Feeling broken.

Shannon2714

I'm not a negative person, but am feeling very down tonight. I have no support in my "real" life. It gets hard some days. I've been crying for the past 15 minutes because I'd give anything to just go out for a drink with some friends...anything. But, all of my friends are scattered around the globe. Normally, I accept that...but, tonight...it sucks.

Sorry, just wanted to share...reach out to others that may feel the same way...know that HERE is a great place when there's no one THERE.

Ready2Rock206

Yep - I know that feeling! My good friends live far away too - only have mild acquaintances in the area here. Sometimes I'd just like to hang with some friends nearby!

sirenap123

I totally feel you tonight. All day I've been feeling alone and sad. When the people you love can't be around it eventually takes a toll.
But we'll be better tomorrow, because we have to be
Maybe you should call a friend just to say "hi" and know you aren't really alone. Just a thought.
Best of luck and hugs

Christine1110

We are here for you....andhave been ther. You can add supportive friends It will help a lot!

Add me : )

ccckwalk

Girl that is why MFP exists!!! My friends all live far away too. I am married and my hubby is awesome so I know I am not in the same boat as you. I am so sorry that you feel alone. You have to meet some people that are close to you. Get out, put yourself out there. I am not so great at doing that but that would be the advice I would tell myself. Hugs and prayers for you!!! I hope your night gets better!
~Corina

itsjustdawn

Probably won't make you feel any better, but I am feeling close to the same. Sitting at home on a Friday night alone. Finally opened a bottle of wine and drank some... while sitting here alone. And I am on vacation this week, too. Sucks. Most of my friends (who do all live nearby) have kids... and most are married or at least in a relationship. Pick an odd wheel, that's me! And I think most of my weight-loss support comes from online - here or a group on FB....

Hey, your ticker looks better than mine!

musicalshadow00

I understand. I've been going through a tough time myself right now. My bestfriend/girlfriend/everything is now 4 hours away when we were roommates and supported each other through everything. It really sucks sometimes when I just need her

I've heard said before that everyone needs to be able to be happy on their own and not defined by another person and I try to remind myself of that all the time. If you can't be happy on your own, how can you be happy when surrounded by people?

Just know that there are always people out there who care

ZoeyRobinson

Hi ShannonShorte,

I am in a similar boat. I have no friends. Seriously, after high school and college nobody kept in touch. Normally I am fine being a loner but I have to admit some days it is difficult. However, with my experiences I know I am better off alone. When I am down I watch my favorite shows like IT Crowd and get put my iPod on and workout the stress.

You are not alone and if you ever feel like venting or chatting feel free to send me a message.

Huge hugs

crazy8ts

No need to be sorry... without a gloomy day or two, we tend to miss how beautiful most days can be. Now, i don't drink, but have been known to make enough of a fool out of myself to force beverages up and through my friend's noses from time to time... so if there's any way I can be of assistance, feel free to give me a shout

dvisser1

I kind of know how that goes too. I've got friends all over the country, but all my friends locally are married (most with kids now) and don't go out. Got tired of being the token single guy in their couples parties, so I'm resigned to just doing my own thing until I stumble across the right woman. And I do mean stumble, I'm clumsy.

redcat17

I know how you feel. My best friends are scattered all over the country. I have a few close by, but it just isn't the same. Which probably explains why I'm on MFP on Friday night. :laugh:

poodlepaws

Same here and sadly I live in the area I grew up but never had any close friends and still don't.

I find my biggest support comes from my internet family and friends who have never met me in person but cheer me on when I need it the most.
I'd love to go out and have a drink with friends but that damn wall I put up in built of steel I guess and I can't let it down.

Pimpmonkey

I'm sorry you are down tonight, and hope that it gets better for you. I don't really do 'friends' in the normal sense that most people do. I have a very close knit core of people that are spread out all over the globe, but nobody "here". I'm a night shifter so that has alot to do with it. Nobody's ever on the same schedule and I don't handle drama well. If you have someone you can call or chat with that is up now, even though it won't totally fix it, sometimes it helps, even if it's just for a minute.

kyomoon

I've been down that road... many... Many... MANY times. Too many... but things get better and although none of us can give you a real hug... at least know there are many of us here who support you.

{{{{{hugs}}}}}

MonicaT1972

Hugs to you!!!

My best friend who happens to be my husband works out of town 10 days on 4 days home. I hate weekends he's away I get so lonely and know what you feel like 100%.

