Why can't I get back on track? Need a butt kicking

butterflylover527

I don't know what's been up with me!! I keep using "last day of school" and "graduation day" and "open houses" and "lack of grocery shopping" as excuses for a cheat day. And I've had about 7 cheat days in the past 2 weeks. More like binge days. I haven't lost any weight in about 3 months cause I lost my will power and dedication. I know I want this but I guess if I don't see immediate results I just say screw it.

I've been dieting (yes, dieting, not "new lifestyle choice") since January 1 and I've lost 17 pounds. I know that's not bad but I guess I'm just bored of it all. I was on this journey with some family and friends who have all dropped out so even though I have my MFP friends I feel alone. So many temptations.

So if anyone has any words of encouragement or "straight to the point butt kickings" I'm listening!!!

butterflylover527

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tdotali

First of all, 17lbs is not easy feat! So that's awesome

Here's a couple of options that may help...
1) make a pro/con list....what are the pros and cons changing vs not changing - it helps me put things into perspective.

2) you can't expect motivation to last, cause it never does...you have to be committed to make the change

3) find the source of the binge...is it just boredom or is it more...hormones, stress, sadness anger? Find the source, ackwowledge the feeling and FEEL the discomfort - all a binge is is your minds way of masking discomfort. So feel the temporary discomfort, cause that's all it is....temporary discomfort. I know it's not pleasent but it will pass....Don't give into the desire to cover it, cause you know how you'll feel in the end - guilty and bloated.

4) accept the fact that doing this properly is going to take time - if it was easy we'd all be prancing around in our bikinis lol. It takes dedication and work, but the results are sooooo worth it, and you know it

butterflylover527

First of all, 17lbs is not easy feat! So that's awesome

Here's a couple of options that may help...
1) make a pro/con list....what are the pros and cons changing vs not changing - it helps me put things into perspective.

2) you can't expect motivation to last, cause it never does...you have to be committed to make the change

3) find the source of the binge...is it just boredom or is it more...hormones, stress, sadness anger? Find the source, ackwowledge the feeling and FEEL the discomfort - all a binge is is your minds way of masking discomfort. So feel the temporary discomfort, cause that's all it is....temporary discomfort. I know it's not pleasent but it will pass....Don't give into the desire to cover it, cause you know how you'll feel in the end - guilty and bloated.

4) accept the fact that doing this properly is going to take time - if it was easy we'd all be prancing around in our bikinis lol. It takes dedication and work, but the results are sooooo worth it, and you know it

I like it thanks!

sjackson7707

I don't really have any words of advice because I am in the same boat... I went strong for 5 months and lost 66lbs but since Mothers Day Weekend I can't get back on track...my husband planned me a weekend get away for my mothers day/ bday present and having 5 days of eating whatever I wanted to really messed with my mind...I think part of my problem is I lost a lot of my support too... I had serveral friends using MFP and they all quit except a few... maybe we can add each other to help motivate us to get back on track ?

Ironman2be

butt kicking would reference violence and that is against the rules. I'm offended by this.....

KristysLosing

I don't really have any words of advice because I am in the same boat... I went strong for 5 months and lost 66lbs but since Mothers Day Weekend I can't get back on track...my husband planned me a weekend get away for my mothers day/ bday present and having 5 days of eating whatever I wanted to really messed with my mind...I think part of my problem is I lost a lot of my support too... I had serveral friends using MFP and they all quit except a few... maybe we can add each other to help motivate us to get back on track ?

Count me in here too. We remodeled our kitchen and ate out a lot for a few weeks. Since then, I've lost all ambition. I was doing so well!!!

westdove

You dont need a butt kicking, but to remember why you want to loose. How bad do you want to loose? Think about your goals and what it will take to get there

brattyworm

I've been dieting (yes, dieting, not "new lifestyle choice")

maybe you should make it a life style change instead of a diet. would be more of a challenge to be able to dial your eating in properly (nutrition classes would probably help)

and setting an exercise routine. Something you do daily, mix it up with the exercises if you want but make it same time every day. party of your daily things that you do like shower, brush teeth and stuff

Nailrep

I believe that when you cross over and begin your old ways of eating, a PHYSICAL addiction to the carbs, fat, sugars, fats, etc that make us overweight sucks us back to the dark side. Kind of like a drug or alcohol addiction, if you fall off the wagon, it is exceedingly difficult to go back to doing the right thing.

Get a plan together now and remember what made you want to get healthy to begin with. Greatest of luck to you.

egmmacandcheese

Hey I've been there! where your like it doesn't matter anymore and you give up on your self but don't! do you want to look in the mirror and feel proud and like you've really taken control of your life or do you want to think "ugh i need to loose weight still but there's always tomorrow..." Get your self together and get on track! Add me and I will help! K have a good day )

poodlelaise

My advice is to stop the dieting. Figure out what it will take to maintain your current weight, and make it a lifestyle change instead of a diet. Once you are comfortable maintaining, and believe you are ready to make it a long term change, then go back to trying to lose when you are ready.

