One hurtful comment was all it took

iCupCakeNZ

Hey MFP users

Okay so I've been a member since December last year but have only recently started toget my A into G,
My Current weight is 97.2kg (214lbl) and my GW is 60kg but my UGW would be 55kg (121lbl) I'm 5ft'2 and twenty years old and I want to know how I can really shred these pounds because I'm at the stage in life where I'm
So unhappy that I can't even look in the mirror, I shower in the dark just so I don't have to look at my self and be grossed out. I know it won't happen over night but I am willing to put the mileage in to get my goal
Weight. And after recent comments from a rather hurtful person in my class I really want to show her!
What I'm made of and that saying things like "oh you'd have to be blind to take her home" behind my back will be shoved right back at her, so please MFP people, can you help me?

Feel free to add me xø

HelloSweetie4

That girl sounds like a real... well.. I can't say it on here :grumble:

Feel free to add me! I will help you out best I can!

vade43113

blind? I would have to be blind to not, see how lovely you are. It is one thing to no like your current position, it is another to stand still and do nothing about it. You're on the right track,

I am far from perfect, but I will gladly help how I can

iCupCakeNZ

That girl sounds like a real... well.. I can't say it on here :grumble:

Feel free to add me! I will help you out best I can!

I know what you mean, worse part is she's 45... And thank you xø Ill add you now

Susabelle64

You can do anything you set your mind to! And the awful comment? what a wretched person!!! Head up, chest out, walk tall and take it one day at a time. Do this the smart way and you will get to your goal!

P.S. You are beautiful.

KetoBella

Sometimes getting mad is the thing that gets you motivated. Mostly it is getting happy that will keep you motivated. Challenge yourself to take this opportunity to re-educate yourself and to practise new habits. You can begin by promising yourself you will track your meals and snacks even if you don't like that they didn't end up being perfect. You will learn from each day and you will be aware of things you can do better.

We are all going through the same process, this is a community that will inspire and support you. Welcome.

Reinventing_Me

My first thing to say is to do it for you, not her. Show yourself what you are made of. The first thing you need to change is your mindset. Shower with the lights on. Look in the mirror past the weight and see your positives. Start each day noticing something good about yourself. Remember to take it slow and enjoy every new strength, goal and non-scale victory you have along the way.

Lastly, the girl sounds like an idiot and no matter how much weight you lose she is still going to be an idiot. She'll always have a comment. That's why I say do it for you.

Sharmender

I'm sorry that that happened to you. But take this energy and put it in losing that weight!
I had a bad experience what made me lose weight too. But now I've reached my goal weight I'm glad it happened.
Good luck

cyndispot

There are people in the world who bring themselves up by on the backs of others. And the thing is as long as we stay bent over they can keep climbing. But once you stand up - for you and on your own - then they can't climb anymore and they start falling. People see them for their true colors because you and your colors are no longer in their shadow.

So turn on the lights and if the mirror is there it's not going to judge you. And take a good look because as you learn to stand taller - you will want to notice the changes that your body is going through. I started losing when i hit 245 and now that I'm at 196, I'm glad I know where I started and that I can see those differences. Sometimes those are the things that keep me going when I'm having a rough day.

If you are still interested in friends, let me know. I would be happy to help you as much as I can.

ashlinmarie

I'm here for you if you need any support!

helenmc40

You can and will do this. Not to shove back in her face, but so you can stand tall and know that you yourself did this!! Then you can shove it in her face and maybe shove her too!!!

Exercise, start walking more and track your food. Feel free to add me if you are looking for friends.

And one last thing, don't listen to her. Start believing in yourself and amazing things will happen!!

zml_mom

i'm sorry someone would say hurtful things like that-

you can do this, it just takes time- it took me just under a year to loose 110 lbs and another 6 months after that to loose another 13

my goal weight was 160 (from 270) and I am currently 147

coraliethomas

Girl! I joined for the saaaame reason! Christmas dinner we were all sitting around the dining room table and enjoying a good dinner, I asked for the mashed potatoes to be handed to me, and my mother in law said "Dont pass them to her, that chair is about to crack as it is..."

And that was it.... my inner "Oh hell no, I'll show you" was awoken. If you need a friend, hit my up with an invite!

DrJackson6

I think you are trying to lose weight for the wrong reason. You can not and I repeat can not lose weight for anyone else or to show anyone else. You have to lose this weight for you. The person who said that obviously has some self esteem issues of her own and is making herself feel better by making you feel worse. You have some options: Standup to her or ignore her. Either way you can only lose weight for you.