I distract myself with exercise now...used to be food unfortunately. I find I always feel way better after a good workout. Do you have any dvd's you can pop in and do? If not find some on you tube and sweat it out. Trust me it really helps!

shanchamber

Do something nice for yourself. A bubble bath with a glass of champagne, a good book, something along those lines. And write an email to a friend to say how much you miss her and that you'd love to hear back.

vade43113

I know the feeling far to well, I hope and pray your night gets better. *hugs*

Shannon2714

You guys all kick amazing amounts of *kitten*!!

I hate that anyone feels the same way, but hearing it really does make me feel less alone. Thank you so much!

Unfortunately, it is almost midnight here, so working out or making calls are not really options. I'm going to try and get some sleep (again)!

:smooched:

katejkelley

Many of us have felt just as you do tonight. The good thing - it usually passes. I recommend volunteering for an organization - something you're interested in. You'll make friends and have plenty to do. Sometimes the best thing to do to help yourself is to help someone else.

jocewar

You can all come to my place! Sitting here with my kids all bored.

Shannon2714

Many of us have felt just as you do tonight. The good thing - it usually passes. I recommend volunteering for an organization - something you're interested in. You'll make friends and have plenty to do. Sometimes the best thing to do to help yourself is to help someone else.

I have done that....and love it! But, right now, I am working full time 45 minutes away, I am a full time student (will graduate in December with my Bachelors), and have 2 boys that are my whole world and they need me to take care of them when they aren't in school....those things leave very little time for much else...

saragato

I can relate. My last in-person friend I let go two years ago because she had become so self-centered and jealous of what I had she was sabotaging my life. My boyfriend lives 600+ miles away with a job at a theme park so we don't get to talk much. It's very lonely because I can remember the days when every weekend I went to the mall or movies with friends or had sleepovers or long nights on the phone/computer. I never felt alone.

I know it's probably a cliche thing to suggest, but try and find local groups that are in your interests. Like if you enjoy reading, find a book club willing to take members. If you like crafts, find a crafting group. Last summer I took up a drawing class being taught out of a woman's home and I made some friends from the regulars that I keep up with now via FB since I stopped taking the class. It got me out the house, I was in a social situation, and I was doing something I liked. Even if you don't make BFFs from the people, it can really ease that loneliness and give you something to look forward to. Also look up social events you might be interested in.

That aside, keep yourself busy. If your pangs and tears come at night, find something you can do every night to keep your mind off of, well, anything. Get involved in a TV show, do things around the house, read, try to learn something new, walk around the block, so on. Pets are also a good distraction, if you can have them. I have 3 cats so there's always stuff going on and I'll get on the floor and play with them and chase them.

This is something you can change, I promise.

TheChosenOne_

Aww that sucks =/

izzydino

I know the feeling. Hugs to you my friend.

SingeSange

Hey, I totally understand and I've felt that way myself on more than one occassion. Most of my friends are married with children or in relationships and I don't have a boyfriend or anyone to come home to at the end of the day. It gets me down sometimes. I hope you're feeling more like yourself tomorrow. : )

still_crafty

Hey honey I've been there too. Still have some really bad days and nights myself. It'll get better. Being alone sucks. It truely does.

I'm here for ya though.

Kityngirl

We all definitely have those feelings. I almost throw myself into them with gusto having marathons of sappy movies, sad songs, crap that makes me ball like an oversensitive teenager. It is almost therapeutic. Lol. My husband is currently on the other side of the globe so I definitely have to make the nights go quick and the days busy, but it all passes eventually. :flowerforyou:

weighlossforbaby

Don't have "real" friends so my MFP friends are it. My husband tells me he is my best friend but sometimes it's not the same (Don't get me wrong I love my husband to pieces).

hbunting86

Just a thought - have you tried the www.meetup.com site? You can meet some like-minded people there, try new things and hopefully have some fun!

I moved 12000 miles away from my friends and family and this has been a lifesaver for me

Neconilis

I've been there myself on many a night, even if I don't like to admit it at times. The only advice that I can give is that I'm sure it's not as bad as it seems whatever's truly getting to you. Also, even if you don't have any friends physically close that doesn't mean there aren't people in this world who honestly care about you. Yes, it's not the same at times, but you can still talk to us and we can help. We're all here for one another after all

denise4230

I hope you have a better day today. I do know how you feel, all my best friends are still back home in Pittsburgh and our family is scattered around the US. After 13 yrs here, I still only have 1 or 2 friends I count close enough to call and say "hey, let's go catch a movie or a drink" with and they live an hour away. But I have my 2 daughters that I am very close to and that helps.