relationship boy/girl who should be into love more..

hedgiie

in relationship there is an argument on how a relationship should work, who should be loving more?

to make this work increment a number of your preference, this comes in two parts,

1. Which do you think should work?
a. boy should love more. -
b. girl should love more. -
c. equal. -
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. -
f. regardless - 1


2. What's your current situation?
a. boy should love more. -
b. girl should love more. -
c. equal. -
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. -
f. regardless - 1

hedgiie

let's do this, this could be interesting, add your comments too if you like

Beleren

This is kind of an odd topic, but I'd say equal on both parts would be ideal?

o_o

Edit: This is how it is with my boyfriend.

hedgiie

This is kind of an odd topic, but I'd say equal on both parts would be ideal?

o_o

thanks, i think your not in relationship right now... so i increment the "equal". thanks for sharing

in relationship there is an argument on how a relationship should work, who should be loving more?

to make this work increment a number of your preference, this comes in two parts,

1. Which do you think should work?
a. boy should love more. -
b. girl should love more. -
c. equal. - 1
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. -
f. regardless - 1


2. What's your current situation?
a. boy should love more. -
b. girl should love more. -
c. equal. -
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. -
f. regardless - 1

driaxx

1. Equal
2. Love is not important. Particularly because my partner has made a point to tell me several times that he doesn't love me even though I haven't asked. So now if he were to tell me, I wouldn't give a *kitten* anymore.

Beleren

1. Equal
2. Love is not important. Particularly because my partner has made a point to tell me several times that he doesn't love me even though I haven't asked. So now if he were to tell me, I wouldn't give a *kitten* anymore.

Meg_78

Current relationship 13 years, Equal
Previous 2 years, he loved me more.

I think that in relationships one partner always loves the other partner more, even if its as close as 49/51%. However I also think that it is not always stuck like that, so it works out to be even. There are some days and weeks when I love my husband more. And others where he loves me a little more but overall we love each other equally and that's why its a stable, healthy and long lasting relationship. In my last one it was more like 40/60% I was the 40% and I was awful. I found my self acting like a child and pushing his limits to see when he would stop me. I decided I never wanted to be like that again.

I think that one should aim to keep the relationship as even as possible. Noone should never step into one when you know that its going to be uneven love cause in the end all that causes is alot of resentment and hurt.

CassieReannan

1. Equal
2. Equal

erinkeely4

Of course it should be equal!

My current relationship is definitely equal.

Also this is a little sexist. The idea that anyone should think a boy or girl should love more in a relationship based on their gender is ludicrous. And also this assumes relationships are male + female.

jlbay

And...how exactly do you measure love? I'm serious about this - you can't measure something like that. People love in different ways, too. Express love in different ways. Love means different things to different people. Believe me, I've found that out the hard way.

Relationships change over time and how you feel about your partner changes over time.

What if it is a same sex relationship? Then who's supposed to love more?

Woa - I just think this question misses the point of being in a relationship entirely. If you are adding up the "love" - keeping score sheets...you have missed the point, IMHO! You can't reduce your feelings about another person to a score sheet.

melaniecheeks

Yes I don't really understand the question either - everyone expresses their love differently so how do you say which is more?

I'm married, we've been together for 7 years, with one split of 6 months in that time.

I think I show my love for him through cooking nice meals, telling him how much he means to me, little texts through the day.

He is a gadget freak, and will show his love by buying me a gadget (last one was an iPad), and is whisking me off on a Mediterranean cruise next week.

How on earth do you "measure" those contributions to our relationship?

TDGee

AtticusFinch

in relationship there is an argument on how a relationship should work, who should be loving more?

Is there? I've never heard of it. The feeling should be as mutual as possible really, or it's not a full relationship. The flames of passion may die down over decades, but if that basis of love dies too what's left?

I'm trying to make my mind up if this a trolling attempt, or you've just wandered over from a teenage chat room.

ukloveme

I remember my mum saying to me a woman should always makes sure she marrys a man that loves her more than she loves him. The reason shegave was the man will always do more.

hedgiie

to make this work increment a number of your preference, this comes in two parts,

1. Which do you think should work?
a. boy should love more. -
b. girl should love more. - 1
c. equal. - 5
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. -
f. regardless - 1
g. un-measurable - 2


2. What's your current situation?
a. boy should love more. - 1
b. girl should love more. -
c. equal. - 2
d. no idea. -
e. love is not important. - 1
f. regardless - 1
g. un-measurable - 2



hope this numbers can be of value for all of us.

ironanimal

Why would you stay with someone who loved you less than you love them? That notion itself is just bizarre to me. Anyway, Equal/Equal for your answer.

Natx83

This is silly, it's unmeasurable.

DrewMaxwell

1. Equal
2. Love is not important. Particularly because my partner has made a point to tell me several times that he doesn't love me even though I haven't asked. So now if he were to tell me, I wouldn't give a *kitten* anymore.

Dump his *kitten*! He doesn't appreciate, respect or deserve you.

xHelloQuincyx

how do you measure love.... seriously.
also love comes in many different ways.

Bahet

Overall - equal, equal. There are times I feel I love him more and times I feel he loves me more but for the most part it's pretty equal. Even then, it depends on what exactly you are looking for in your answers. If you mean showing it through little gestures, thinking about each other throughout the day, feeling affectionate, etc then it varies from day to day as to who loves the other more. If you mean real love where you are just so comfortable together that you fit together, appreciate each other, make the other's happiness a priority, and cannot imagine ever being with someone else then it's pretty equal.

FTR, together 22 years, married 19 years.

erinkeely4

I remember my mum saying to me a woman should always makes sure she marrys a man that loves her more than she loves him. The reason shegave was the man will always do more.

Wow, sorry, but that is so manipulative and heartless.

calvert6183

In my world, I like to think its equal. If its not equal then it will end, it will end. People today will not stay together if one is unhappy. It seems people date for the wrong reasons today. Men date for sex or fear of being alone and women date for attention or they are bored. It seems noone in their 20s and 30s dates for love anymore. I miss the days when two people met and wow, there was just chemistry and they fell in love and no cheating or breaking up. Also, people over think things in dating or relationships, guys and girls, you will never have the answers and its stupid to over think and talk yourself out of a good thing, it happens alot.

Just sit back and enjoy spending time with someone you like and see where it goes. I dont mean date 50 people while dating one person but get to know him or her and it will either work out of not. Be patient, and enjoy. You are asking the wrong question anyways, ask yourself are you happy and your needs being met. Also last thing, I see this in every thread, women, this is not how it works, men should not be the ones having to impress you and win you over, it should be both parties trying to win each other over so stop it. Also people, put your darn phone up while on dates, you are not a doctor.

osualex

??? What? Ideally it should be equal but usually one person loves another a little bit more, even if it is just a little bit, and who loves who more can change over the course of a relationship.

Plus this also assumes only heterosexual couples face this? What about LGBT couples? Is this some sort of research topic for school? I'm not sure I understand this...