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My girlfriend :(

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  • vfnmoody
    vfnmoody Posts: 271 Member
    Whats her number?
  • FitLink
    FitLink Posts: 1,317 Member
    If you go through life never doing the things that someone else MIGHT be able to do better, you're never going to get anywhere. If you really want this, take a look at what those differences would be and make up for them. Learn the culture. Take her there. Be as good to her as that potential Indonesian guy would be. Go make life what you want it to be.

    Agreed. In fact, in almost everything almost everyone can be pretty sure SOMEONE, SOMEWHERE can do anything they plan to do better than they can. That really doesn't seem like a good reason not to do something, unless you never plan to do anything.
  • rgrange
    rgrange Posts: 236 Member
    What are you 14? Lol'd heartily at the OP.
  • jerzypeach
    jerzypeach Posts: 176 Member
    I also don't buy that he has low self esteem. If it was a self esteem issue it would have bothered him from the beginning. Its more like OP is kind of a jerk but he's trying to be nice about it.

    Well now that's even more annoying. OP, man up to the fact that you're a jerk and move on. Acting like a p*ssy is no more flattering than being a d*ck.

    In addition....all his talk about her being Asian too and how she should be with an Asian guy and not him because he's English.......I detect the faint stench of racism...... :grumble:
    Oh god you guys! Please!!! Be nice! He is asking for advice. Think about it. Re-read his post. He loves her, and is looking for advice, not criticism!

    I would have had more respect for him if he had said that maybe she'd be better off with a different guy....full stop. Sure.....he'd still look like an insecure pansy to me, but the minute he brought up the English vs Asian thing, he lost my sympathy. It doesn't matter what the person's origin is.....if you really love them and really want it to succeed.....you do whatever work it takes. He's copping out with the English vs Asian thing and that really frosts me.
  • Natty0506
    Natty0506 Posts: 103 Member
    I was born and raised in Hawaii, and moved to the east coast of the US as a teenager. I'm now 27 and miss home like CRAZY. That doesn't mean I don't love my husband or the family we have together. We're now considering moving back to Hawaii so that I can be happy. Relationships take compromise. Good luck!
  • BeckiCharlotte13x
    BeckiCharlotte13x Posts: 259 Member
    Talk to her about it, but not in a way which makes you sound needy, that is not attractive.

    But, diversity is a good thing. Widen your knowledge on her culture but no need to go over board.
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