Rude housemates #2 :(

hbunting86

Well yet more house dramas from me.

Ok: yesterday I text one of my flatmates as every time I buy bread it disappears out of the freezer. He denied it to my face (came bolting down the stairs) saying it wasn't him. I said ok fair enough, maybe I made a mistake.

Fast forward to today - I go in the freezer to defrost one of the ciabatta rolls I bought the other day to make my lunch for work tomorrow. Yesterday there were 4 - lo and behold, today there are 3. AFTER the previous conversation we had yesterday. I KNOW for a fact it's not the other 2 housemates. This guy is broke, which I get we've all been there (or are there, I'm a student) - and I said to him at least ask! It's manners!

Now I don't know what to do. I've confronted him, he denies it, and yet it keeps happening. Also went to get my peanut butter tonight to put in my shake, and what do you know... that was empty too

Ideas?!

Kara_xxx

I feel for you, I really do. I've been there, having to live with other people before I could afford my own place, and them eating your stuff, not cleaning up after themselves, being noisy late at night etc etc etc. It's horrible. Have you thought of trying to find lockable tuppaware containers you can put food in securely?

Hikaru37

Put a lock on your cupboard/freezer drawer? Stick a sly camera aimed at the fridge ro catch him in the act? Then he can't deny it


Or use next loan to buy a mini fridge and keep everything in your room


OR hide the bread and food in an empty Always packet or tampon box or something and tell him you like the pads/tampons to be kept fresh and cool for when you need them, then he shall give that drawer a wide berth!!

It just might work

Kara_xxx

Get "Lunch Locker" code-locked tuppaware. It's the way forward.

No matter how broke he is, he is still a rude, lying thief.

k2charmed4u

Well yet more house dramas from me.

Ok: yesterday I text one of my flatmates as every time I buy bread it disappears out of the freezer. He denied it to my face (came bolting down the stairs) saying it wasn't him. I said ok fair enough, maybe I made a mistake.

Fast forward to today - I go in the freezer to defrost one of the ciabatta rolls I bought the other day to make my lunch for work tomorrow. Yesterday there were 4 - lo and behold, today there are 3. AFTER the previous conversation we had yesterday. I KNOW for a fact it's not the other 2 housemates. This guy is broke, which I get we've all been there (or are there, I'm a student) - and I said to him at least ask! It's manners!

Now I don't know what to do. I've confronted him, he denies it, and yet it keeps happening. Also went to get my peanut butter tonight to put in my shake, and what do you know... that was empty too

Ideas?!

I would go to your nearest charity shop and buy a small fridge freezer and put it in your room. If he's stupid enough to go in there and take your food I'd call a house meeting with everyone and confront him directly infront of the others. If he can't live by the house rules vote to get him out. Been there myself don't take the *kitten*.

Flab2fitfi

My sister had the same problem with her ex house mate. She was not the only one in the shared kitchen and in the end they each had their own cupboard which she locked and they had to put food in the fridge/freezer in lockable boxes.

NettyIOM

Well yet more house dramas from me.

Ok: yesterday I text one of my flatmates as every time I buy bread it disappears out of the freezer. He denied it to my face (came bolting down the stairs) saying it wasn't him. I said ok fair enough, maybe I made a mistake.

Fast forward to today - I go in the freezer to defrost one of the ciabatta rolls I bought the other day to make my lunch for work tomorrow. Yesterday there were 4 - lo and behold, today there are 3. AFTER the previous conversation we had yesterday. I KNOW for a fact it's not the other 2 housemates. This guy is broke, which I get we've all been there (or are there, I'm a student) - and I said to him at least ask! It's manners!

Now I don't know what to do. I've confronted him, he denies it, and yet it keeps happening. Also went to get my peanut butter tonight to put in my shake, and what do you know... that was empty too

Ideas?!

I would go to your nearest charity shop and buy a small fridge freezer and put it in your room. If he's stupid enough to go in there and take your food I'd call a house meeting with everyone and confront him directly infront of the others. If he can't live by the house rules vote to get him out. Been there myself don't take the *kitten*.

I agree with this. Although, getting another fridge/freezer is not going to help with your household electricity bills. If it continues to happen, and you're absolutely sure it's not your other flatmates, then you should have a group meeting and contront him.

1a1a

That sucks, I have a housemate who won't admit he misses the toilet bowl, but at least that doesn't cost me food (don't ever get between me and food).

I think discuss it with the other housemates if there are others, if food keeps disappearing something has to change and you shouldn't have to resort to locking up your food.

SamanthaD23

Nick something from him then deny it. He'll soon stop - you'll find these people are usually the most selfish! LOL

hbunting86

Thanks - I've made the other two aware... one of my housemates said she's noticed her stuff disappearing quickly and thought it was her imagination haha.

Well all us girls are aware now, so that's a good thing. Sad that it's got to that though!