If it is just a diet, its not something you will do forever.

Jbarbo01

If you want some tough love, when youve made the decision to lose weight you don't need a "butt kicking" from us. A graduation party or a bridal shower is not an excuse, in fact there is never a good excuse. If you want something bad enough, you'll find a way to get it period. I would examine your motivation, if YOU want this even if everyone arounds you quit you will push on. I struggled for years with making excuses and only until I found the motivation to want to lose weight did I actually start doing it. I don't make excuses anymore because I dont want to have anything derail my efforts. When you find the right reasons to make you want to do this, your willpower will come easy. I would first take a hard look at why you want to lose weight and if you really want to put it in the effort for those reasons.

mamaomefo

One idea may be to start out with a week of just exercising in small increments, no calorie cut. The exercise will help get you in a better mood/mindset. Forget the eating correctly the first week so you can focus on changing your view of yourself. Exercise will definitely help with this if you do it every day. Remember, small changes to start with. Hope this helps. Add me if you want to.

kathyc727

Same boat here...I feel like I need a drill sergeant to follow me around anymore, been in a slump since mid April.

bonjour24

I think everyone loses their mojo at some point. i know mine's been gone for about a month. i've been thinking about doing stuff, make an effort, then something happens and it turns to custard.

but the thing that makes us all successful is not giving up. it's getting back on the wagon when we fall off. today i ran again, and now i feel so much better for doing it.

someone else said this, but you do need to remember why you want this. you need to remember why the goal you had is important to you. you need to light your own fire and keep it lit, because nobody else can do it for you.

and as far as being on a diet goes- why are you doing that? that goes against everything mfp is about. i've lost 30kgs. i've lost it slowly and safely. i've carried on eating chocolate and chips, but learned so much about how to keep things in proportion and control. now i can enjoy food, rather than just stuff it into my face and barely taste it. i know how hard it is to ban stuff from your diet, and to live like that would be awful.

good luck with it- i hope you find your motivation.

jadedone

Make one change a week. Every week or 2.

Eat 2 servings of veggies at dinner
Have a healthy breakfast
Exercise every other day
Drink 2 extra glasses of water per day

Whatever woks for you. Master each one, every week and you'll be on way to a healthier lifestyle.

Robin_Bin

This is part of why I don't like what some people call "cheat" days. It's not a temporary game or "diet". It's your life. You may choose to incorporate a certain amount of flexibility. You may make mistakes. But you can't really cheat your body; it knows how much you ate, exercised, etc. If the partying and eating you did was within the flexibility you allow yourself, then you're fine. If it wasn't, who are you cheating? Yourself? In that case it was a mistake, try not to make it again.

SPNLuver83

giiirrrrlll how bad do you want it?!?! GET IT!!! GET IT!!!!! lol

Adsnwfld

I've fallen off the wagon badly twice in the last few years. Never got to my original weight, but I got close. and I always wonder what if.

Get back at it, you are worth it. Anyone can be overweight, it requires no effort, no dedication. But only you can be the person who you want to be, no one can do it for you. You have to do it yourself. We can encourage you but in the end it is you.

DON'T LET YOURSELF DOWN!!!

You can do it!!!

lauristewart

That is all it is....excuses. Why make excuses? Do you not really want to be fit and healthy? And why are you dieting? Why are you not trying to find healthy foods you like and incorporate them in your daily routine instead of foods that cause you to feel bad about yourself, make you overweight and make you say, I can never eat that again.....it isn't true. You can fit a small piece of cake in your diet. Just eat protein and veggies the rest of the day. Do you hear the negativiity in your voice when you talk to yourself? Why beat yourself up and bring guilt and shame into your thoughts of food? Just stop it! Take it one day at a time....plan your days in advance. Carry healthy snacks with you. Makes NO EXCUSES on why or how you can go off of eating healthy!! Track your food and find healthy food you enjoy.....take it day by day and it will be habitual....no more excuses!!

LindaSueBakk

We all have our ups and downs - I'm mostly down lately, but I haven't given up. Accept the bad days, just try to make sure the good days start coming more often! Let's start with tomorrow. Get up and have a health breakfast, eat a simple lunch and dinner and have a couple of pieces of fruit for snacks. Drink at least eight glasses of water - no soda. I'll do the same, now that it's in writing! Best wishes. You - we - can do this!!!

jessmars

Im in the same boat.....ill hit a down point in my journey. But I think that fact that you recognized that you "fell off the wagon" and need to get back on in a good starting point and asking for help here is another good sign. I like the idea of just getting back into exercising and forgetting the calorie cut for a week and then working in a new goal each week.

I just signed myself up for bootcamp twice a week.....hoping this helps to get me back on track. Add me as a friend if you like.

jlong7774

I have hit bumps along the way and it is easy to slack off and lose your focus. If you stay with it you will see the benefit and reward. What you are doing is not easy but it is worth it. Sometimes the gratification happens in small ways. Since I have lost weight my three nieces have started to change their lives and lose weight. What I didn't realize until my niece tole me I was a source of motivation for my nieces to make a change and lose weight. Small victories go a long way towards your motivation.

OSC_ESD

~ Listen up ... Do you remember how good it felt when you were losing the weight ??? Do you remember how good that feeling was after a hard workout ??? Do you remember how good it feels when somebody notices your progress ???

Or ...

Do you like feeling defeated, tired, exhausted ... feeling like you can eat or do anything you want cause it doesn't matter ????

When you choose to be healthy ... your choosing a life style ... one that will not only help you get into shape ... but one that can eventually save your life. All the excuses in the book won't be the savoir in the end.

You have to decide if what you want is to be healthy ... forget all those people who gave up ! It is better to walk alone ... than to ever sit in a pile of self pity with a group of people whom all decided it wasn't worth it.

The time is now .... get up and get moving ! You have no idea how good life can be until you start living it ! Don't think of this as a challenge ... think of it as a reward !

You got this ! Just do it !

Sending you every ounce of hope I have ... I hope you get back on track ! :flowerforyou:

divinebird

Try to find someone to exercise with you. I have a friend who is also doing MFP (Tilinka, and she's awesome) and we keep each other motivated. We just set up a standing date to meet at a local bike/walk path every morning for a walk together. I would NEVER do it on my own; having a friend with me makes all the difference.

We will cheer you on from the Internets but I do believe there's nothing better than finding someone in real life to help keep you going. Maybe check the local forums for your state and/or town; I know there seem to be MFPers everywhere!

And to add to the chorus--make this a lifestyle change. Even when (not if) you reach your goal, you need to stay there, right? Look at this as a change in how you view food and fitness. It's not a 'program', it's your life! Go go go for it!

butterflylover527

butt kicking would reference violence and that is against the rules. I'm offended by this.....

And you ticker has a picture of a knife =P

butterflylover527

You have all really helped! I've said this before, but I get motivated really late at night (like now, midnight) and it usually wears out. Hoping motivation is still there in the morning. Already have a day planned of eating healthy, biking, and mowing (depending on the weather)

Thank you all!

woodsygirl

I've fallen off the wagon badly twice in the last few years. Never got to my original weight, but I got close. and I always wonder what if.

Get back at it, you are worth it. Anyone can be overweight, it requires no effort, no dedication. But only you can be the person who you want to be, no one can do it for you. You have to do it yourself. We can encourage you but in the end it is you.

DON'T LET YOURSELF DOWN!!!

You can do it!!!

Thank you! I have been in dire need of motivation myself and this post really clicked for me. Thanks for posting!

YoshiZelda

~ Listen up ... Do you remember how good it felt when you were losing the weight ??? Do you remember how good that feeling was after a hard workout ??? Do you remember how good it feels when somebody notices your progress ???

Or ...

Do you like feeling defeated, tired, exhausted ... feeling like you can eat or do anything you want cause it doesn't matter ????

When you choose to be healthy ... your choosing a life style ... one that will not only help you get into shape ... but one that can eventually save your life. All the excuses in the book won't be the savoir in the end.

You have to decide if what you want is to be healthy ... forget all those people who gave up ! It is better to walk alone ... than to ever sit in a pile of self pity with a group of people whom all decided it wasn't worth it.

The time is now .... get up and get moving ! You have no idea how good life can be until you start living it ! Don't think of this as a challenge ... think of it as a reward !

You got this ! Just do it !

Sending you every ounce of hope I have ... I hope you get back on track ! :flowerforyou:

Well said, And very encouraging to help me also stay on track. Thanks for posting this!

lesita75

One of the things you have to remember is your reason for wanting to lose weight. Is it just to be skinny or is it to be healthy? Is it because someone else said that you should or is it because it's for you? I've been on this roller coster for many years. I've struggled with my weight since I was 10 years old. I've lost and gained, lost and gained, lost and gained. It was never for me though. It was always because other people said I should. My mom said I was fat...so I lost weight then gained it back plus extra, the Air Force and Army said you're getting too fat....so I lost weight then gained it back plus extra , my husband said fat isn't attractive....so I lost weight then gained it back plus extra . Then I said I'm not healthy, I'm tired, I'm sluggish, and I don't feel good in my own skin. That is when it all changed. It has to be be about you first. When you change your mind and the reason why you are doing it the rest will follow. You just have to be in it for the right reason. You can do it, you a very capable. I have confidence that you can do WHATEVER you put your mind to!!! :flowerforyou: