhere fun). Then set the next goal. Too often we tell ourselves we need to lose a huge amount of weight, and it just seems impossible. As many of already posted, we have to take it one day at a time. But if you set small, daily goals, weekly goals, and monthly goals - you're always achieving something.

mchall03

I guess what did it for me was looking at this as a change in who I am, and not a diet. Diets always seemed like a temporary thing to get to a spot. The problem was if I got to that spot and went "off the diet" I would just end up being fat again. The reason I was 320 was not the lack of being on a diet it was the lack of a healthy outlook on life.

THIS. I believe this is the most important component to losing weight and becoming healthy... realizing that you need to make a lifestyle change. It will keep you from getting discouraged, let you know that it is okay to indulge a little in "unhealthy" food on occasion, and encourage you because you know the change you are making is much more important than numbers on a scale. Good luck!

iLoveMyPitbull1225

I guess what did it for me was looking at this as a change in who I am, and not a diet.

This is a good insight and should be great advice to you..You ought think about it as bettering yourself, and improving your whole life.

jcstanton

I guess what did it for me was looking at this as a change in who I am, and not a diet. Diets always seemed like a temporary thing to get to a spot. The problem was if I got to that spot and went "off the diet" I would just end up being fat again. The reason I was 320 was not the lack of being on a diet it was the lack of a healthy outlook on life.

^^THIS! A "diet" is plain and simply what you eat, so don't think of it as "going on a diet". You're ALWAYS on a diet. It's the QUALITY of your diet that counts, so think of it as changing your lifestyle instead. It takes time to form habits--good or bad. It's all about baby steps. Any step forward--even a small one--is a step in the right direction. It seems overwhelming right now because you are just getting started, but give yourself credit for recognizing the need for change. Set smaller short term goals for yourself instead of looking at that final goal weight, as that can be quite daunting. A friend once told me, "How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time." Persistency, consistency, determination, and motivation are the keys to success. Above all, DON'T QUIT!!! If you fall off the wagon, get right back on. I promise you won't regret it.

2012asv

The only thing that will prevent you from reaching your goal is you. We've gotten so used to being the way we are and "accepting" it. Buying more "forgiving" clothes and ignoring the labels on our food. It took us a long time to get this way physically and mentally... it will also take a good amount of time to "un-do" it.

My biggest struggle is not food or exercise, its ME. Me being negative and mean to myself. I think once we learn to forgive and love our self, AND be patient... this will become less straining.

That's great that you joined Weight Watchers, I've heard many good things about it. Dedicate yourself, then allow time. It WILL happen. You CAN do it. I see 11 pounds lost on my ticker, and honestly it's SO hard for me to believe I did that. I never thought it would happen. Took a long time, but the point is it "did" happen.

Think happy thoughts:flowerforyou:

beckysweetpea

i get the same feeling everyday and im sure most people here have had the same feeling, i dont see it as either a lifestyle change or dieting, to me at this point if i want to continue to live a good life, its what i have to do. we are all our own worst enemy and biggest harshest critic, but you are in control of yourself and what you ultimately want to be. Perservere, be determined and have faith. if you slip up, then so be it as long as you can get back on that bike, whether it be continuously getting back on, then keep trying. i keep hitting a certain point in my weight loss and then i fall off the wagon, but i choose to continue with my weight loss.

no matter what happens, be strong and take what you want, you deserve all good things and they will come to you.

Blasescorso

Thank you EVERYONE for your understanding, support and wisdom! Although I hate the way I look in the mirror, Alot of it for me is about getting healthy also, mind-body-soul. I will be reading your posts over and over again over the next few days until it all sinks in...you are all great!:flowerforyou: