Family Support

BarbBlue

Hi,

I was just wondering if anyone has the same problem I do and how you deal with it? I am doing very well with eating healthy and maintaining my calorie intake. However, my husband seems to have a hard time with this. He seems to really still like all the carbs and fattening things. He needs to lose weight as well. My son is 7 and is not a good eater to begin with, and is so picky.
So what do you all do when you have an issue like this? I make healthy dinners and sometimes my husband doesn't eat it and will either not eat or eat something crappy instead.

I find it incredibly frustrating and would like to know if anyone else deals with this? I don't want this behavior to sabotage all my weight loss efforts.

Thanks!

GasMasterFlash

I've seen this before. My ex-wife would pull these same shenanigans. After checking her text messages, I discovered that she was being unfaithful to me, with a neighbor guy.

Check his text messages.

billsica

Really your going to want to check his web history too.

vim_n_vigor

I've seen this before. My ex-wife would pull these same shenanigans. After checking her text messages, I discovered that she was being unfaithful to me, with a neighbor guy.

Check his text messages.

Or....you could try making healthy recipes that still taste good...

nehushtan

Ignore the jokers above.

Unfortunately you will need to accommodate family members who don't share your goals. I wish everyone had the support I have (my wife is on MFP with me, hurray!) but the sad fact is that only YOU can change YOU and you can't really count on anyone else, including close family members.

Just be the good example and find other support, like friends and forum posters here on MFP, or other friends who want to share experiences, recipes, girls-nights-out etc.

leslisa

How about teriyaki or ponzu chicken with pineapple or oranges on a bed of spaghetti squash for you, boil in the bag rice for him
Or chicken fajitas, without the shell for you, with the shell for him
Or Red sauce and lean red meat with mushrooms over whole wheat pasta or spaghetti squash for you, regular pasta for him

Just a start, but there are tons of things that can be worked into you and him. And the above, if prepared correctly, is still going to be lower in cals and starches than so many other options. Start with the same base and add. I know I have this every day my hubby has dinner with me.

Need more ideas? Let me know and I'll try to "whip up" a list.

BarbBlue

Thanks everyone for the ideas and support.

LizaArg

Lots of people have this problem I'm sure. I think like others have suggested you have to lead by example but don't force YOUR ideas on them, at least not until you have gotten results. Make sense? For now, as others have said, give him the foods he craves and is used to and try your best to stick to your plans. The suggestion to make similar foods is a good one. Try to bridge the gap by making slightly healthier versions for things for yourself. You have to get creative and be very tolerant, and your husband will adapt if you respect his wishes too. When your husband sees you being consistent and looking/feeling good, he may be more interested in joining you.Good luck!!

MFPBrandy

Unless you're going on some crazy diet, what you're preparing should be healthy and tasty, yes? If your husband doesn't want to join you, he can make his own food. You can't force him to see the light, but you don't have to enable him, either. Your child is old enough to learn about healthy eating, although I do understand how challenging kids can be. Just remember, he's not going to let himself starve; he'll eat what you give him eventually, and he'll grow to appreciate it.

lmtrevin77

My friend would still make the same things her husband liked, but she would find healthier ways to prepare them and then she would practice portion control. For example, he loved chili. She replaced the fatty ground beef with turkey breast and made adjustments with the spices for lower sodium. He never knew the difference.

Cat52169

WOW! LOL! I'm sure he isn't cheating. Change is hard. It was probably hard for you to change your way of eating but having your goal made it a little easier. He doesn't have that goal to give him an extra push. I would try making healthier versions of your own recipes. Changing the way you eat completely will be very hard to uphold but eating healthier versions of your recipes is a pretty realistic way to go. Another thing I do in my house is I still make the carbs (potato, rice and pasta) but I eat larger portions of veggies and less of those. Everything will work out:flowerforyou: