New- Need support

mollyr31

Hello all! I am a 23 year old mother of 2 boys who are 3 and 1. I have a fiance who isn't really supportive of me losing weight but he seems to think he is. He is all for me losing weight but he doesn't help me and he doesn't motivate me. I don't really have anyone supporting me and I would love to lose this baby weight. I am 5'3 and before kids I was 110 lbs, after I am 152. I am moritified by this (not judging anyone else but myself here) We go on bike rides with the kids in the trailor on the back of my bike 2 nights a week since my fiance works 2nd shift, so saturdays and sudays we go. I recently bought a double jogging stroller in hopes to someday (sooner rather than later) be able to use that to it's full potential.
I just love food too much, and not the good kind. Every woman in my family is over weight, and not just immediate family all the aunts and cousins on both sides of the family. So I have always been the oddball skinny one, even now at 152 lbs Im the smallest in my family. I usually eat a bowl of cereal after dinner at around 9, which I know I need to stop doing. My fiance thinks that for lunch everyday we have to eat out, which is causing 2 problems, one being my weight and 2 being money but that's a different story. He makes me so mad, because he is all for me losing weight but then wants to eat out everyday, which is hard on me.
I have zero motivation to excercise, but love the idea of it and think I would do well if I had someone that was actually there cheering me on (not literally during excercise). I have no friends really, so there is no help there, but I want to get healthy, and I want to be able to run around with the boys, and I want to be skinny again.
I am not setting an unrealilistic goal, I would be happy at 130 at this point, and I have a dress that I would like to fit in by my birthday (July 31) and it is just a tad too small because it won't zip I want to fit in my clothes again. After I had my second child I left the hospital at 138. I have gained 14 lbs since then! I am breastfeeding (weaning currently) and on the depo shot which both cause me to be hungry so I eat.
I just need some buddys to help motivate me and help me through this so Im not alone in this. Help please?

JTManiac

That's great news that you want to lose weight and get healthier. First thing I would say is that losing weight shouldn't be a main motivator. It happens to many people that when that is used, once the weight is off they fall back into the same routines and 'hello' the weight is back and usually more than before. I am constantly saying it needs to be a lifestyle change. Your eating habits and activity level needs to change. With doing that you will be on your way to a healthier lifestyle and a bonus of weight loss. Support is very important to many people and can be what you need to get over the bump and get things going. You can add me and I will do what I can to help with the support and accountability. First thing I would suggest is talking with your fiance that eating out is difficult for you. It is counter productive to what you are trying to do and is not really being supportive. Home cooked meals offer alot of benefits besides more control of the nutritional aspect. It can offer more time with the family too. Just some things to mull over. Good luck on your journey to a healthier life.