Had To Turn Away An Old Friend Because . . .

OnlyICanDoIt

If you want to lose it FAST, and by fast I mean 4 months or so...I would decrease your calorie intake and exercise.

I was able to lose 40 pounds in that time period starving myself and exercising 3 hours a day 5 days a week, but I gotta tell you that most of it came back after I stopped exercising due to an injury.

Do you want to do it the healthy way or the fast way? Your average weight loss should be 1/2 to 2 lbs per week.

Personally, I would just tell him the truth and see what he says. He might not care! My husband was and still is a chubby chaser, so those guys exist!!

SwimTheButterfly

That is sad, that person obviously cared enough to seek you out. I can relate though. People gossip. You didn't want it to get around that you are fat and out of shape. You have a group of friends and everyone knows that often friends give updates to other friends about how OTHERS are doing. I guess I have found that sometimes people are kind and supportive when your life and health are going down the drain. Isolating yourself is not healthy.

FEAR is a major handicap. I had to get over that tendency. You don't know what people are going to do or say before you experience it. Don't push people away. I am finding that gossip works both ways...as you lose weight and get stronger..you are going to want to share your success with people who seek you out and want to know you.

People are always going to come and go in your life. If it is meant to be , perhaps you will connect with your friend again. Good stuff and good people are all around you. Focus on the future~as wise GlenBabe advised~your life is NOW. :flowerforyou:

Peschuntz

I sincerely want to thank everyone for these thoughtful and caring responses. Not only did you give me some great ideas, but it was rewarding seeing all the weight that you lost and your thoughts. So easy to be self-critical, and as you know, we are typically harder on ourselves than anyone else is. Thank you again; I fell off of the wagon and this web site for a bit, and forgot how supportive members can be. Here's to your good health! :drinker: :flowerforyou:

leslturn8

Hi, im like you! Just noone wants to meet me hahahahahhaha
I invested in a product called P90X and i hope to do that, but i can tell you i lost 21 kilos from portioning my food which in majority is bad, i walked an hour every day and wellah!
I think you should do a workout that works for you, 30 day shred bored me on day 3 and i started it 4 times......
P90X is an awesome one but doing it will get boring 2-3-4 weeks as it repeats week one 4 times, but thats my issue i get bored and quit!:sad:
Good luck!