Guy Question... Any Input Welcome...
stephgreene
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So, it has recently come to my attention that a guy I go to school with is interested in me (whether it be for a one night stand or something more, I'm not sure yet - we talk a decent amount via text messages, but not so much the last couple of days). Anyway, this guy has a 6-pack and is EXTREMELY good looking. I became friends with him around November and have maintained that friendship.
Basically, why would a guy that good looking go after someone that's minimum 50lbs overweight? He can do so much better and it's not even a matter of my confidence, it just doesn't make sense to me. I've just been going with it since he's nice to me and makes me feel great and makes me laugh when we do talk. I just don't get it... help!
Basically, why would a guy that good looking go after someone that's minimum 50lbs overweight? He can do so much better and it's not even a matter of my confidence, it just doesn't make sense to me. I've just been going with it since he's nice to me and makes me feel great and makes me laugh when we do talk. I just don't get it... help!
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This post makes me really sad. Lose that attitude right away, you are a beautiful girl. It's obvious why he would be attracted to you, but it's sad that you don't see it that way.
Learn to love yourself more!!!0 -
Personality....sense of humor (yours on both accounts) you are cute, I say go for it0
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Personality....sense of humor (yours on both accounts) you are cute, I say go for it
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100%....take a leap and go for it girl! 0 -
Lose that attitude right away, you are a beautiful girl.
Amen!
Your weight doesn't make you YOU. You are more than just a number on a scale.0 -
So, it has recently come to my attention that a guy I go to school with is interested in me (whether it be for a one night stand or something more, I'm not sure yet - we talk a decent amount via text messages, but not so much the last couple of days). Anyway, this guy has a 6-pack and is EXTREMELY good looking. I became friends with him around November and have maintained that friendship.
Basically, why would a guy that good looking go after someone that's minimum 50lbs overweight? He can do so much better and it's not even a matter of my confidence, it just doesn't make sense to me. I've just been going with it since he's nice to me and makes me feel great and makes me laugh when we do talk. I just don't get it... help!
HE CAN DO SO MUCH BETTER BUT ITS NOT A MATTER OF CONVIDENCE? THEN WHAT IS IT?0 -
Agreed with posted above... what makes you think you are not just as good if not a better catch? You have a lot to offer and don't ever think that you are anything less.
Now let me tell you about a 6 pack... It is nice to look at but he could be a self absorbed jerk. He could be a poor or selfish lover...
Just remember that you are worthy and precious. He is lucky to have your attention.0 -
Maybe cause you are gorgeous? But hey.. I'm a guy.. what do I know right? 0
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Who cares he likes you and is a good guy go for it lol its not like its never happened before.
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Wow there are sooooo many other things involved in a person than weight!
Ummm there are even other LOOKS he could be interested in.
Maybe he likes bigger girls?
That's just looks!
Personality? Intelligence? Friendliness?
I don't know you, I don't know what he likes, but obviously there is something.0 -
You are super cute and look great, wonderful curves! You have a great smile as well!!0
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Honey do not question it. Take it from me...My husband is nothing but muscle...like literally he has about 5% body fat, from what his doctor said that is about the body fat of an olympic athlete....when we swim and he holds his breath under water...he sinks. He has thee most amazing body I have ever seen on a man...so well proportioned and rippled but not over so that he looks like a meat head....but he picked me! we have been married for 6 years together 10 and even at 240 lbs that man could not keep his hands off of me. so trust me don't question it...just go with it...have fun and if it turns to something more then yay! if not well at least you know that you are pretty enough, funny enough, smart enough, and a great enough person to get whom ever you like
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I agree with many of of the posters...he likes you for you....go out with him see how things roll and if he isn't what you thought then no harm no foul. From what I see you are a pretty gal....go for it!0
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i PROMISE i wasn't fishing for compliments (but thanks guys you made me blush :flowerforyou: ) and okokokok you all caught me it's a confidence thing... and I promise he really is a nice guy from what I've known of him for the last 7 months I've been friends with him... just so nerve wracking! I'm terrible with boys.... not that you all couldn't already have figured that out...0
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Yeap. Contrary to popular belief, there are millions of us that are not interested in what's going on between your legs, but what's going on between your eyes. Attraction is not as simply as the physical, despite what the youth of today and American modern culture would have you believe. Don't let your self-doubt ruin a potentially good thing. There is no harm in getting to know him deeper and developing something that clearly the both of you value. How sad that something so real has to be tainted by our own superficial past experiences? Good luck kiddo 0
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i PROMISE i wasn't fishing for compliments (but thanks guys you made me blush :flowerforyou: ) and okokokok you all caught me it's a confidence thing... and I promise he really is a nice guy from what I've known of him for the last 7 months I've been friends with him... just so nerve wracking! I'm terrible with boys.... not that you all couldn't already have figured that out...
just relax and be yourself, if he really digs you, you will know...and now a days, nothing wrong with the woman making the first move.0 -
girl he likes you FOR YOU! don't question it. accept it and be proud of it!0
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i PROMISE i wasn't fishing for compliments (but thanks guys you made me blush :flowerforyou: ) and okokokok you all caught me it's a confidence thing... and I promise he really is a nice guy from what I've known of him for the last 7 months I've been friends with him... just so nerve wracking! I'm terrible with boys.... not that you all couldn't already have figured that out...
just relax and be yourself, if he really digs you, you will know...and now a days, nothing wrong with the woman making the first move.
he more than made the first move... more than once haha! but, we live an hour away from each other for the summer so we obviously have to be committed on some level if we're going to actually see each other. time will tell i guess0 -
I live in the middle of no where so an hour really isn't that far for me...and if you really want to be together, you will figure out a way to make it work...good luck!0
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This post makes me really sad. Lose that attitude right away, you are a beautiful girl. It's obvious why he would be attracted to you, but it's sad that you don't see it that way.
Learn to love yourself more!!!
Agreed. It's clear that you bring a lot to the table. Maybe you don't recognize those great qualities because they are the norm for you, but I'm sure any guy would be lucky to have you. You seem like such a sweetheart, so I don't doubt that he would like you. Go for it and take a chance. If it doesn't work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea!0 -
You look fairly good looking to me. BTW, while physical attraction is clearly a factor in attraction, its not the only factor (and alot of times, not even a significant factor). My ex was technically way out of my league. A girl I'm seeing nowadays is also out of my league (looks-wise). However, I know better than to ask them the question of WHY they're with me. I just believe its fate and there must be something they saw in me. I stuck around for more than their looks also, I actually like spending time with them (which this fella you talking about also seems to).
tl;dr: Stop questioning yourself. Unless its your money he's after, no real reason to dig around WHY he's attracted to you imo0 -
Please realize this...My wife is a super-hottie, I on the other hand am 80 lbs overweight. She has never made a malicious remark about my weight. She does want me to lose weight strictly for health reasons and now I am here. What I have noticed is that making friends on this sight helps out alot0
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I so agree, making friends that know your goals helps out so much! They keep you accountable and make you push hard for what you want!Please realize this...My wife is a super-hottie, I on the other hand am 80 lbs overweight. She has never made a malicious remark about my weight. She does want me to lose weight strictly for health reasons and now I am here. What I have noticed is that making friends on this sight helps out alot0 -
Having more weight on you than you would like does not make you a more or less attractive person..And it definatly does not make you a better or worse person. You are beautiful and deserve to believe so.0
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So, it has recently come to my attention that a guy I go to school with is interested in me (whether it be for a one night stand or something more, I'm not sure yet - we talk a decent amount via text messages, but not so much the last couple of days). Anyway, this guy has a 6-pack and is EXTREMELY good looking. I became friends with him around November and have maintained that friendship.
Basically, why would a guy that good looking go after someone that's minimum 50lbs overweight? He can do so much better and it's not even a matter of my confidence, it just doesn't make sense to me. I've just been going with it since he's nice to me and makes me feel great and makes me laugh when we do talk. I just don't get it... help!
No he can`t do so much better,it is not a contest it is about liking you for who you are as you are so accept it and feel the same towards yourself.0 -
Guy's are a lot simpler than you think. Women seem to over think us. You get 10 guys together looking at a variety of women. You're more than likely to get 10 different 1-10 scales. We all just have our own taste,and if he likes you. Its his taste, so go for it,.0
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even a toad is beautiful. AND YOUR NOT A TOAD!!!! Guys don't just look at the person's physical aspects, some do sadly. Personality counts more than physical beauty, and emotional attachments can lead to years of marriage, if it comes to that.
I guess what I am trying to say, You are more than a slab of meat to him. You are a beautiful rose, that has caught his eye, in this world of grey. If it becomes more, or if you guys just remain friends, remember that.
Friendships are some of the best points to start a relationship, you both know each other and wish to learn more.
So, I would say drop the "I am not worth" attitude, that is my line :P0 -
First: You are beautiful.
Second:
Been there, wasted 5.5 years, done that. :P Just make sure he's going to treat YOU well..Now let me tell you about a 6 pack... It is nice to look at but he could be a self absorbed jerk. He could be a poor or selfish lover...
Third: I'm learning that not ALL guys are all about looks and weight. Maybe this dude isn't shallow? That's a keeper. 0 -
Good looking guy interested in someone because of their personality.
Must be the devil incarnate.0 -
Yeap. Contrary to popular belief, there are millions of us that are not interested in what's going on between your legs, but what's going on between your eyes. Attraction is not as simply as the physical, despite what the youth of today and American modern culture would have you believe. Don't let your self-doubt ruin a potentially good thing. There is no harm in getting to know him deeper and developing something that clearly the both of you value. How sad that something so real has to be tainted by our own superficial past experiences? Good luck kiddo
I was gonna add something, but this post was awesome. Just go with it! You're a cutie! Nothin' to worry about. 0 -
I just looked at your profile Pics.. You are such a cutie! I like how this guy has been treating you so far!:flowerforyou: Im gonna be honest and say i would probably think the same way as you , if a guy showed me a lot of attention...BUT , i would take each day at a time and enjoy his company I think the more consistent he is, in his attention towards you, the more confident you will get that he is for real.
Im excited and hopeful for you!!
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