I think we're due a flat meeting with the community manager next week so my housemate says we should bring it up. The irony is this guy isn't a student... he has 3 jobs!

bryonysten

Hi
I assume you label everything so he can't play innocent?
I think the suggestions of everyone else to get lockable storage is great, also label everything in really big letters so that he can't pretend its his should someone else be around. I know people that used to mark the line on the milk in the fridge when I was at university, but I also know people that would have some and then top up to the line with water!!
Its really annoying, but you could also keep all non fridge food in your room too? Not ideal I know, but its difficult with a thief. Lockable cupboards and lockable tupperware sound like the way forward.
Good luck
B

chrishgt4

Are you 100% sure it's not one of the others? If so, how do you know?

Personally I would be buying something that I know they like to steal and putting laxatives in it...then let justice take its course. This also provides you with proof of who it is when they stumble in moaning about a bad stomach...

Kara_xxx

Personally I would be buying something that I know they like to steal and putting laxatives in it...

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

wrecktechno

Yeh I don't understand how you know it's not the other two.
And I also don't get why you texted him instead of asking him face to face, especially if he was only upstairs.

FitBunnyEm

Well yet more house dramas from me.

Ok: yesterday I text one of my flatmates as every time I buy bread it disappears out of the freezer. He denied it to my face (came bolting down the stairs) saying it wasn't him. I said ok fair enough, maybe I made a mistake.

Fast forward to today - I go in the freezer to defrost one of the ciabatta rolls I bought the other day to make my lunch for work tomorrow. Yesterday there were 4 - lo and behold, today there are 3. AFTER the previous conversation we had yesterday. I KNOW for a fact it's not the other 2 housemates. This guy is broke, which I get we've all been there (or are there, I'm a student) - and I said to him at least ask! It's manners!

Now I don't know what to do. I've confronted him, he denies it, and yet it keeps happening. Also went to get my peanut butter tonight to put in my shake, and what do you know... that was empty too

Ideas?!

I would go to your nearest charity shop and buy a small fridge freezer and put it in your room. If he's stupid enough to go in there and take your food I'd call a house meeting with everyone and confront him directly infront of the others. If he can't live by the house rules vote to get him out. Been there myself don't take the *kitten*.

I agree with this. Although, getting another fridge/freezer is not going to help with your household electricity bills. If it continues to happen, and you're absolutely sure it's not your other flatmates, then you should have a group meeting and contront him.

^^^ i agree, if he keeps stealing from you, then he needs to move out its not fair...good luck

kabbit42

Put a post it note in right on top/ in front that says, Seriously? or I Know You Are Eating My Bread, Look At You. I did that with one of my ex housemates and they got so mad they confronted me about it which then I was able to say, but were you going for my food? Of course that wasn't THEIR point but it pushed them over the edge of shame and they stopped. But I get really b*tchy about my stuff with repeat offenders, so that might be too passive aggressive for you.

Squidgeypaws007

Put a load of salt/vinegar/laxatives in the stuff you keep in the cupboards (keep a clean supply) and sit back and watch him deny it after tasting THAT.

dj_chalky

Definitely agree with the laxities idea because you get to kill two birds with one stone, it proves it's him AND he won't be doing it again!

ComicBookGeekGirl

Just set up a spy camera somewhere, and when you record him stealing it, confront him with the others and tell him to get out. If he's stealing your food, he's probably stealing your roommates food too.

Lynn_SD

Get "Lunch Locker" code-locked tuppaware. It's the way forward.

No matter how broke he is, he is still a rude, lying thief.

Where can you buy the Lunch Lockers?
Sounds like a great idea!

amymt10

Can you keep it in your room? Lock your door if necessary.

engodwin

put food coloring in something so his teeth turn green/blue when he eats it then he wont be able to deny it

gecho

I bought a mini fridge to keep in my room, and anything i did mind my roomates taking i put in my locked up room.

btw i had my share. I was in college and between circumstances beyond my control 13 roomates came and went and let me tell you they were ALL DOOZIES!

rmsrws

I feel your pain. I have to resort to putting a lock on my bed room door to keep my stuff from disappearing. I feel like I should be on a reality show for "hoarders". My house guest just wont stay out of my foods I buy specifically for me. I have tried putting my name on items. I have designated a spot in the refrigerator to stay out of.

Now I have a lock on my door, and keep my peanut butter, protein mixes, quality snacks, and anything that does not have to be refrigerated in there. I am now contemplating getting a small mini fridge as well to put in my room!!!

gecho

put food coloring in something so his teeth turn green/blue when he eats it then he wont be able to deny it

wish i had thought of this!:laugh:

hbunting86

Thanks for the suggestions!

I confronted him about it (again) - and all I got was angry denial, and them him turning it round on ME! Saying I should look after my groceries! I know exactly what I buy thanks... and told him that. My friends IRL know what I'm like and love to cook and stuff, so it's more or less guaranteed I have condiments/ingredients to make things taste nice.

The other housemates are keeping an eye on their stuff - this guy has no shame in taking money, food - or borrowing money and not paying it back.

I do really like the laxatives idea though haha... that would teach him once and for all... (besides, I could be really mean and hide the toilet roll, which I ALWAYS end up buying... hahahaha)

1a1a

Have to say, I like the lax idea too if diplomacy fails.

Fun fact, my bf suggested every male in the house drink water coloured with a different coloured food dye so we could identify the mystery piddler on the floor haha

hbunting86

Hahaha