I say forget her and focus on getting your mentally together. You can do this, but like I said, it has to be for you and only you. You need to become mentally strong because fat or skinny she will continue to pick on you until you stand up to her.

Now, pray about it, get yourself together, and finally do it for you! You can do it!!!

HotAshMess

Use your anger to motivate you!!!!

And you know...I used to let people saying hurtful things as an excuse to be sad and depressed and eat something rich and fatty and delicious. But I'm going to tell you something that took me a long time to learn....you've gotta learn to let the hurtful things that people say go, slide off you like water off a duck's back, because if you let it bother you and eat at you....you're letting it punish you, you're letting it preside over you and YOU ARE GIVING THAT PERSON POWER! And I guarantee you, the person who said it...isn't letting it bother them at all. Chances are, you don't even care about this person, why would you care about what they say, do or think if you don't care about them?

Add me if you would like. Hang in there. Use your anger to motivate you. This is a great place to be!

bjohs

People like that have their own demons and image issues. She's just projecting her own insecurities on to a defenseless person. While it's great to have a motivator to get healthy... you really need to do this for yourself and no one else! Good luck!

brandimacleod

Wow! What a horrible girl. Ok. A few things...

1. Never, ever be a meany like that. Sometimes getting our feelings hurt makes us a kinder, more compassionate person, and that is a GOOD thing! So make that the gift her cruelty gave you. Besides...karma has a way of handling jerks like her.

2. Turn on the lights! You are a beautiful person! We are ALL beautiful people. (Well, except for the girl in #1...) because beauty is something that starts inside and works its way out. Beauty isnt a certain kind of nose, or color hair, or size chest, beauty is all of you, your strenghts, your flaws and your quirks.

3. If you want to lose weight FOR YOU, then just do it. Log your food, exercise, and drink water. There is no magic formula really. I have a LOT of weight still to lose, and been losing now almost a year. I can tell you gains happen, bad meals happen, life happens. You just have to not quit.

4. Eat lots and lots of fresh fruit and veggies. If you focus on eating 9 servings a day (which is a struggle for me I admit, but its fun to try) you will be so focused on what you need to eat, and how much, and you wont notice what you aren't eating, which is fast food and processed food. For example, plan your fruit and veggies first with each meal, then add carbs and protein. Make it a game.

5. Get a heart rate monitor to monitor your burns accurately. MFP settings are often wonky with what they claim for burns. If you cant get one, just dont eat your exercise calories back!

6. Give yourself a reward for every short goal met. I measure by lbs, and every 10 lbs I give myself a non-food reward. (Stop thinking of food as a reward btw - cake and cookies are not "attagirls" they are "fattagirls" I always say!) My rewards are new shoes (I am a shoe freak!) or a pedicure, or music downloads...just nice positive rewards.

7. I know I am older than you...but feel free to add me if you want. I will be happy to help you with your meal planning and diary if you want!

Have a great day...and remember...Karma will get that girl.

Brandi

goddamnelectric

What a #*%@! (Fill that in however you like) Those comments stick with you FOREVER! I had an ex boyfriend in high school tell me I was "plump." My first thought was "you mean like a chicken is supposed to be?!"
Anyway, anger is a great motivation. I always have my best runs when I'm pissed. And if you need more support, feel free to add!

tabulator32

First of all, if that's you in the avatar, then I agree with several others in this thread that you're beautiful and the freak in your class that insulted you has one or more of any number of mental issues.

Now, why are you taking to heart the words of an idiot?

If that type of interaction were to evoke any emotion, I would think it would be sympathy for the stupid wanker making 3rd-grade-mentality comments concerning someone about which she knows nothing.

Puh-lease!

Have a great day and keep the momentum.

Hang in there with the grown ups and ignore the spattering of children's tantrums.

42kgirl

I have to admit, seeing the look of envy on the girl who has always been a beyotch to me was beyond satisfying. My rational mind knows I shouldn't care because she is just an awful person on so many levels. However, I really enjoyed my suck on this moment with her!

migoi357

So, if I walked up to you while you were wearing a blue shirt and said "Nice red shirt you have on.", would your shirt turn red or would you believe me? Probably not. You would correctly observe that I possibly had some type of mental condition and start looking around for my keeper. Same thing applies to the dipstick in your class. When an untruth is uttered it doesn't magically become true...it's still an untruth. She's just a magpie chattering at the window. Do this for you...you're worth every bit of effort you make in getting to where you want to be.