Should I say something to this chick!?

saracatherine89

Let me explain this situation (names have been changed! Lol)

My boyfriend has been friends with a guy named Peter* for a few years. Peter has been dating this girl Sally* for almost 6 years. Throughout their entire relationship, Peter and Sally have basically been in a long distance relationship due to college, graduate school, etc, although they are from the same hometown. Peter has been unfaithful to Sally on numerous occasions. Sally recently graduated school and moved in with Peter. After about a month of living together, Sally discovered that Peter had been unfaithful to her about a week before she moved in with him. She broke up with him and moved out within the week. Sally and I were never good friends, but we did frequently socialize with Peter and Sally over the past few years, so I did feel bad when they broke up since I kind of knew what had been going on (to some extent) and because I felt she did deserve better even though Peter and I get along great as well.

A few months later, Sally started this very Carrie Bradshaw-esque dating blog about her new single life living in a big city and her experiences using an online dating website. She showed me a link to the blog and told me to keep it a secret from Peter and from my boyfriend- which I did. It's completely public, and she talks in 'code names', but if you knew her you would be able to pretty easily tell it was her just from inference. She does go into pretty graphic detail about some of her dating experiences. It's not completely horrible, but it could lead to some pretty embarrassing things for her if the wrong people read it.

My boyfriend informed me the other night that Peter knew about the blog and read it regularly. My first instinct was to message Sally and let her know that Peter and his friends have read her blog, but I didn't want to meddle and the damage was already done. My boyfriend also thinks that she wrote it because she was 'begging' for Peter to find it to see she is happy without him. I don't think that's the case- I think she was genuinely trying to keep it private and that it accidentally fell into the wrong hands.

Sally and I still talk on occasion, and I just found out that Peter reads her blog last week. I wanted to tell her that her blog may be being read by the wrong people before she posts anything else that could potentially be incriminating, but I decided against it. I just feel like I might owe it to her to let her know she is being ridiculed by Peter, my boyfriend and her friends.

What would you do????

_the_feniks_

First, you should share the blog address with everybody. Second, you should tell her. She trusted in you enough to show you her blog. besides, what do you gain from hiding the fact "Peter" knows about from her?

moran1917

I tend to stay out of situations like these. It is not my business what this woman writes online or why she is doing it. That being said, if I was out with Sally and she asked I would not lie.

saracatherine89

First, you should share the blog address with everybody. Second, you should tell her. She trusted in you enough to show you her blog. besides, what do you gain from hiding the fact "Peter" knows about from her?

I don't feel like I gain anything from hiding it, but I do feel that because I am one of the only people (if not the only) who have been told of the blog by BOTH sides of the 'breakup', it would be pretty obvious that I was the one that told her to shut it down. I don't want Peter to think that he can't trust me as well...he's the one who I still see regularly.

Oliviamarie05

I was told, never post something on the internet you don't want someone else to find.

the internet does not equal privacy. Unfortuantely, this is what happens.

I think you should tell her. That's just me though.

juliecat1

I'm torn too... My nice girl side says do her a solid and just let her know it's been discovered.

But the other side of me thinks that if it was found - she didn't do a good job hiding it. Maybe she does kind if want the drama or attention. So yes,... Blog address por favor.

SCVSarah

First, you should share the blog address with everybody. Second, you should tell her. She trusted in you enough to show you her blog. besides, what do you gain from hiding the fact "Peter" knows about from her?

^This. I couldn't have said it better

jenj1313

Hard to know what her true intentions are. I'd tell her, personally.

MzBug

"Hey Sally.... Peter just told me about this blog xxx@yyyy.... isn't that yours?" Let her know that he is aware of the blog and leave it at that. She is a big girl and is responsible for her own actions. It is her choice to put it all out there on the internet no matter what the cause behind it. She has to know that sooner or later Peter will find out about it, and since he has found out about it, and YOU didn't tell him, SOME ONE did. You shouldn't feel guilty about telling either one of them since both already know.

HellsKells

"Hey Sally.... Peter just told me about this blog xxx@yyyy.... isn't that yours?" Let her know that he is aware of the blog and leave it at that. She is a big girl and is responsible for her own actions. It is her choice to put it all out there on the internet no matter what the cause behind it. She has to know that sooner or later Peter will find out about it, and since he has found out about it, and YOU didn't tell him, SOME ONE did. You shouldn't feel guilty about telling either one of them since both already know.

This sounds like the best approach to me.

saracatherine89

"Hey Sally.... Peter just told me about this blog xxx@yyyy.... isn't that yours?" Let her know that he is aware of the blog and leave it at that. She is a big girl and is responsible for her own actions. It is her choice to put it all out there on the internet no matter what the cause behind it. She has to know that sooner or later Peter will find out about it, and since he has found out about it, and YOU didn't tell him, SOME ONE did. You shouldn't feel guilty about telling either one of them since both already know.

This sounds like the best approach to me.

Thanks for the advice, everyone!

I actually went to look at it and it has been removed. I am guessing that she found out that the boys knew. She seems to be happy in a new relationship, so there's no need for a dating blog anymore on that regard!!

adet983

tell her bloggings for hippies

SexyCook

I would go ahead and tell her....the people she was supposedly hiding it from now know...so no big deal in you saying something now.....But it is free range when you put stuff out there.....