I've figured out why I can't lose weight.

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  • fontinathefox
    fontinathefox Posts: 124 Member
    need not to blame anyone or days those were gone... now days are in your hand... you have to feel good about yourself and respect yourself... once this is in mind, it gives enough motivation to respect your body...

    Sadly this is easier said than done for a lot of people - for me it's needed counselling, and I still struggle sometimes.
  • winninga
    winninga Posts: 77 Member
    Parents always think their kids could be little more better and keep on expecting more and more... I had the same situation here... Now at my age... beyond all the influence of my mom... I started taking responsibility of my self... We are grown ups... it is always think that 'YOU ARE JUST YOU'... need not to blame anyone or days those were gone... now days are in your hand... you have to feel good about yourself and respect yourself... once this is in mind, it gives enough motivation to respect your body... not to just throw the food inside like a garbage can...
    Now I have a 2 yr daughter, I don't want to tell her anything orally, but set myself as a good example... eat healthy food, stay active... I am not going to criticize her... instead I will try to advice her if she is ready to take...

    I think you hit the nail right on the head with this one. You need to have that moment where you realize that you need to live your life for you, that you are responsible for your own destiny, and that parents will always be critical. I had a talk with my daughter who is 9. I told her that it's important to make good choices when it comes to her health. I did used myself as an example of how it's harder at my age, and after I put on over 100lbs to lose the weight. I've encouraged her to be active in sports, and to choose healthy options when it comes to food. I think we have a great relationship. She's my best friend, and the best shopping buddy I've ever had. We go to the Y three days a week together for Family Zumba and swimming. I don't want her to have the problems that I've had throughout my life, and I'm trying the most positive approach that I can think of.
  • Guisma
    Guisma Posts: 215
    Parents bring us up, and gaves us the genes, so its just normal that we put some blames on our personalitys and choises on them...But, we can´t think of them as the only ones that educate us when there is an entire society that also did. Its very interesting to hear both sides of the opinions expressed here :)
  • Guisma
    Guisma Posts: 215
    Parents bring us up, and gaves us the genes, so its just normal that we put some blames on our personalitys and choises on them...But, we can´t think of them as the only ones that educate us when there is an entire society that also did. Its very interesting to hear both sides of the opinions expressed here :)


    Brought us up * and sorry for other misspellings
  • irenegalea
    irenegalea Posts: 24
    True, there is a whole society that influences us, but in reality no one influences us more than our parents. I've matured and grown enough to not care about society's expectations of me, because society's full of different people with different values and backgrounds. But my mother is the person who loved me and took care of me. She was my role model growing up, she helped me grow from a baby into a girl, into a woman. I am aware of how society influenced me as well. But detatching yourself from your mother (or father) is an incredibly difficult task which needs to be done at some point in our lives.


    I'm surprised so many people are going through the same situation. I'm glad I brought this up on MFP. You're all so supportive, and I hope this helps other people to become aware of their influences

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