Needing a little help

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nornally, im all about the internal motivation. Dont want to work out? Do it anyway! I only skip workouts when my body needs to rest. But my dad just has a way of knocking the wind out of my sails. Hes the kind of person that, if YOU say something (i.e. Sodium makes you retain water), he has to discredit any validity and call you out, making you not only wrong, but stupid. (you retain water by DRINKING water. Salt has nothing to do with it.) but then HE says it hours later(you need to lay off the pretzels. Theyre high sodium and make you retain water) and its gospel. (where did you learn that? i read it somewhere.) honestly, it isnt even that i want credit, but id enjoy not being made to feel stupid while he becomes a genius by repeating me later. And with diet/exercise, hes trying to get in shape (im super proud, btw). We go to breakfast. He gets eggs, wheat toast, juice, and bacon. Not bad. I get a waffle, coffee, eggs, and hashbrowns (because IHop=cheat meal. Plus i was hungry. Sue me.) instead of remembering that i work out 3 to 4 hours every day and having a (enjoying it while it lasts) fast metabolism (cant most 22 year olds still eat giant waffles without consequence?) he and his wife gawped at me the entire meal, disgusted. I had quit caffiene years ago, but can enjoy a latte without needing my BIGMUGGERJUG (took 60oz of joe and i drank 4 a day). Dad quit a month ago and scoffed at my coffee. all weekend. Needless to say, the 1.5 hour drive home with my fiance was an awkward silence sprinkled with random sniffles and anger. I havent worked out all week, havent managed to hit 1100 calories since saturday (i eat 2500 daily). Im down 9lbs and have lost my hard earned biceps. Im tired, im bummed, and i need someone to drag me out of a rut.

Ariella223

You got this, girl! The whole weekend was not a detraction, not a way to get you down, but an opportunity to recommit-to yourself, to your health and fitness, to not giving a crap what detractors say or do. You can do this! You can get your muscles back, you can drink your coffee, you can have a darn waffle and feel good about it! Screw the naysayers, you know who you are and how to best live your life!

awolf2011

I have learned that you need to try to ignore those who try to make you feel bad and always put their 2 cents in when they can. It is hard since it is family, but you need to just roll past it. Yes, you should be able to have your coffee and waffles when you want it. If I don't eat some of the things that I crave that aren't good for me, I just eat everything else to try to curb those cravings. You will bring yourself back up to where you were. Don't give up just because of 1 weekend!! You can do it....

cari4jc1

I feel for you, I really do. I have learned in the past few months that.....are you ready?....some people are just stupid and ignorant. Even people we love sometimes. Yeah that's a harsh thing to say, but it's true. I have learned this lesson through other non-health/weight issues with people, but the lesson is still the same. Sometimes there is not really an explanation for other peoples behavior...or at least not a good one. I'm in the process of learning to just let people's comments roll off my back and remember that they have no idea what they are talking about most of the time.

Don't let ANYONE or ANYTHING derail you from being successful at this health thing. Stick to what you know and stay true to yourself and screw anyone else who has something to say against it or you. Take a moment and remember WHY you want to be fit and healthy. Is it to please other people? Probably not. It's probably to please yourself and to be healthy for the rest of your life.

And don't feel bad about having a treat once in a while. This isn't a diet where we give up food, it's a lifestyle where we eat healthy a majority of the time and eat a treat every once in a while. It's OK.

I think it's awesome that at 22 you have already made the decision to workout and eat healthy as a lifestyle. It takes many decades for a lot of people to come to that decision so major props to you. Keep doing what you're doing and be happy with your success. Climb back on the wagon and keep going.