Hubby Needs BIG Reward

frogtoestoo

:happy: Six months ago I started my fitness/weight loss program, and at the same time my hubby of 22 years gave up alcohol (okay, it was ugly, the kids and I basically attacked and gave him an ultimatum). Three months ago he changed jobs and is out of state with one of our two kids still at home. We talk 2-3 times or more daily but have only seen each other twice in the last 3 months (I should be relocating with the other kid within 30 days). So, anyhow, we have made HUGE lifestyle changes and he has been very supportive and encouraging when I make progress and whine about plateaus. Last night he called and said "It's been six months." It took me a minute, but I quickly remembered HIS MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENT. I rewarded myself at 50 lbs with new boots and jacket with his blessing. Any creative ideas for rewarding him? A couple hundred dollars wouldn't be out of the question, but I want something REALLY MEANINGFUL.


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likes2bwet

Take him on a date night weekend away...just the two of you and spend time TOGETHER and celebrate BOTH accomplishments...I could not think of anything more meaningful...rekindle, reconnect the two new you's.... :flowerforyou:

chrissyh

Congrats that's an incedible accomplishment!!!

I like the idea of a weekend away together - does he have a favorite sport - maybe incorporate it into the weekend....like a weekend including tickets to see his fav team..MLB baseball, or nascar or NFL???

herowithinyou

hm....is there something you know of that he's always wanted, or somewhere that he's always wanted to go, where it would be possible to take a weekend trip? The best thing might be to have a "fun" day as soon as possible; get someone to take the kids and do something that you've both wanted to do for a while (for instance, if either of you have ever wanted to go, I dunno, whitewater rafting or something). But most of all, make sure that you tell him how proud you are of him and how amazing you think he is, because that's one of the best gifts he can get. Good luck, wish I could be of more help.

chgudnitz

IMHO, the fact that he reminded you means he did it for you. He wanted you and the kids to be happy, and he was reminding you about what he did for you.

I think he would be happiest (not knowing him at all, lol) knowing how proud you are of him and how much happier you all are because of it.

Again, just my opinion. Tell him congrats from me please.

bates

:happy: Six months ago I started my fitness/weight loss program, and at the same time my hubby of 22 years gave up alcohol (okay, it was ugly, the kids and I basically attacked and gave him an ultimatum). Three months ago he changed jobs and is out of state with one of our two kids still at home. We talk 2-3 times or more daily but have only seen each other twice in the last 3 months (I should be relocating with the other kid within 30 days). So, anyhow, we have made HUGE lifestyle changes and he has been very supportive and encouraging when I make progress and whine about plateaus. Last night he called and said "It's been six months." It took me a minute, but I quickly remembered HIS MAJOR ACCOMPLISHMENT. I rewarded myself at 50 lbs with new boots and jacket with his blessing. Any creative ideas for rewarding him? A couple hundred dollars wouldn't be out of the question, but I want something REALLY MEANINGFUL.


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celebrate with a drink!!! oh wait, never mind. If he is not so much into the weight loss side like you are, potentially a slab of steak? men like that, and not just a cheap ole steak either.

ferraris work too, the whole happier because your happier works, but I would much rather be showered in gifts. Maybe some new tools, men like those too. Craftsmen are always the best choice

frogtoestoo

IMHO, the fact that he reminded you means he did it for you. He wanted you and the kids to be happy, and he was reminding you about what he did for you.

I think he would be happiest (not knowing him at all, lol) knowing how proud you are of him and how much happier you all are because of it.

Again, just my opinion. Tell him congrats from me please.

I think you're absolutely right, I did tell him how much it means to all of us, I just want to do MORE. The weekend away sounds great but not practical at the moment being two states away and new job and all.

jacmiley

When I'm doing something for my bf - I make the whole day is about him. Totally spoil him!
Like tomorrow ...
My boy likes full body massages. So I will do that ...
Then we will head to philly to go to his favorite restaurant (it's a buffet though, but the day is not about me)
The night will end with the Eagles vs Patriots pre-season game for the Patriots is his favorite team.
I might add in Philadelphia Park or tripoly in which he likes to play for money, for he likes the thrill of gambling.
I know my bf and that is what he likes.
You just have to sit down - think about what your husband likes and what he would consider the perfect day/date. Make it all about him - Men like being spoiled.

As for women, we're easy. Clothes and shoes. It so does not work the other way around though.

frogtoestoo

Thanks BATES. Patriots tickets and a 24 oz steak would probably thrill him but being a chef he has steak all the time. Tools. That's a thought. Maybe a nice chain saw - he's been talking about fire wood for the winter!

juliep63

I like the idea of a day devoted to him, but my recommendation would be a watch with the 6-month date engraved on the back... to always remind him how far he's come and how much time (get it? time?) he's devoted to getting your family back to a healthy state.

frogtoestoo

I like the idea of a day devoted to him, but my recommendation would be a watch with the 6-month date engraved on the back... to always remind him how far he's come and how much time (get it? time?) he's devoted to getting your family back to a healthy state.

That's a great idea. The whole problem with the day of spoiling is we're apart right now. I plan to spoil him rotten when we are back together JUST BECAUSE!:blushing:

juliep63

I like the idea of a day devoted to him, but my recommendation would be a watch with the 6-month date engraved on the back... to always remind him how far he's come and how much time (get it? time?) he's devoted to getting your family back to a healthy state.

That's a great idea. The whole problem with the day of spoiling is we're apart right now. I plan to spoil him rotten when we are back together JUST BECAUSE!:blushing:
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You are so sweet. I'm glad things are working out in your life and that you appreciate what you have. I know of several people who aren't as lucky. My congrats to your hubby! :flowerforyou:

Phoenix_Rising

I like the idea of a day devoted to him, but my recommendation would be a watch with the 6-month date engraved on the back... to always remind him how far he's come and how much time (get it? time?) he's devoted to getting your family back to a healthy state.

That's a great idea. The whole problem with the day of spoiling is we're apart right now. I plan to spoil him rotten when we are back together JUST BECAUSE!:blushing:

That idea was so meaningful I wanted to cry!!!

BUT -- is he the kinda guy who appreciates that sorta thing, or is he the kinda guy who won't care? If the latter, grab him some World Series tix instead.

And I have to say, what a great guy to make this change and stick with it. You have every right to be super proud of him!

weaverc

For my husband's birthday, I have decided to get him a tattoo (memorial for his father who passed away when he was 6) and I think he will really love it cause he has wanted it for so long. I know some people aren't into tattoos, but maybe think of something that is more permanent. Something that he can keep with him for always!

jacmiley

I like the watch idea too!
It is sweet and clever. Most guys don't get that concept of sweet and clever though.

Good luck!

Here is an unique concept for a gift
http://www.lightaffection.com/

A picture of the family night light or light is really neat. I got two of these done a few xmas' ago. They are just beautiful.

frogtoestoo

I like the watch idea too!
It is sweet and clever. Most guys don't get that concept of sweet and clever though.

Good luck!

Here is an unique concept for a gift
http://www.lightaffection.com/

A picture of the family night light or light is really neat. I got two of these done a few xmas' ago. They are just beautiful.

Thanks everyone for the ideas. Those lights are SO COOL. I have a great pic of my oldest daughter with my father that just cries out to be one of those. Still kickin' around the watch idea for now and maybe a card in my own words:smooched: